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Dating apps lose their luster with college students::undefined
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College is perhaps the easiest time of your life to meet people irl and find a date or two or twenty. No surprise whatsoever that the apps are more regularly used by people who aren’t in a 24/7 social mixer event with thousands of people their same age, education level, and (generally) class.
dont make me more depressed… yes its true social media is really abused by people with no social life… this is why facebook took off, most people on facebook aren’t even in college
And also less likely to be married or in a long term relationship, have a baby momma/daddy or be a hopeless deadbeat who cant keep a job… yet.
It isnt fish in a barrel, its a barrel full of fish.
Yeah, absolutely.
Unless you’re socially awkward and bad at picking up hints.
thats why hints are bad, people should be more direct. time is a wasting. In american culture it is actually considered rude to be too direct, which is part of the problem, that mixed with social anxiety and widespread hate and ignorance.
Yeah, it really is super difficult to put yourself out there if it’s not something you do regularly.
Yeah no doubt. Not saying there’s no reason to be on the apps in college. I’m just saying there’s less and less opportunity for meeting people in person by chance at social events the older you get, and the more your social life includes people from work, married folks, parents, etc.
College is the densest pool of single people with lots of free time you’ll ever experience bar none.
Definitely true. Unfortunately, the irl dating scene in those “dense pools of singles” follow the same pattern as the apps; Everyone keeps wanting and expecting to get the top tier guy/girl, simply ignoring (=swiping left) all others that would probably be a better match and/or have more in common.
sure its callled not giving someone a chance, being quick to judge, the apps tend to make the personalities and behaviors we have more obvious because they make it easier and more efficient to express this, but like others have said some of these apps are challenging to use by design, they want to extract money from you, not get you a date
Then you look for the other person at the party standing there back to the wall looking like a deer in headlights and make friends or at least form a D&D group.
Y’all are going to parties?
The only college parties I’ve been to were those with just my friends and ive learned my lesson about dating friends…
Parties?
You actually don’t get what socially awkward means, do you?
Ive told my daughter “Always be nice to the quiet ones and the weird ones. Be nice and be friendly, the extroverts of the world will be fine on their own.”
You’re a great parent 👍
I mean, if I played PC games (more specifically multiplayer), I could definitely see myself attending LAN party. That’s the only party that actually sounds interesting.
I am, but I could still go be weird at some parties.
I guess that being laughed at and ridiculed at parties must be very enjoyable in your corner of the world, then.
Uni wasn’t really like that, luckily.
I mean, that sucks, but it’s not like things are going to get better once you’re outside of the conditions mentioned
It also depends on your field of study and your level of social skills and social confidence too, though. I’m pretty sure social anxiety is increasing among college students which would also correspond with the dating apps losing their popularity among college students (and I would think the amount of college students actively dating has been trending down too).
I am opposed to dating apps because they’re bad for privacy. Not only are you pretty much encouraged to have a photo of your face online (which is compltely off-limits for me), but to do so in presence of A LOT OF HORNY MEN. No thanks, I would rather pick up a hobby where more socialization occurs naturally.
This is pretty much why women wear hijabs. Just sayin…
There are more than two options
sorry what were the options again, I forgot
Good point. Not to mention dating apps are literally designed not to work. They lose money if you leave so they actively prevent you from finding a partner.
thats because its not a dating app at its core, its a make the company money app, you might get a date, but thats not their purpose. This isn’t a all capitalism is bad comment, I"m just pointing out the obvious. I dont go into the world not thinking I"m not trying to be manipulated. I understand some people are naive though, even perhaps college students in their “safe” spaces.
I immediately thought of grindr when reading your comment, but I can understand that most apps may lead to hypersexualiztion, depending on which pose the person in the photograph is doing and/or the person’s dutty dutty mind.
So tired of swiping, so impersonal. I want a real human connection. - A 20 year old college student
it may be losing their “luster” but the its directly anti proportional to the level of social anxiety that is increasing among young people, so people will continue to play with their phones because its the safest option
this whole focus on “luster” reminds me of the luster of the pyramids
