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    72 years ago

    When I was a teenager, I went through this brief phase where instead of saying “dad”, I used his first name. Not intentionally, it was just wires getting crossed in my brain, but he would get so pissed about it.

    Don’t recall ever calling my mom by her first name. She wouldn’t appreciate that either… in fact, it bothered her that I said “mother” instead of “mom” for the longest time (we had a strained relationship, so the more formal term felt more appropriate).

    On the other hand, my parents never required me to say “sir” or “ma’m”.

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    I’ve had people pissed off that I didn’t call my mother as Mom, they thought it was DiSResPeCtFUL. She has a name, it’s a respectable name, and when I called that name in a group or a crowd then she will know it’s me without panicking any nearby moms. Get over it, it’s none of your damn business!

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    62 years ago

    LoL I call mine “The Incubator” and occasionally by her first name.

    She was never worth any other title.

  • SendPicsofSandwiches
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    Whiter than white bread here. I’m 28 and if I called my mom by her first name she would erase me from existence

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      Absolutely black and I feel you. I’m 38. If I dare call my mom by her first name one, I’ll get obliterated on the spot.

      Now that I think about it, the only people I ever heard calling their moms by their first names were white. But it must be like… 2% ? And people I mostly hang out with happen to be white. So it’s kinda biased.

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              12 years ago

              How many mothers do you have that it makes a real world difference? I’d guess up until 1000 you wouldn’t really notice depending on your hardware. You could cache them as well.

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          22 years ago

          How does that work if you don’t mind me asking? Are they all married or is it like a “3’s Company” kind of thing?

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            132 years ago

            Parents got divorced, father remarried (stepmother). Then transitioned to female 🏳️‍⚧️ (still married)

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    I sometimes do it for comical effect, like when she doesn’t understand smth and i need to point her out how obvious that thing is lol

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    122 years ago

    I think this mostly aply to Americans. I live in Europe and never heard someone refer to their mother by her first name.

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      62 years ago

      Huh? That’s the joke. American kids “never” do that either. Hence the face the friend is making in response to hearing it

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        72 years ago

        Well seing Will Smith and the meme saying “white” I thought it’s referring to the fact that black parents are stricter and it’s unbelievable for a black child to hear someone say that…

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      12 years ago

      I live in Europe and have one friend who does that. No idea where it stems from, maybe the parents felt they could keep more of a personal identity if they were referred to by their name at home or something

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      12 years ago

      That’s not the norm in the US. They only time I’ve seen that was when there was some sort of trama

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    32 years ago

    I started calling them by their first name when I thought I was old/adult enough not to say mom and dad anymore. My sister does the same.

    But this has also been different from every side of our family. I speak a T-V language so we have formal and informal. My father and all his family were formal with their parents. And my mother was informal with her parents. In the end, I went in between. I use informal with my parents and call them by their names.

    My bother in law noted that and brought it up. Apparently, it’s weird and disrespectful from his point of view. Yet, to me it’s quite normal.

    How can a 16 years old teenager feel comfortable saying “mom and dad”? To me, ditching those terms meant that I was not a child anymore.

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      32 years ago

      To me its weird, is it an american thing? Whats wrong with calling your mom and dad mom and dad?

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        I’m not American though. And English is not my native language.

        But it just felt too close to continue calling them m’man and p’pa while I became an adult. I was a “rebel teenager” and didn’t want to spend time with my family. Much less call them “mom and dad”. And they stopped using the diminutive of my name years ago anyway. So I just did the reverse.

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      112 years ago

      How can a 16 years old teenager feel comfortable saying “mom and dad”?

      Well, for starters, they’re still your mom … and your dad.