ITT: OP discovers high functioning autism
This was my exact same thought. Alex got that autism but is probs great company and fun in board games.
I have no problem with it. I tend to get along great with autistic people!
What is “body count” in this context? Does it mean your number of sexual partners? If so, that’s very dismissive and reductive.
Yes and yes
Also weird that they were asked that at a coworker get together
The one thing from the redpills that spilled over to normal people.
Sex is fun, and meeting new fun people is great.
Referring to them as “body count” is neither
Not going to list names when I’m asked about my experiences, unless I’m having that conversation with a SO.
Being respectful of people in general is important. Whatever phrasing that allows me to talk about myself and keeps the other involved people anonymous is fine by me.
Why don’t call them partners, for instance? How’s that not anonymous?
It’s to remove the concept of relationships. Stay disconnected from other humans, just get your pleasure and move along.
Well, that’s just awful, thanks.
The person who wrote this sounds like a twat. Why judge the guy and put him on blast because he doesn’t follow the same social norms as you?
You thought this was putting him on blast? The last sentence is “Love you man”, you can’t get much farther from “on blast” than that.
Love you bro
Stop blasting him!
Phrasing?
Seems rather positive towards the guy
There’s something wrong with you.
Did… did you read the whole thing or did you jump straight to the comments to complain…? Nowhere is the OP putting him on blast, if anything the post is supportive.
I read it and still have a conflicting feeling about the post. Don’t know, it just doesn’t produce the “wholesome rant about charming things about a nice person” vibe, more like “I find you weird and love laughing at you” vibe
Speaking as someone who was overly sheltered… All of this is plausible.
What the world really needs right now, more smart Alex…🤓👍
It says it’s ignorance
Gotta love that guy.
I am 24, autistic, straight edge, and a data analyst. I’m the youngest person in my company, the closest person to me in age is 45. I haven’t used a regular social media site since I was 14. My only interaction with modern discourse is my girlfriend’s 18 year old sister. When she talks she might as well be speaking another language. My hobbies are unix, classic literature, VHS collecting, and synthesizers. My girlfriend calls me her 80 year old boyfriend.
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Isn’t Lemmy a social media?
I’m on kbin. But I’d consider this and other reddit inspired websites to be closer to a forum than a social media. Sure, you can use it like a regular social media site, but it’s more tilted towards a forum method.
How dare you?
I guess they mean Facebook, Xitter, etc. You know, the big ones.
I think anonymous social media, while still social media, occupies a very different category from non-anonymous (identified?) social media. And the default interpretation of “social media” is the latter.
That’d make Twitter not social media for people not using their actual names.
Alot of people do use their names on Twitter, and they really encourage you to follow, buy, and sell.
I don’t recall people calling forums social media, and Lemme (and Reddit) are more like forums, with you following the subject. Not each other. Very much like BBS back in the day except with links.
The tougher requirement of people using their name would leave very few social medias. Basically just LinkedIn and Facebook, with Twitter and others that have usernames but also named people being in the grey area.
Even though there are anonymous people on twitter, it still asks you to follow, and the posts are generally self promotion, not discussion of topics. That is the big difference.
Lemmy is media, without the social part. Unless you really want to. I have not even looked at the users names I respond to, because that does not matter. On twitter, it actually does, real name or not.
Any media can be anonymous.
The anonymous factor differentiates things.
Can’t any social media be anonymous?
Sure but it’s not intended to be.
Also a big part of it is imo that you never interact with the same people on sites like reddit or Lemmy, you don’t follow anyone or anything.
I often see the same people over and over again on lemmy since its a small community. I even saw the same nicks on reddit often (like shittymorph). But yes it isn’t intended to be ego centric like other sites.
So Twitter isn’t a social media?
The “social” aspect is up to debate.
Good old asocial network.
Usernames though. Anonymous would be something like 4chan
Not a regular one
It’s a link aggregator
Only if you don’t participate in the comments sections or even just look at them.
It’s also “social news”, which is a kind of social media.
More or less, but they specified “regular social media” which Lemmy is not
You’re who I pictured. Thanks for the validation.
Am I out of the loop? I didn’t think being a straight edge was something to be proud of. I feel like it includes a good amount of intolerance and judgement. It’s this not the case?
Edit: man, I was expressing my impression from what I’ve read on the Internet and asking for more information. I wasn’t expecting to get down voted for trying to understand better
I don’t know if people are proud of it. Most people that I have known that are straight edge just don’t want to do drugs or alcohol. I haven’t known them to be judgemental of others who do, to each their own.
According to a punk guy I used to work with the straight edge movement originally had a nonjudgmental camp and an extremely judgemental camp. Can’t too much speak to that claim myself as I’ve never been on the punk scene but he was in general a trustworthy dude which leads me to believe there’s at least something to it even if it’s not quite right. But again I’m not in the punk scene so maybe I’m regurgitating bullshit
Maybe the non judgemental ones doesn’t post on social media and the judgies are the ones that originally gave me the impression and down voted me :shrug:
The vocal minority can really skew perception
The og judgementals could just be old too, I’m in my late 30s and these guys are a decade older than me
Yeah, I’m proud that I have self control and have maintained a lifestyle that many people fail at. I’m proud to be associated with a community of people that live the same way. It’s better than being proud of how much booze you can down or how high you can get.
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I guess it was people like you that gave me the impression I got from reading posts on the Internet
Yeah, this seems so oddly judgmental and weird lol. Like I don’t go on roller-coasters, so fuck everyone that does I’m better than them because I’m a roller-coaster virgin
I just don’t care to put substances in my body that are effectively toxic. If you think, being high at all times is the best way to live life, then more power to you.
Really, it’s annoying that people think we’re judgemental. I’m guessing, lots of folks judge themselves for it, but as long as everyone else does the drugs, they aren’t confronted with that.
As soon as I dare to exist, not putting toxic substances into my body, they’ll feel judged, because I’m adhering to their moral standard of not doing drugs, effectively reminding them that it would be doable.If I come up with some bullshit reasoning, like I’m the designated driver, rather than the truth that I just don’t want it, they’ll feel more at ease. Although, I guess, that would also be the case, if they truly thought I was actively judging them.
I have friends that don’t drink and don’t do drugs. Neither of my adult children do (18 and 20). I think it’s great. I don’t fathom why question was down voted. I think it’s awesome that you you don’t succumb to the pressures of society an live your life in a way that makes you happy. Keep kicking ass ❤️
Your question might have been downvoted, because people (including me) read it the wrong way.
I thought, you were saying people shouldn’t be proud of being straight edge.
And your reasoning:
I feel like it includes a good amount of intolerance and judgement.
…, I thought, was supposed to say that you think people, who are straight edge, are themselves very intolerant and judgemental.
Words can just be ambiguous, I guess.
Thank you for pointing that out. I appreciate the additional point of view
If you’re 80 i hope your gf isn’t in her 20s
Got any of your music out there we could listen to?
My current project is called Obfuscation. It’s atmospheric synth music inspired by aliens.
https://obfuscation.bandcamp.com/
My previous project was Das Kommando. It was a harsh black noise project about violent suicide.
I used to be like this. I would also accidentally make sexual innuendos, some of which were never explained to me.
Alright, Tobias.
Daddy needs to get his rocks off
Ironically, I don’t get the reference.
From the show arrested development.
We had a French exchange student at one point and somebody told her the phrase “I’m gagging for it” meant she was thirsty. As in, she wanted a drink.
She kept saying it all the time. While waving her hand around in front of her face in a flustered way.
It got to the point where it would have been embarrassing to explain it to her.
So you just left her in the dark until years later she realized it and now it’s something that pops into her brain late at night.
Who knows, she may have already known what it meant the whole time. She’s French, after all.
So you’ve just been raw dogging social interactions?
True story my friend’s wife used that term without realizing the connotation.
I had to look this up. How do people come up with these phrases?
I can’t tell whether this particular person is real, but I fully believe that there are thousands such people, if not more, in every developed country. I count myself among them. My social media interaction, other than Lemmy and Reddit, is limited to reading and writing 1000+ words long blog posts. I recently left our company’s Christmas party after an hour when I realised I had nothing to talk about with the others - I don’t know the current trends in movies, TV or music, and nobody in my work shares my interests. So, I may be perceived as just as weird (or endearing, as the ending suggests), even though I see myself as perfectly normal.
I think there are a ton of people who just aren’t very online.
I envy them
Tbh me too, but i develop websites for a living, so it wouldn’t even be an option.
Not being able to relate to peers your age is fine but also not something to be proud of imo
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My coworker is so unaware of modern cultural discourse it’s hilarious, submitted by /u/BengalRoute47 to /r/redscarepod
He’s 23. He doesn’t use TikTok, Instagram, or Twitter. His favourite drink is Bud Light and was confused when an old dude at work asked him why he still supports them. He’s dating a 20 year old college junior which isn’t much of an age gap to most people but you already know that bothers a very loud subsection of the population. He saw someone wearing a sweater that says “From the River to the Sea” and asked which ocean the sweater was referring to; he’s a huge cartography nerd. When he saw a manager put he/him pronouns in a sent email, he was confused and asked me “what does that mean? I thought he was already a man?”. We had a bit of a coworker get together one day and played drunk truth or dare. Someone asked him what is body count was. His response was “I played MW3 a lot when I was 10 or o it’s definitely somewhere in the hundreds”
Never change Alex. Love you man
This is the top of my feed on lemmy.world… yeah Reddit is totally dying
reddit was the biggest webiste in the US at one point wasn’t it?
What do you think it will die just one day to the next?
Facebook is kinda dead, isn’t it? but there is a big factor of inertia in it, it’s a huge site, so it dies slowly.
Myspace and yahoo are both still here too.
Making my own custom Yahoo homepage widget by widget was really fun in 2008 :)
I mean it’s more like social media in general is dying. Alex here is the future.
Edit: I knew a guy that was a little bit like this. I.e. young and nerdy enough that I’d expect him to have his eyeballs on the news feed, but no. I used to have to explain references to a bunch of stuff that was “going on” because he didn’t care about being “up to date”.
Whenever I explained one of those things it rarely felt like knowing that stuff was worth it. It’s mostly noise.
I also don’t use Twitter, Instagram or TikTok because they’re terrible.
I also don’t quite understand why a 20-year-old dating a 23-year-old is contentious. There’s no age gap at all. Who exactly is having a problem with this?
He sounds like a perfectly normal person who just doesn’t read the news.
He said “you already know that bothers a subsection of the population”.
Not that anyone actually did, that was in his imagination.
Oh it bothers a certain kind of chronically online person. Tbf it’s a very small number of people, but they do exist, and are quite loud
What do they find an acceptable age range then? 6 months but no more?
Well imagine if they have been dating for 4 years
Ok…but that’s not the scenario in question.
I mean, fuck, imagine if he beats her and killed her dog. We can “imagine” things all day.
imagine if hes actually a 900 year old vampire. thatd be CREEPY
But she’s actually a 899-year-old anime girl that looks 20.
What if he’s like, SUPER sparkly?
In my native country that’s perfectly fine as well, if the age gap is less than 5 years and one is less than 18 they are literally both kids, whether one of them has passed an imaginary line or not. This is just being pedantic. You will reply “uhhh so an 18 years old should be able to date a 13 years old?” completely ignoring that a 17 yo can anyway date a 12 yo without any problem. What are we even talking about? At that age parents should supervise them anyway
16 to 19 isn’t really a big gap either imo
It’s not but one is an adult and shouldn’t be in a relationship with the kid
Yeah but this is only happening in your made-up story that didn’t happen and isn’t relevant to what we’re talking about, so why you going on about it?
Do we know when they started dating? No.
I can say the same of any couple. So what’s the relevance of the comment?
You are a creep
Depends where you live, in the UK it’s fine.
Not in the US… Kids have to breakup when they turn 18 lol
Maybe not in the republic of Mormon land but fuck you retard. I had the best time in my life at that age, guess what I was the 16 y.o. part.
Somewhat well adjusted, untouched by the corrupt hands of those unfamiliar with the prickly sting of fresh grass.
This guy got that ohio skibidi rizz.
You know it’s interesting how in touch I am considering how out of touch I am. I want to be a part of the cultural zeitgeist so I can get jokes, and talk to people, and generally be alive and understand what’s going on in the world, but at the same time it’s truly exhausting. I dunno, I think as I’ve understood how much “the culture” is just pioneered by like, some 12 year old somewhere brainlessly chaining nonsense words together, the more I find myself wanting to disengage. See, and then, that’s not even real, because “the culture” no longer exists. You get viral memes that are spewed forth on their ability to masquerade as “the culture” without actually being it. I’m sure some stupid kid somewhere talks like they’re a terminally online brainrotted weirdo, and that kid should probably stop being on the internet, but to say that this stupid kid is “the culture”, is false. This isn’t the case.
Everyone just collectively hallucinates some fake thing in their head that they can be mad or find funny or both. There is no “culture” anymore. There’s just a bunch of atomized communities who independently do whatever they do, and then somehow everyone has cultural osmosis knowledge of a mr beast video because they know someone who knows someone who watches it and they have to have an opinion on everything. I want the ride to stop, I want to get off! I want the ride to stop now! I would like to go back to rage comics please!
As an autistic man in his early 20s, I’ve never been “with it” and I don’t want to. I just live my life and enjoy it.
I’m kind of the same, but I like to study what “it” is, you know? what even is “it”? And I still don’t know.
I just like saying YEET 😆
Thanks, you just summarized my feelings about this in two paragraphs.
Also rage comics were the golden age. :-D
They were annoying too.
le browsing lemmy
Red Scare referring to everything as “discourse” is very funny to me.
I’m not aware of that sub and couldn’t figure out if the name was ironic or real or what.
Bit of both, also alluding to menstruation.
