• @[email protected]
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    592 years ago

    I know this is likely fake, but I have gotten that reaction from people. Folks really find it strange when you don’t have social media. The times it really sucks is when they think you’re lying and just don’t want to add them.

    • @[email protected]
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      92 years ago

      It’s about safety for me. Going on a date with someone is such a gamble. If they have zero social media presence, that’s outside of what’s normal. Anything outside of normal social expectations is a safety red flag to me, because you immediately become less predictable to me. I don’t want to be alone with someone I don’t really know who is unpredictable. I’m just trying not to get murdered.

      • @[email protected]
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        122 years ago

        As someone whose only “social media” is Lemmy, I’d be 100% fine meeting in public places or with people you trust. But I’m not going to sell my personal information for a date.

      • @[email protected]
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        152 years ago

        Yeah I guess well socially adjusted people never turn out to be murderers, rapists or abusers of any kind /s

        • @[email protected]
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          32 years ago

          I actually don’t mind being a weirdo who doesn’t get dates, but I don’t understand why people keep falling for this hyper specific personality archetype that’s got making girls swoon over them down to a science.

          100% I have interests that probably don’t align with yours, but at least I’m not lying to you until you’re on the hook then calling you a bitch about it 🤷

          • @[email protected]
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            No one has ever lied to me to get me on the hook and then called me anything about it. I don’t know who the people are who fall for this, but it’s not an issue in my circles.

            Most of my exes have been weirdos, and I am a bit of a weirdo. It’s still a red flag to have absolutely no social media presence, and it means I can’t send links to your pages with screen shots of you to my sister before our date in case I get murdered.

      • @[email protected]
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        32 years ago

        I suppose. Handing over your entire life and information to a corporation and making most of it available to the world should be the larger red flag.

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        Honestly, this is my only “social media” (well, and LinkedIn, but i only use it when I’m looking for work), and I’m not sure it really counts since it’s in no way tied to my Identity.

      • @[email protected]
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        22 years ago

        That’s not what people are asking about when they ask for your socials. They are referring to the meta family if sites, snapchat, and maybe Twitter at some point.

  • @[email protected]
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    312 years ago

    If you don’t like social media, why would you pretend to like social media to attract someone else who REALLY REALLY cares about social media? It’s bound to fail.

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      It’s not that these people actively care about social media or anything, it’s just a regular part of life. I’m like OP here in the sense that I don’t have any active social media attached to my name but I have some token pseudonymous social media accounts for exactly this reason. Being this obstinate about it is legitimately a huge red flag, and imo indicates that you’ve given up even more control of your life to social media, rather than understanding how to use it as a tool for a set of narrowly defined tasks.

    • @[email protected]
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      112 years ago

      It’s college. Every girl doesn’t need to be treated like a potential marriage.

      Life doesn’t need to be serious when you are young. That’s a huge mistake I made.

  • @[email protected]
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    112 years ago

    It hurts because Telegram and Discord are the only chat apps I use lol… SMS are not included.

    • @[email protected]
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      42 years ago

      for me it usually one of the three: What’s a lemmy? What is this lemming site? What did you do to Lenny?

    • @[email protected]
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      972 years ago

      Her: “What’s Lemmy?”

      Me: “It’s like if 500 nerds emulated the Reddit experience of 2011.”

      Her: (visibly drying)

        • @[email protected]
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          72 years ago

          Let’s say you’ve been a bad girl. Let’s say, hypothetically, you’ve been a naughty girl even. Ok, and if you were a naughty girl, you would be my dirty little slut right? Then hypothetically speaking, you would be my little cumslut. Now, let’s say you’re also daddy’s girl.

          Now that we have established that you are both a bad girl and daddy’s girl, I believe you’d agree with me when I say that you deserve a spanking. Am I not correct? A bad girl deserves a spanking, and as I am daddy, you are my girl, so I am the one who must provide punishment.

      • @[email protected]
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        212 years ago

        “It’s like if 500 nerds emulated the Reddit experience of 2011.”

        Now we just need Woody Harrelson in here talking about Rampart.

    • @[email protected]
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      22 years ago

      Or get Signal/Telegram.

      Anything that’s not owned and being excessively monitored tracked and targeted by Meta. Yes it’s end-to-end encrypted, but there’s no rules about what happens once things are decrypted at each end.

  • Stern
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    Folks wanna know what they’re getting into. Your social media feeds are an easy indicator. Your twitter all retweets of Andrew Tate? Facebook filled with pics of you dressed up like a leather dog? Truth social? Concerning for many women.

    • 2deck
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      142 years ago

      It can feel like you’re guilty until proven innocent.

  • @[email protected]
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    32 years ago

    While like others have said this is probably fake.

    That said, there is a middle ground. Any one refusing to use ANY social media probably has issues…

    Those acting like this is normal, would give someone who refuses to have a cell phone weird looks or what about any phone at all?

    For people refusing to use LinkedIn (or similar), that’s the same as refusing to have a resume pre Internet

    Don’t expect society to bend to you, you’re NOT special.

  • Naja Kaouthia
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    192 years ago

    Lemmy is it for me. Oh and a discord server with my gaming buddies. The rest of it just feels pretty gross.

    • Kilgore Trout
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      112 years ago

      Discord is gross. But it’s hard to convince everyone to follow you on better alternatives.

      • Maestro
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        42 years ago

        What better alternatives? As shitty as Discord is for replacing forums, there is no better way to voice chat and stream.

        • @[email protected]
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          22 years ago

          Mumble is best for voice cgat. It can suppress noise so hard you can’t hear the vacuum in the background while talking. No idea about alternatives to streaming though.

  • @[email protected]
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    92 years ago

    Wait, am I the only one disturbed by the “be 19” and the “meet a cutie 14 girl”?

    I mean none of these are ever true but it still feels bleeh to read!