I know this is likely fake, but I have gotten that reaction from people. Folks really find it strange when you don’t have social media. The times it really sucks is when they think you’re lying and just don’t want to add them.
It’s about safety for me. Going on a date with someone is such a gamble. If they have zero social media presence, that’s outside of what’s normal. Anything outside of normal social expectations is a safety red flag to me, because you immediately become less predictable to me. I don’t want to be alone with someone I don’t really know who is unpredictable. I’m just trying not to get murdered.
As someone whose only “social media” is Lemmy, I’d be 100% fine meeting in public places or with people you trust. But I’m not going to sell my personal information for a date.
Yeah I guess well socially adjusted people never turn out to be murderers, rapists or abusers of any kind /s
I actually don’t mind being a weirdo who doesn’t get dates, but I don’t understand why people keep falling for this hyper specific personality archetype that’s got making girls swoon over them down to a science.
100% I have interests that probably don’t align with yours, but at least I’m not lying to you until you’re on the hook then calling you a bitch about it 🤷
No one has ever lied to me to get me on the hook and then called me anything about it. I don’t know who the people are who fall for this, but it’s not an issue in my circles.
Most of my exes have been weirdos, and I am a bit of a weirdo. It’s still a red flag to have absolutely no social media presence, and it means I can’t send links to your pages with screen shots of you to my sister before our date in case I get murdered.
I suppose. Handing over your entire life and information to a corporation and making most of it available to the world should be the larger red flag.
But you are lying. You are on lemmy.
Honestly, this is my only “social media” (well, and LinkedIn, but i only use it when I’m looking for work), and I’m not sure it really counts since it’s in no way tied to my Identity.
Imagine if the norm was to ask for your Lemmy/Reddit account.
Then I’d hope America and China would launch the nukes.
That’s not what people are asking about when they ask for your socials. They are referring to the meta family if sites, snapchat, and maybe Twitter at some point.
Yep and somehow, they want you to “prove” you don’t have one.
I think pulling out a flip phone counts as proof
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Eh, I’m married and I legitimately don’t have social media (only Lemmy, and I guess Linked In, which I never look at). I only add legitimate work contacts to LinkedIn, and I don’t have my lemmy account connected in any way to my identity.
Tell that to your wife.
Anon’s “flip phone”
If someone mods that to put in a small form factor phone with a lcd and 3.5mm jack for call functionality Id buy that for 100 bucks
Woohoo! Bubble gum! Score!
If you don’t like social media, why would you pretend to like social media to attract someone else who REALLY REALLY cares about social media? It’s bound to fail.
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It’s not that these people actively care about social media or anything, it’s just a regular part of life. I’m like OP here in the sense that I don’t have any active social media attached to my name but I have some token pseudonymous social media accounts for exactly this reason. Being this obstinate about it is legitimately a huge red flag, and imo indicates that you’ve given up even more control of your life to social media, rather than understanding how to use it as a tool for a set of narrowly defined tasks.
…he didn’t pretend to like social media
It’s college. Every girl doesn’t need to be treated like a potential marriage.
Life doesn’t need to be serious when you are young. That’s a huge mistake I made.
I don’t feel the need to post my life online… Continues to post personal story online
The difference is
it’s fakethe anonymity.
It hurts because Telegram and Discord are the only chat apps I use lol… SMS are not included.
If you don’t have lemmy nobody will fuck you.
for me it usually one of the three: What’s a lemmy? What is this lemming site? What did you do to Lenny?
That’s true. A lemmy account is our age’s horga’hn.
Redditor? Forever virgin.
Lemming? Sex machine.
Her: “What’s Lemmy?”
Me: “It’s like if 500 nerds emulated the Reddit experience of 2011.”
Her: (visibly drying)
It’s ok you can fk me
Her: (visibly drying)
Ben Shapiro intensifies.
Let’s say you’ve been a bad girl. Let’s say, hypothetically, you’ve been a naughty girl even. Ok, and if you were a naughty girl, you would be my dirty little slut right? Then hypothetically speaking, you would be my little cumslut. Now, let’s say you’re also daddy’s girl.
Now that we have established that you are both a bad girl and daddy’s girl, I believe you’d agree with me when I say that you deserve a spanking. Am I not correct? A bad girl deserves a spanking, and as I am daddy, you are my girl, so I am the one who must provide punishment.
lmao is this a copypasta or OC?
Haha copypasta.
Like that scene from Indiana Jones The Last Crusader
“It’s like if 500 nerds emulated the Reddit experience of 2011.”
Now we just need Woody Harrelson in here talking about Rampart.
Just get What’s app for this purpose bro
Or get Signal/Telegram.
Anything that’s not owned and being excessively monitored tracked and targeted by Meta. Yes it’s end-to-end encrypted, but there’s no rules about what happens once things are decrypted at each end.
qt3.14 🤮
I’m not even sure what that means
qt phonetically sounds as cutie.
Greek letter pi is 3.14 in mathematics.
Putting them together we get…
Qt3.14 = cutie-pie.
Thank you
I see how that would be that now
This dude has other problems.
Folks wanna know what they’re getting into. Your social media feeds are an easy indicator. Your twitter all retweets of Andrew Tate? Facebook filled with pics of you dressed up like a leather dog? Truth social? Concerning for many women.
Hilarious. Just another reason I don’t have a social media account in my.real name anywhere.
It can feel like you’re guilty until proven innocent.
While like others have said this is probably fake.
That said, there is a middle ground. Any one refusing to use ANY social media probably has issues…
Those acting like this is normal, would give someone who refuses to have a cell phone weird looks or what about any phone at all?
For people refusing to use LinkedIn (or similar), that’s the same as refusing to have a resume pre Internet
Don’t expect society to bend to you, you’re NOT special.
This is beyond a shitty take, especially that bit about LinkedIn. LinkedIn might actually be the most worst social media for how pretentious it is and quite frankly I’ve had a very successful career without ever using it. Maybe because I’m not a wannabe CEO/ life guru tech bro?
Real tech bros use Second Life anyway
Lemmy is it for me. Oh and a discord server with my gaming buddies. The rest of it just feels pretty gross.
Discord is gross. But it’s hard to convince everyone to follow you on better alternatives.
What better alternatives? As shitty as Discord is for replacing forums, there is no better way to voice chat and stream.
Mumble is best for voice cgat. It can suppress noise so hard you can’t hear the vacuum in the background while talking. No idea about alternatives to streaming though.
Bro livre under the botnet
Always lead with “I don’t have any social media.”
A drug dealers flip phone. Lol
Wait, am I the only one disturbed by the “be 19” and the “meet a cutie 14 girl”?
I mean none of these are ever true but it still feels bleeh to read!
Qt3.14 = cutie-pie.
Wait this guy refuses social media, but types in teen trash code?
Honestly, if there’s any truth, this guy is/was terminally online!
I Googled qt3.14 and its dated to 2004. So teens who used it when it was trendy are 34 now.
You know you are old when 20 year old slang is “teen trash code”.
Huh, I was a teen back then and nobody used that, at least none of my male friends. We just said hot, maybe qt, but certainly didn’t put put 3.14 anywhere.
I’ve only ever seen it as a 4chan thing. Just one of their lame in-jokes
They’re saying “cutie pie” not her age
