it’s okay!

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    Need more places that sell crop tops and skirts in men’s sizes :( most of the places that do are selling fetishwear that’s kinda poor quality. Also, I personally hate ordering things online, and prefer being able to try clothes on in a store before I buy them, but that is very heavily discouraged for people who look masc.

    Edit: Just so other femboys know, there is one brick and mortar store you can absolutely go to; your local queer thriftstore! If you don’t have a local queer thriftstore…idk man that’s a sign to move in the current political climate. My post is more just saying we need more.

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      I’m a men’s M, usually women’s XL fits me (sometimes XXL). Just for reference, maybe that can help you?

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      I (AMAB) usually go into the women’s section to buy crop tops and skirts. While being a European S, I need something like L or XL in the women’s section. So my advice would be to just browse the women’s section and add two sizes to your regular size.

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        34 months ago

        I’m 6"6 and can’t even find male gear my size. I’m living off of imagining people like you. Cheers!

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      24 months ago

      Sewing machines are cheap and tailoring is surprisingly easy to learn. I have a very uncommon physique so pretty much nothing from a store fits me, tailoring my own clothes has been a big boost to my looks, and towards clothes feeling comfortable

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      Women’s skirts work just fine for men. You just need to translate between sizing scale, which is not that difficult (although it is annoying unless you are in person and can actually try things on).

      Crop tops are much more difficult to buy, as a lot of those really look bad if you don’t have breasts.

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      144 months ago

      So I’m a woman who loves shopping. But I’m a very short woman and I prefer to shop from the petite section - for most stores, petites are only offered online, if they’re offered at all

      So I do a LOT of online shopping and returning. I would also prefer to be able to try things on in stores before purchasing, but a lot of times I literally don’t have that option. So essentially I try stuff in the privacy of my own home. I prefer to shop online from stores in my area and then return in-person, but a lot of places offer free mail returns too.

      Point is, if you’re returning women’s clothes to a store, no one needs to know they were ordered for you. Maybe you’re shopping for your wife, maybe she’s disabled so she can’t get out and shop for herself, or maybe you just love buying her presents. Nothing is stopping you from lying to cashiers if they asked - but usually it’s just “was anything wrong with the item” and you just say “no it just didn’t work out/didn’t fit her/I ordered two sizes and she’s keeping the one that fits.”

      The best stores will list either garment measurements or suggested physical measurements for the sizes they offer. If you know your own measurements, this should help you make informed decisions until you get to know your sizes at various brands (…and even then, it will still vary widely! 😏)

      Looking at women’s plus size options may show you options that are more accommodating of broader shoulders, etc.

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        Oh don’t get me wrong, I know my sizes and have places to shop online. Femboy apparel is also a rapdily growing market, and I try to keep fresh with new sites.

        I’m just a weird romantic. I like the nostalgic idea of going to a mall with friends, trying on some clothes, and buying maybe one thing. There’s a lot more issues with buying things physically in general now, beyond just my niche. Finding a mall that doesn’t scream “beached whale” is tough nowadays, so it’s just longing for a simpler time.

        I’m also kinda an asshole speaking from a place of privilege, because I live in a place large enough to have a queer district where I can thrift. That’s basically Femboy Aeropostale. I just think it would be cool if there was a chain that catered to femme attire for men.

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        Now I imagine being a man pretending to be shopping for my wife, saying it just didn’t fit her, while the cashier is looking with suspicion at the skirt I’m wearing.

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    174 months ago

    skirts are some of the most efficient and comfortable clothes and it’s honestly bullshit i can’t wear them without being called slurs

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    134 months ago

    To be honest I feel very attractive when I’m wearing a nice suit and tie.

    But I wear comfy clothes, joggers and hoodies, because it’s comfy. Most guys don’t give a fuck about looking good.

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      Skirts are hella comfortable tho. Super easy to put on too. Would absolutely be my legwear of choice (at least outside of winter) if I could do that without people thinking I’m weird.

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        Fair enough, I respect that for sure. I’ve worn skirts and they aren’t bad but I run hot so I always feel cold, maybe that’s why I like to be cozied up in joggers and hoodies haha.

        But yeah, with how the world is going, it’s less and less safe to do things outside the norm. I wish you good luck and hope happiness comes to you.

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          Ah yea I’m the opposite, I’m always too warm to the point where I’ll often be out in a t shirt while most people are wearing jackets over a sweatshirt, so skirts would just be optimal.

          It’s not even as much of a safety issue for me (since while I’m actually super weak I do not look that way at all), but my social anxiety just won’t allow that.

          All the best to you to, may you continue to be comfy.

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    Let’s get some shit out of the way here.

    1. your chub looks great in a crop top, I swear. Start believing it, others do.

    2. your chest/belly hair looks great too

    Alright, with that business out of the way, proceed.

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      ok but what about I don’t have the same build as the person in the cartoon

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        74 months ago

        Something that helped me to feel more comfortable wearing crop tops was when a friend was complaining about her mum being iffy about my friend wearing crop tops; “Yeah, I get it, I’m chubby! <Grabs her stomach rolls> People can see that regardless of if I wear a crop top. Anyone who would think I look gross in a crop top already think that of me no matter what I wear, so I don’t care about dressing up for them”.

        This helped me to realise that because of my misgivings about my body, I tended to swamp myself in clothes that I hated, making myself look and feel worse. People being assholes can make it scarier to dress in ways that make us happy, but I can guarantee you that there are people who would find your body in a crop top to be distractingly hot/pretty.

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        74 months ago

        I sure don’t and it doesn’t stop me. And I’m irresistible.

        It’s all in the way you carry yourself.

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    74 months ago

    My thighs rub against each other and get very sore when I wear my kilt. I always need to wear some kind of trunks/briefs with longer legs underneath to prevent it and it totally ruins the freedom and ventilation aspect :(

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      Depending on where the rubbing is worst, stockings can help with this (not hold-ups — ones that use a proper belt to keep them up. A good suspender belt should have at least 6 clips, and the clips should be metal). If you wear underwear over the top of the suspender belt, then it’s easy to remove it if needed

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        It’s unfortunately right up at the top just below the crotch. So underwear with 15 to 20 cm of leg is the most practical I’ve found so far.