• @[email protected]
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    252 years ago

    This is often why autistic people don’t climb the ranks in technical organisations, even if we are much better at our jobs. Some places create technical specialist roles that are equivalent status but there is a premium on leadership qualities rather than technical excellence.

    The Egyptians built the pyramids by moving huge blocks of stone on skids. This was achieved by organising vast amounts of manpower. What they needed was some autistic people to point out that only a handful of people are required if you use some wheels.

          • @[email protected]
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            22 years ago

            I don’t disagree. Management and leadership is indispensable for organisation of large groups of people who are attempting to achieve a singular objective. There are important distinctions between the different styles of thinking and operating. The ‘social animal’ is characterised by charisma and ability to persuade, the ‘creative’ is characterised by the ability to think logically and imagine. The reason everyone knows the name Jobs and doesn’t know Wozniak is because Jobs is the charismatic influencer and takes credit for the work of Wozniak. In the case of Apple, it seems they have managed the balance between the styles of thinking to their great advantage but that isn’t the case in most places. Political and business people still hold much more power due to their ability to persuade and deceive. This is changing due to the influence of technology, the bailiwick of the creative type. There ought to be balance in our decision making or we end up falling under the spell of some charismatic psychopath.

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    92 years ago

    Legendary feeling of Catharsis: Definitely worth it.

    I just hope he got all the papers he needed before that and a new job in the bag, because doing this without either of these conditions fulfilled can haunt you later.

    But I am pretty sure he did.

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    582 years ago

    I find the trick is to spin what I want to say into somthing positive. I can’t lie but I can avoid the questions, or just be vague.

    In this situation. “Will you miss us?” (assuming I won’t)

    “Perhaps we will have the opportunity to work together in the future” (not implying I actually want to)

    “So long everyone!”(ignores the question, this may also end the conversation as youve given yourself an out)

    “I’m sure I’ll meet many new people at my next opportunity” (to them it may imply you where happy to meet them, even if you where not)

    • @[email protected]
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      182 years ago

      “Perhaps we will have the opportunity to work together in the future.”

      I couldn’t help but read that in a generic Vulcan voice that was a mix of Spock and the “We ain’t found shit!” guy.

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        The “we ain’t found shit” guy from Spaceballs was a Vulkan in Star Trek Voyager, Tim Russ played Tuvok. So really, you can read it in just Tuvok’s voice.

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          22 years ago

          I was joking that Tim Russ complains that is the role he is known for. I personally know him more as Tuvok, but that’s because my parents wouldn’t let me watch Spaceballs, so I saw Voyager first

          • Alien Nathan Edward
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            42 years ago

            all right lemmy, it’s time for a fight

            Tuvix didn’t deserve to die, and even without considering Tuvix Janeway is a war criminal

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      102 years ago

      This feels like the moment I realized that figuring out a way to say ‘thank you’ rather than ‘I’m sorry’ grants +1 CHA

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      Or maybe we should just stop expecting people to lie to please their corporate overlords ¯\(ツ)

      • Seigest
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        82 years ago

        Well it does say “infront if everyone”. I assumed that also includes coleuages. Co workers are not corporate overlords.

        I’m not saying it’s a good thing, it’s another dumb micro ceremony regardless. And if you in a position where you don’t have to play the stupid games then I envy you. But my advice my be of some use for those us poor bastards who need to play along.

    • @[email protected]
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      332 years ago

      In this case, he was never going to see these people again, so no need to play the neurotypical game of lying to spare their feelings.

      • @[email protected]
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        52 years ago

        I say no but I’m cognizant it’s funny so I laugh and then everyone else laughs thinking I was joking. Win win.

        • @[email protected]
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          12 years ago

          I love how you just COMPLETELY ignore the fact that the people have obviously not been enjoyable to be around for an extended amount of time

          Having to spend time around people you don’t enjoy? perfectly fine
          making those people a little sad once? how dare you

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              That’s not what I said. I just said the cost was significant, because you said “at no cost”. I didn’t say I would never pay it.

              Also, twice now you’ve relied on wild hyperbolic statements to make your point. If I may offer some advice - I think avoiding those is better online, as they makes your comments seem like emotional knee-jerk, which undermines your credibility.

      • Seigest
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        142 years ago

        Fair enough. You never know though. A place that fired me a years back in a city far from where I live now, is now my primary vendor. I need to work with them closely. So I am happy I didn’t burn too many bridges on the way out.

  • @[email protected]
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    432 years ago

    That reminded me a bit of that time I was spending the summer at grandparent’s and went to the gas station to buy a few things I needed, and saw a magazine special dedicated to a tv show that was really popular with girls at that time, including a dvd and 3d anaglyph glasses. Picked it too.

    Cute early 20s girl in the counter: “ohhh, do you like this show?? :D” Me: “no, I’m just buying it for the 3D glasses for using them with Minecraft” girl: “oh okay :/”

    me, almost a week later, playing Minecraft at 3 or 4 AM: “wait, was that flirty?”

  • uphillbothways
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    “But, we’re like fAmIlY.”

    Yeah bub, that’s not a selling point. I didn’t pick them either.

  • @[email protected]
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    492 years ago

    One of my first mentors as a nurse was this old battle axe who had been around in the ER for decades. Tough as nails, hard as a rock. She was pushing morphine in some young girl’s IV. This girl was maybe 18 years old and having a good amount of pain, nothing crazy but needing medication. She was really anxious about it. She foolishly asked the question, “What’s the worst that could happen?” The nurse answered, “You could die.” No expression or sympathy or care. And she just kept on slowly pushing the morphine without another word as the patient visibly tried to suppress her terror.

      • @[email protected]
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        What I would be expecting is someone who gives a shit about how the patients feel at least enough to phrase it in a non terrifying way. She knew what she was doing. While what she said was true, the odds that the girl would die from it were staggeringly low. She was just basically an asshole and left that part out.

      • @[email protected]
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        92 years ago

        I think it depends on the situation. There’s a time to be a hardass and a time to be kind.

        For example, 25 years ago I got a cut in hockey and went for stitches. Doctor said I needed a tetanus shot and I didn’t want it because I don’t like needles. Doctor proceeded to describe death by tetanus. It worked.

  • @[email protected]
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    352 years ago

    So many managers are convinced their employees need to feel more connected to the business, or miss the office and the team.

    It does feel like they want to make you feel at home at work. It’s disgusting.

    • @[email protected]
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      242 years ago

      If work feels like home. You had a fucked up childhood and I’m sorry you went through that.

        • @[email protected]
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          152 years ago

          No matter how good your job is, it will never compare to the innocent, carefreeness and happiness you felt when you were in your childhood. (If it was a good one)

          This isn’t an anti-work sentiment. I love my job.

          But it is like comparing having a great death to finding inner peace. Even the worst version of the one is still better than the best version of the other.

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          It was the same on Reddit. Antiwork culture or something (I’m not in the loop), which is reasonable to an extent, but people still struggle to acknowledge that it is possible to have careers and jobs that are extremely fulfilling to them, even if it’s under a company. I work in healthcare IT and I enjoy it a lot. And I’ll even say I enjoy the corpo culture-improving events that IT management holds. I like the people around me. I’d rather work feel like home than feel like slaving away in an emerald mine 8 hours a day.

          Edit: I wanna say that at my last job, it was very much trying to get us to feel connected to the company and the profits. That really doesn’t get through to me, I couldn’t care less about the company lol. If anything at a job, I’ll be connected to coworkers and people around me that I spend 8 hours a day with. The best company culture imo isn’t to get the employees to simp over the company, but to make it enjoyable for employees to be around each other.

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            Exactly this. I still have several close friends from my big corporate IT job even though I quit in 1992 to start my own business. We had a blast at work, which was the only thing that made the hours and stress bearable. Those people were my tribe. I couldn’t care less about the company other than to hope it does well for my pension’s sake.

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      522 years ago

      I cannot tolerate office culture. It’s so unbearably insincere and manipulative in my experience.

  • @[email protected]
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    332 years ago

    Hah, I used to be like that in school, but that didn’t go well at all. After all those years of having to keep quiet I’ve kinda lost that ability to be so straightforward. I wish it was normal for people to say what they think even if it isn’t nice.