the kids are asleep
So unrealistic
This isn’t wholesome for me, it is a literal waking nightmare.
I don’t want cookie cutter suburban stability I want a reason to live.
This ain’t it for me man.
To each their own. No doubt. You should still shoot for some sort of equivalent. Doesn’t have to be monetary just a dream to make a reality.
You hear: Employed, has home, married, has kids
You think: Cookie cutter suburban stability, literal waking nightmare?
Tbf two of those four I would like to avoid if at all possible.
Homeless and unemployed it is
You just don’t get it man, he’s different. He has edge!
is lifescript ._.
You can’t walk away from those things easily.
I see them as suffocating and a compromise to my own self.
Of course I accept that others see it differently but your response is exactly why this is a denigrated view.
If you go against the grain of our society (I.e. you aren’t a heterosexual couple with children, a house, job and family pet) you are weird or unsuitable for raising children.
FYI the person above me edited their original comment where they said I shouldn’t have children (for the children’s sake - won’t somebody think of the children!!!).
It’s important context because I would say it is the prevailing view of our society (that social deviants should not have children) but they said the silent part out loud and realised.
I did edit out that part, almost immediately, because I realized it came off mean and that wasn’t my intention. I do still very much think if you “have no reason to live” you should not have children.
For someone who’s so concerned about feeling like your perspective is denigrated, I wonder why you think denigrating the perspective of people who have kids, etc is alright? I mean, what did you expect in response when you insult people, calling their lives “cookie cutter suburban stability” when you don’t know anything about them? You don’t need to be some white cishet christian man to have a family and a job, to think you’re not insulting diverse people with the way you approached this is ignorant on your part
You know, I know how you feel. You may change, you may not. I used to feel the exact same way, but I did change some (not 100%). I’m pretty happy.
On the other hand my very good friend is well into his 40s, hasn’t changed, and he’s like this weird (in the best way) technical nomad who walks away from almost everything every so often.
So do you. That dream is for a whole lot of folks, but not everyone. I see you. Do what makes you happy.
The OP post doesn’t say it’s a suburb. It could be country or city for all we know. I have seen snow in both.
Maybe the “kids” are your cat/dog “children.”
Maybe it’s not stable. Maybe you are the president of a company that does work on a contract basis, and you choose who you do the work for because you make the proposals.
If marriage doesn’t sound good to you because you associate it with monogamy, know that there is such a thing as a non-monogamous marriage. I’m in one.
I recently moved to a city close to several national forest preserves. My dream is to buy a few dozen acres butting up against preserved land with a supply of water. I want to start a family and build a homestead that might withstand the changing climate.
I’ve spent over a decade of my adult life split between roles both teaching children and working at a tech company that didn’t appreciate me nearly enough. Up until the end of last year, I made between $14 - $35 / hr. I finally left the abusive tech company and spent 6 - 9 months searching until a few months ago, I started a new job. It’s a DevOps role at a company with a great product, doing something I believe in, for really intelligent passionate people, for almost $200k a year.
Currently, not only is paying off my student loans finally a possibility, with remote work, that homestead life is now possible too. My work is rewarding, and instead of just staying home and smoking weed, I have high enough income and low enough stress to feel comfortable going out.
I sing Karaoke one day a week, go to a writer’s group another day, take a cooking class about once a month, and currently, I’ve decided to learn DnD. All of these activities once seemed fiscally irresponsible to me, because I felt like I had to devote my time into passion projects to try to escape the rat race. Now that I have real income, I’m fully invested in it. I’m ready to sacrifice my day hours for good enough cheese.
It’s all relative. I want to overthrow our oppressors as much as anyone. I haven’t been bought out necessarily. But given the situation, I’m starting to buy in, just a bit. If a bit of wealth and a role I don’t hate can enable me to get physically fit, find a partner, and secure a plot of land where we can weather the oncoming storm, I have a hard time not rejoicing in the idea that ten years from now, we might be living a relatively mundane rural lifestyle. If we need some technical manpower to bring the oligarchy down, I’ll be there. But maybe also it’s okay to want to be happy.
May I ask how you landed such a pay bump?
In short, transitioned from a company with mostly state-level contracts to one with mostly federal-level contracts, which requires a higher level of clearance and more knowledge about security.
More specifically, the company I used to work for is a foreign conglomerate with many thousands of employees and a high turnover rate due to low pay. We would hire inexperienced people, train them up on complicated systems, and they’d leave for higher pay elsewhere, forcing us to start over. I begged HR, not to raise my pay, but to raise the pay of everyone under me because we were losing so many people. They refused. The VPs refused. I think they were under orders from overseas not to give a dime more than they had to. In the long run, it cost us millions in training. Our technical debt was through the roof. And I finally got sick of it.
My new job isn’t much more complicated than my old one, but all of the people are better, the culture is way better. Less than 100 employees. Less work to do on weekends, no on call. No outages because we follow proper DevOps practices, whereas I had to forcibly drag my previous employer into modern times.
If I have one suggestion, it’s to read The DevOps Handbook (2nd edition). Or listen to it, the audiobook is very good. It goes into great detail about how companies become like the one I left and how to implement practices that will prevent that kind of decay. Let me know if you have any questions. 😊
Based into space
A non-monogamous marriage counter to most of people’s concept behind a marriage. It’s good it works for you but is fairly fringe.
Monogamy is a human construct that had a beginning. It could have an end.
Fuck whoever you want, nobody cares in the long term.
Except if you catch something then a whole lot of people might care!
Very depressing, in 10 years I should be retired and my kids out of the house, not clinging home like leeches… jeee.
Real parental love here. I would hate to be associated with you in any way
Alternatively, skip the kids and get there 20 years earlier.
I’m 8 years in right now, 2 more to go but damn what a struggle. Building a house while simultaneously raising 3 kids and working a full time job is really hard. Thank God for the best wife I could ever ask for.
Picture this: enough fent to kill an elephant. You smile as you throw all of it in your mouth and chase it with your favorite cocktail.
Wholesome thanks! Wish it was me. Also to be fair that much fent is like what a bottle cap of 100% fent ? Haha
It’s a pill or two if you’re not in the game. Smoke it on foil. Waking up after an accidental one hit OD made me reevaluate shit.
It’s so peaceful. Waking up was even glorious.
You are worth more than your own death. It may not feel like it, but I promise you it’s true. Talk to me if you ever want to.
(yes I want to die and talk others out of dying. fite me)
That would be an interesting premise for a show or similar, a person trying to die somehow keeps living yet talks others out of their suicide.
Every episode begins with them waking up after another failed attempt, similar to how Quantum Leap worked.
“Mother of fuck. Not again.”
I remember seeing this meme about twelve years ago and thinking Yeah I got this. Well, I didn’t and I don’t.
I could, but Christmas Day 2033 is a Sunday.
10 years from now?
It won’t happen. Either the AI will have killed us all by then, or it turns out the AI is benevolent and so no one has to work anymore anyway and so I’m not really bothered if it’s the weekend.
Either way I don’t have to worry about it.
If AI is even possible as a concept we wouldn’t have it in 10 years. Chatbot wouldn’t evolve into general AI
There is a drone war slowly heating up right now. There is no option to not create AI. 10 years is generous.
Well, why not invent teleportation and iron man suite then, if that’s how it apparently works.
Because there is no fear that the other side will have it.
Of course it’s not absolutely inevitable. But chatgpt 4 is like the first dropped atomic bomb. It has changed AI from a theoretical concept to something that needs to be dealt with.
I’d bang a robo hoe
Someone has been reading too many mainstream tech articles lately lol
Already married (more than a decade). Nice home (but renting). Disabled so can’t work but that’s OK, we make the best of it. We don’t celebrate Christmas but I can imagine Winter Solstice or Matariki. Kids are almost asleep, so close enough. My spouse and I snuggle like this most nights. Holy shit, it’s snowing?! It doesn’t snow here so I’m simultaneously delighted for a once in a lifetime snowfall but also disturbed that it’s snowing… We homeschool, what day of the week is it again? The hardwork is indeed worth it.
Still 7/10 ain’t bad 😅
Every day is ‘making it’ though and will be for the rest of our lives since life is ever changing and ever evolving. Find hygge and gratitude every day and you’ll realise that you don’t need to achieve some fake “made it” state because you already have 💜
I dig your username.
Reality:
You get fucked by big companies. Your snow is reduced to februrary because of climate change.
Finding a special other is almost impossible due to social media fed anxiety. Meeting people outside of the internet is unknown and people on the internet are the weirdest ones.
Owning a house is a privilege of the upper society.
Thanks to our parents and grand parents the governments in most countries are more right wing than before.
While this may be true, I usually think that the problem is me, not other people
Well it is always good to look at it from a different view and see if you are the problem, but if you have done that come to a logical conclusion
I agree w most of this but I’d argue most people meet outside the internet. I’m online far too much for it to be healthy and even I meet most people irl
You are probably right. I exaggerated a bit.
Character arc
Don’t forget you get cancer, and your wife leaves with half your retirement
“Reality” from OP’s post is not 10 years from now, it’s right now for me except it’s not Christmas and snowing because it’s September.
I achieved it by living in a low cost of living area and being smart. I got academic scholarships to get my start in college, then built a mountain of student loan debt as I continued through college, then entered the workforce and built a good career. Still working on almost 40k of loans and a mortgage, but I have it all well under control.
Good for you. I for my case also don’t have it bad. Never even knew of Student debt until I went to reddit, because in Germany most education is free.
However we should consider us lucky and most people won’t even have a chance to get there even if they work 20 hours a day.
I hate to tell you this, but your experience isn’t typical.
It pretty much is for a majority of my contemporaries in this low cost of living area. Lots of nice houses around here for under $300k. Mine was under 150k
If everyone lived in a low cost of living area then it wouldn’t be low cost of living. I’m happy for your success, but the fact that the rich throw crumbs to some of us isn’t cause for celebration when there’s millions worse off than you and even you deserve more.
I didn’t say everybody should move here. I don’t want them to. It’s just a message of support to those who think life is hopeless, that there are other opportunities out in the world that they should be aware of. Too many people get trapped in their local mindset and don’t even think that things could be better somewhere else.
Also a reminder of the value of being frugal. Living in a high cost of living area is the antithesis of being frugal.
Snow, in this climate?
Must be nuclear fallout.
I have a vasectomy…
WHERE DID THE KIDS COME FROM
I wonder where… btw why do they look like your future neighbors?
Adopted hopefully? That’d be better than an unwelcome surprise.
You and your partner are clearly goat farmers producing high quality, organic, cruelty-free, goat cheese that has made you millions.
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Wow are you me? Had the same reaction lmao
These are such negative comments in the replies
Seriously wtf
You’re right. I thought the more positive ones were just being downvoted by the pessimists, but yikes the comments only got darker the further I scrolled down.
