And it has all kinds of implications and context and shit.
How the fuck am I supposed to tell what’s just people doing things at random and what’s a part of all-singing-all-dancing-shit-show the neurotypicals call “social norms”? Down with NTs.
Honestly while it’s really fucking annoying that refusal to participate could result in some silly neuronormo interpreting a completely innocuous action as an offense, and it can cut you off from social shit, I think it’s basically the only way. The same button never does the same thing twice. Screeching rn.
Here in Burgerland, the most annoyingly common and brief version of this I’ve seen:
This was like the first NT social cue i learned and know it very well and have to do it almost daily and I still fuck it up constantly. My brain automatically always wants to answer it literally it takes so much mental overriding to not do that but the “correct” answer always comes out stilted then i forget to ask it back
I have a weird problem where I often know (from experience) what the expected cue probably is, but I often can’t bring myself to perform it when prompted by social pressure. It’s like a laughtrack in a very unfunny sitcom: the cue is to laugh, and I refuse.
Internally i know what i am supposed to do but externally I’m now stunlocked while my brain cycles through 500 dialogue options and then i end up saying something really out of pocket and weirding people out. I don’t care so much anymore but it made my 20’s unlivable
Lol I opened my consult for depression with “good, how are you”
I don’t tell people how I am, usually just say good, or a brief not great, they don’t generally want to hear so I don’t give that information
Doing this explicitly because you know it weirds people out
I do that, erratically.
Most of the time I just do the usual reflexive “good, you?” exchange. But it’s good to be a little bit mercurial or playful about playing along - if they’re weirded out, well, it broadens the mind and all that so it’s good for both of us. Amusing either way.
I refuse to submit to the expectations of no information exchanged, just obedience to the ritual expected.
They will get an answer if they ask how I am doing. If they do the same in return, I may make a friend.
based
Been thinking about this recently. Best solution I have thought about is acquiring a hip-hop hypeman to answer this shit for me, but I’m too ND to recruit one.
My name’s Dickey_Butts and I’m here to say
I’m having an existential crisis in major way
Its a lyrical miracle that I’m here-ical and not in my bed curled up spherical.
I’ve been there and spent countless time
working on my rhythm and rhyme
Now it’s time to let it all out,
join the neurodivergent comm when they shout
THIS SHIT IS FUCKED
CAPITALISM FUCKING SUCKS
Roll out, gats out, arm our trans tribe.
I wear my Reddit Ban with pride.
Fuck the police and the libs too.
No tolerance for genocide