Uhm, it kinda happened for me, I felt that this girl liked me but she said no the first time. I stuck around, as we were in the same group of friends, and after a while she changed her mind. We’ve been together for over a decade.
There’s an entire genre of tiktok videos out there of women saying things like “So this guy I like asked me out, and I said no, and he was like okay bye and just walked away. What is with men not pursuing women anymore?”
Hmm what was that hashtag popular a few years ago? #nomeanskeepgoing?
“No means no” they said. Meanwhile in this very thread: “I’m actually in love with the guy that stalked me.”
If you want no to mean no, you have to say different things when you mean something other than no. If you want to play hard to get, A) don’t, you suck at it and B) maybe let him know that’s the game you’re playing so he’ll actually try hard to get you instead of just taking a flat rejection at face value; ie don’t just say “no” say “You’ll have to try harder than that” or something that indicates you are open to further attention. What saying “no” when you actually mean “try harder” accomplishes is you filter out the guys who take no for an answer leaving your dating pool only filled with the men who don’t really care that much about consent.
As for the “I turned him down becuase I wasn’t interested in him, then we actually talked and turned out I actually like the guy” story…I guess maybe try actually talking to guys? Even if you don’t cream your gusset at first sight?
Eh, well, people are varied, don’t make the mistake of grouping all behaviours together, if someone says no and then loses a chance, that’s their problem tbh.
Relations and relationships are difficult, so as always, tolerance and understanding are key… of course there’s context, “no means no” was used in the context of sexual intercourse, there’s not much room for interpretation there.
not making any claims about your friend’s situation, but i’ve seen this happen more than once also–pestering, caving, engagement-- and they ended very badly.
getting engaged or even married does not necessarily mean “happy together”
I watched Reality Bites as a teenager, and I’m convinced it had a negative influence on my life.
The character Ethan Hawke played became my role model, and he’s just not a very good one, at all.
Unfortunately, this one goes both ways. Some women feel like they need to play hard to get, because otherwise they’re sluts, and also they want to know that a guy really likes her. It’s self defeating of course, on both sides.
Ya know, it kinda makes sense that Hollywood is full of sex criminals when you look at romantic comedies and are always left wondering “And he’s not in jail why?”
If a girl doesn’t like you, but you just keep pursuing her, everything will eventually work out and you’ll be happy together.
Uhm, it kinda happened for me, I felt that this girl liked me but she said no the first time. I stuck around, as we were in the same group of friends, and after a while she changed her mind. We’ve been together for over a decade.
There’s an entire genre of tiktok videos out there of women saying things like “So this guy I like asked me out, and I said no, and he was like okay bye and just walked away. What is with men not pursuing women anymore?”
Hmm what was that hashtag popular a few years ago? #nomeanskeepgoing?
“No means no” they said. Meanwhile in this very thread: “I’m actually in love with the guy that stalked me.”
If you want no to mean no, you have to say different things when you mean something other than no. If you want to play hard to get, A) don’t, you suck at it and B) maybe let him know that’s the game you’re playing so he’ll actually try hard to get you instead of just taking a flat rejection at face value; ie don’t just say “no” say “You’ll have to try harder than that” or something that indicates you are open to further attention. What saying “no” when you actually mean “try harder” accomplishes is you filter out the guys who take no for an answer leaving your dating pool only filled with the men who don’t really care that much about consent.
As for the “I turned him down becuase I wasn’t interested in him, then we actually talked and turned out I actually like the guy” story…I guess maybe try actually talking to guys? Even if you don’t cream your gusset at first sight?
Eh, well, people are varied, don’t make the mistake of grouping all behaviours together, if someone says no and then loses a chance, that’s their problem tbh.
Relations and relationships are difficult, so as always, tolerance and understanding are key… of course there’s context, “no means no” was used in the context of sexual intercourse, there’s not much room for interpretation there.
It worked for a friend of mine. They were friends, he kept trying to get her to date him and after a year of pestering she caved. They’re engaged now.
not making any claims about your friend’s situation, but i’ve seen this happen more than once also–pestering, caving, engagement-- and they ended very badly.
getting engaged or even married does not necessarily mean “happy together”
Being told this time and time and time again has really fucked the male psyche over the years.
you don’t say…
Okay, what’s going on with that particular spot in Tampa? I’m not doing a web search on this, thanks.
the 3 mile radius search returned a “too many hits to display” error, so i had to change it to 1 mile
it’s st. petersburg, and it’s not unique to that area. try your own neighborhood. it’s a govt. website https://www.nsopw.gov/
The centre of that circle appears to be a tool shop. I don’t like what that might suggest…
it’s an address i lived at years ago. fun fact, there’s a public high school right near the middle
I watched Reality Bites recently and this was prominently displayed
I watched Reality Bites as a teenager, and I’m convinced it had a negative influence on my life.
The character Ethan Hawke played became my role model, and he’s just not a very good one, at all.
Lmao damn rip
Unfortunately, this one goes both ways. Some women feel like they need to play hard to get, because otherwise they’re sluts, and also they want to know that a guy really likes her. It’s self defeating of course, on both sides.
Ya know, it kinda makes sense that Hollywood is full of sex criminals when you look at romantic comedies and are always left wondering “And he’s not in jail why?”
Next you’ll be telling me that “So, how often do you flick the bean?” is not a great pickup line.