It’s about me saying I literally did not notice as I do not see gender in words like you do.
I admit that when using English I notice it more when it’s a feminine pronoun than when it’s a masculine one.
The point I’m making is that I did not misgender anyone. If anything, I disgendered English.
So no. I’m not going to admit to misgendering someone, when I most certainly don’t do that on purpose. What I might do is not read the username of a person I’m replying to. As I prefer responding to the message, not the person.
It’s not my fault English isn’t gender neutral when I am. I naturally speak and think in a way that does not account for gender. Would you like for me to start replacing that with archaic gender stereotypes?
No you didn’t, masculine is still a gender. I’m totally willing to believe that this was an innocent mistake to begin with but by tripling down on it like this you’re just being a dick.
It’s not my fault English isn’t gender neutral when I am. I naturally speak and think in a way that does not account for gender.
You understand that English does have gender neutral pronouns, right? “His” just isn’t one of them. At any rate, given that Rose has her pronouns in her display name there’s no need to use neutral language anyway.
Name a gender-neutral singular third person pronoun from English that isn’t “it” (calling people “it” in English is very offensive, but in Finnish it’s just natural colloquialism, but I know enough to avoid that in English)
eta: to degender your comment you could say “this person knows their junkies”
but being as you’ve been beaten over the head with the fact that the OP uses she/her pronouns that would also be misgendering her.
leaving it as using a masculine pronoun is rude at best and blatantly transphobic at worst. nobody thinks you were being actively harmful when you said it but not being willing to change it is toxic.
Wait hold on. Are you shaming someone for not knowing what gender someone named “nakari” is? Cuz if that’s the case you better sign me up for not knowing either.
EDIT: googled this name that I’ve never heard before and the top results said it’s unisex. So uhhhh…
Probably a good enough reason for folks to ask if someone sees pronouns before trying to shame them. This isn’t the first time I’ve seen this discrepancy on Lemmy.
No clue, could be instances, could be apps. I’ve definitely seen comments of “don’t you see their pronouns?” And the answer is genuinely, no. So I suspect it has something to do with that mechanism.
This guy knows his junkies.
There’s a slight but very crucial difference.
Maybe read that username again.
I natively speak a language which doesn’t differentiate gender in any way, and “guy” is pretty gender-neutral to begin with.
So maybe consider that comment again.
Dude would it really be that hard for you to edit your comment instead of whatever this is?
Oh it’s not about this being hard.
It’s about me saying I literally did not notice as I do not see gender in words like you do.
I admit that when using English I notice it more when it’s a feminine pronoun than when it’s a masculine one.
The point I’m making is that I did not misgender anyone. If anything, I disgendered English.
So no. I’m not going to admit to misgendering someone, when I most certainly don’t do that on purpose. What I might do is not read the username of a person I’m replying to. As I prefer responding to the message, not the person.
It’s not my fault English isn’t gender neutral when I am. I naturally speak and think in a way that does not account for gender. Would you like for me to start replacing that with archaic gender stereotypes?
No you didn’t, masculine is still a gender. I’m totally willing to believe that this was an innocent mistake to begin with but by tripling down on it like this you’re just being a dick.
You understand that English does have gender neutral pronouns, right? “His” just isn’t one of them. At any rate, given that Rose has her pronouns in her display name there’s no need to use neutral language anyway.
Calm down guy, it doesnt even seem like the person you’re talking about took offense with it. Why claim their outage for your own?
yawn
Name a gender-neutral singular third person pronoun from English that isn’t “it” (calling people “it” in English is very offensive, but in Finnish it’s just natural colloquialism, but I know enough to avoid that in English)
they
eta: to degender your comment you could say “this person knows their junkies”
but being as you’ve been beaten over the head with the fact that the OP uses she/her pronouns that would also be misgendering her.
leaving it as using a masculine pronoun is rude at best and blatantly transphobic at worst. nobody thinks you were being actively harmful when you said it but not being willing to change it is toxic.
you’re not the hero here.
What is projection alex?
Also gendered language btw
“His”
Hänen
I don’t care about your comment, I was just pointing out what they had a problem with
And they told you what they have a problem with, what’s the issue?
Nothing, but he would be better off telling the person who had a problem with it
That seems to be you. I don’t even see a comment from the gendered username in response.
Ed: didn’t even notice but hilarious.
I’m curious, how it why do you know their gender preference. At least for me the do not have one listed. Seems a bit hypocritical
Wait hold on. Are you shaming someone for not knowing what gender someone named “nakari” is? Cuz if that’s the case you better sign me up for not knowing either.
EDIT: googled this name that I’ve never heard before and the top results said it’s unisex. So uhhhh…
Probably a good enough reason for folks to ask if someone sees pronouns before trying to shame them. This isn’t the first time I’ve seen this discrepancy on Lemmy.
What the butts is going on here? Does lemmy.one show different usernames than lemmy.world and lemmy.blahaj.zone and sopuli.xyz?
No clue, could be instances, could be apps. I’ve definitely seen comments of “don’t you see their pronouns?” And the answer is genuinely, no. So I suspect it has something to do with that mechanism.
One is the username, the other is the display name. The client can show either of them. Mine (Thunder) let’s you configure that.