This is the kind of stupidity that has us reinventing language constantly. Words mean what they mean. To hell with how they make you feel. BLACKLIST WHITELIST 😲 The horror!
feelings are important, though? if i can avoid hurting someone and all it costs me is saying blocklist instead of blacklist, that seems like an obvious slam dunk
Your feelings are yours to manage. You say why hurt someone when you can avoid it. I say why get hurt in the first place? Everyone has feelings about everything. No feeling is any more valid than any other feeling.
so you think other people should take responsibility for something they can’t control, but you should have no responsibility for something you can control?
you can’t stop yourself from feeling sad, but you can stop yourself from doing something that makes someone else sad
having no concern for the feelings of others is just really irrational and selfish imo
Emotions aren’t inherently positive or negative. It’s what you do with the emotions that has actual moral substance.
Here, let’s look at it this way.
I say something, and it made you sad. However, you know full well my intent was not to make you sad. Despite this, you use your sadness to guilt me about the thing. So now I feel sad that you are purposefully misinterpreting my meaning.
I am offended that you are offended. Explain to my why my feeling is invalid and yours is valid.
Anyone can feel bad about anything.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt
I’m not saying go around purposely making people sad. I’m saying don’t make your sadness my issue.
you’re adding way too much into this. who said that someone would guilt you? normally when you make someone sad they don’t say anything about it, they just feel a bit worse and continue with their lives
i’m just explaining to you, there’s no way to rationalize your way out of this. you are in complete control over what you say, unless you have verbal tics. and people will understand if you accidentally say something offensive from a tic. do you not understand this? it’s just about responsibility.
take some responsibility for what you say. that’s all.
not everyone you offend is like that. 90%+ of people you’ll hurt with your words will say nothing to you about it, they"ll just feel like you’re less trustworthy, less respectable, less professional and less considerate. if you want to take all of those disadvantage because… wait, why is it you don’t want to be considerate of the feelings of others, again? you… don’t want to learn new things? okay then.
Exactly. Don’t go out of your way to hurt others, and don’t go out of your way to be hurt. It has nothing to do with race, and it has been used for hundreds of years.
If someone gets fired while sunburnt, should they be offended by the term “pink slip”? No, that’s ridiculous, because the color in the terminology has nothing to do with race. That’s exactly the same with blacklist and whitelist.
Now, if there was a racist underpinning there, I’d understand pushing for terminology changes. But there isn’t, so stop finding new ways to be offended.
This is the kind of stupidity that has us reinventing language constantly. Words mean what they mean. To hell with how they make you feel. BLACKLIST WHITELIST 😲 The horror!
feelings are important, though? if i can avoid hurting someone and all it costs me is saying blocklist instead of blacklist, that seems like an obvious slam dunk
Your feelings are yours to manage. You say why hurt someone when you can avoid it. I say why get hurt in the first place? Everyone has feelings about everything. No feeling is any more valid than any other feeling.
so you think other people should take responsibility for something they can’t control, but you should have no responsibility for something you can control?
you can’t stop yourself from feeling sad, but you can stop yourself from doing something that makes someone else sad
having no concern for the feelings of others is just really irrational and selfish imo
Emotions aren’t inherently positive or negative. It’s what you do with the emotions that has actual moral substance.
Here, let’s look at it this way.
I say something, and it made you sad. However, you know full well my intent was not to make you sad. Despite this, you use your sadness to guilt me about the thing. So now I feel sad that you are purposefully misinterpreting my meaning.
I am offended that you are offended. Explain to my why my feeling is invalid and yours is valid.
Anyone can feel bad about anything.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt
I’m not saying go around purposely making people sad. I’m saying don’t make your sadness my issue.
you’re adding way too much into this. who said that someone would guilt you? normally when you make someone sad they don’t say anything about it, they just feel a bit worse and continue with their lives
i’m just explaining to you, there’s no way to rationalize your way out of this. you are in complete control over what you say, unless you have verbal tics. and people will understand if you accidentally say something offensive from a tic. do you not understand this? it’s just about responsibility.
take some responsibility for what you say. that’s all.
Yeah, clearly you’ve never seen a Karen.
not everyone you offend is like that. 90%+ of people you’ll hurt with your words will say nothing to you about it, they"ll just feel like you’re less trustworthy, less respectable, less professional and less considerate. if you want to take all of those disadvantage because… wait, why is it you don’t want to be considerate of the feelings of others, again? you… don’t want to learn new things? okay then.
You mean not learn new things like purposefully missing my point? Yeah, big loss. Where are you getting this 90% stat from? Your feelings?
Exactly. Don’t go out of your way to hurt others, and don’t go out of your way to be hurt. It has nothing to do with race, and it has been used for hundreds of years.
If someone gets fired while sunburnt, should they be offended by the term “pink slip”? No, that’s ridiculous, because the color in the terminology has nothing to do with race. That’s exactly the same with blacklist and whitelist.
Now, if there was a racist underpinning there, I’d understand pushing for terminology changes. But there isn’t, so stop finding new ways to be offended.