I’m like the person you’re replying to, and for me it’s very much just introversion and autism, plus a lot of complex trauma about my body and life being controlled by others.
Working on it, but I’ll still be autistic and introverted. Are you assuming anyone can and should overcome the need to be alone? That would be quite ableist.
Come on, what is the purpose of lashing out like that? I said nothing of the sort, no need to insult me 🤨
And anyway, my comment was mostly about not potentially inflicting causes of your trauma on others. Because that is what usually happen when people fear not being in control… they try to control others once they have the means to do so.
Please reread my comment: I said IF that’s what you mean! I’m asking because youre explaining to other commentators how they should overcome their need for their own spaces. Also, that the need to control yourself usually leads to wanting to control others is false and a pretty mean thing to say to someone who said they feel the need to have control over themselves. Trauma does NOT make me a bad person, thank you very much. We’re people too, you know. We’re capable of empathy and of working on ourselves.
Uff, you have a lot to work through it seems. Please don’t go around projecting wild assumptions on others and twist their words into the complete opposite 🙄
And anyway, my comment was mostly about not potentially inflicting causes of your trauma on others. Because that is what usually happen when people fear not being in control… they try to control others once they have the means to do so.
You don’t see how that’s not a very nice thing to say to someone that just said they have complex trauma?
Where is the assumption? I was almost literally quoting you.
Look, I’m not going to convince you in a Lemmy comment chain. I just hope you can show a bit more empathy for different lived experiences in real life.
Same to you. Claiming to have autism or complex trauma is not a get-out-of-jail-free card to be rude to others and accusing them of -isms out of the blue.
And no, you were not quoting me. “Controlling yourself” is not the same as “fearing to be not in control”, because the latter extends to your surrounding and nearly always involves others around you wether you intend it or not. And besides that, I stand by my comment that people with trauma have a responsibility to not inflict it onwards onto others, as many sadly do.
I’m like the person you’re replying to, and for me it’s very much just introversion and autism, plus a lot of complex trauma about my body and life being controlled by others.
That is often the source of the fear I mentioned. I know it is not easy to overcome, but it is worth it.
Working on it, but I’ll still be autistic and introverted. Are you assuming anyone can and should overcome the need to be alone? That would be quite ableist.
Come on, what is the purpose of lashing out like that? I said nothing of the sort, no need to insult me 🤨
And anyway, my comment was mostly about not potentially inflicting causes of your trauma on others. Because that is what usually happen when people fear not being in control… they try to control others once they have the means to do so.
Please reread my comment: I said IF that’s what you mean! I’m asking because youre explaining to other commentators how they should overcome their need for their own spaces. Also, that the need to control yourself usually leads to wanting to control others is false and a pretty mean thing to say to someone who said they feel the need to have control over themselves. Trauma does NOT make me a bad person, thank you very much. We’re people too, you know. We’re capable of empathy and of working on ourselves.
Uff, you have a lot to work through it seems. Please don’t go around projecting wild assumptions on others and twist their words into the complete opposite 🙄
You don’t see how that’s not a very nice thing to say to someone that just said they have complex trauma?
Where is the assumption? I was almost literally quoting you.
Look, I’m not going to convince you in a Lemmy comment chain. I just hope you can show a bit more empathy for different lived experiences in real life.
Same to you. Claiming to have autism or complex trauma is not a get-out-of-jail-free card to be rude to others and accusing them of -isms out of the blue.
And no, you were not quoting me. “Controlling yourself” is not the same as “fearing to be not in control”, because the latter extends to your surrounding and nearly always involves others around you wether you intend it or not. And besides that, I stand by my comment that people with trauma have a responsibility to not inflict it onwards onto others, as many sadly do.