I am currently going through a lot of gender questioning, and I want to know how you all discovered your gender identities, or if you are still questioning yourself. I think that I am probably not cis, but as we all know, gender isn’t black and white. I’m identifying as non-binary right now, but I have had a lot of times throughout my life, including now, where I may have wanted to be more feminine, or even a woman. Especially after lurking on this site and looking at the trans megathreads, I find myself relating to a lot of what is being said. Overall, I recently feel like I have either hit a wall or just opened up a part of myself that I thought I had already solved, so I think that the experiences of others might help me figure myself out.
P.S. I don’t know if this is the appropriate comm, it made a little more sense than the trans comm, since it said it was more of a meme comm, and this is not a meme. Mods, please take it down if it’s the wrong comm; I’ll repost if I need to.
After I discovered trans people exist I realized I never really identified with being a “boy.” I was a pretty gender non-conforming child. I liked certain things about myself “cis” and in trying “fem” things I liked them too. By default I tend to use they/them pronouns for others regardless. I feel gay for people regardless of gender (pan, leaning “fem”). IMO none of this matters because gender is a social construct and I support its abolition. I’ve encountered many specific gender terms online, but honestly, labels are silly; “a rose smells sweet regardless of what you call it.” My advice would be just experiment with expression and don’t care about labels bc fuck gender. Y’all binists are valid and all, but it doesn’t do much to undermine the patriarchal gender system.