For example, I’m a white Jewish guy but I’ve adopted the Japanese practice of keeping dedicated house slippers at the front door.
From the USA: wearing a white t-shirt under my shirt or t-shirt. Helps preventing sweat stains under armpits. Really hot in the summer though
Try and get 100% cotton. It’s the polyester that makes it hot.
In the SW USA in summer it can get 117F (47C) and let me tell you, my dude, 100% cotton is still hot as hell.
I don’t know this for sure, but to me it seems like the whole suit and tie and jacket thing was a northern European tradition and eventually an eastern USA tradition where it’s cold. That shit don’t work in the desert, and those who continue to claim “professionalism” and maintain such stupid customs are fools, in my opinion.
I’m not middle eastern but those dudes have the correct answer to the desert. I really wish the thawb would catch on in the Sonoran Desert of the southwest USA.
just before the reddit strike there was a thread on /r/askhistorians about wearing layers in hot climates specifically referencing some cowboy-type TV shows. the historians were talking about how linens and even properly woven wool are a lot more comfortable in heat than cotton.
I have some linen and I can see it being the case but the cuts/styles are not to my liking. Maybe I will have some tailored one day.
I just bought bed linens for the first time. It is really breathable but a but scratchy so far.
I have been sleeping on linen as much as possible for ages. I have pieces from a few sources and I’ve never found them scratchy. Not sure why as everyone else has the same comment. My actual “sheets” are just yardage from a fabric store at the heaviest weight I could find and it was pleasant immediately. I do have one cushion case that’s kind of scratchy, I probably wouldn’t want to sleep on sheets like that.
Apparently it gets softer with laundering so just throw them in every time you do a wash I guess.
You got your linen bed sheets at a fabric store? Maybe I’ll take a trip to my local fabric store and see if I can feel them. Agreed about the wash thing. That’s why I’m sticking it out, hoping they get softer over time.
I got them at an online retailer. Extreme discount. I took a gamble as I thought it might not actually be linen at the price. Especially wide enough to make sheets. Don’t forget it shrinks.
Worthwhile going to a store to feel all what’s available, different weights, weaves etc. There might be a clothing or upholstery oriented place that has more useful. For textile-industry, do not expect meaningful online presences. A lot of fabric stores have a website from 1997. A few 200px photos of stacks of fabric, a list of random brand names, a phone number and an address. Call them and tell them you are interested in linen for drapery, sheets & upholstery and they will tell you if have have that kind of thing and if not where to go. But it is a touch and feel business so actually going is better.
Also the word “linen” is used to mean a lot of things. some of which contain no linen. you want “100% linen” and knowing about weights will help https://www.onlinefabricstore.com/makersmill/linen-fabric-product-guide/
I sew, and I wouldn’t even bother looking for linen in your local fabric stores. Most everything is going to be mixed with rayon and too narrow for sheets. That’s especially true if your local fabric store is Joann. I can recommend some online retailers, but my usual go-to in the past has been Ukrainian linen, and… uh, you know.
For your current sheets, it will take time for them to soften, but if you wash them on hot and tumble dry them, they’ll soften faster. There are multiple types of linen, and there’s a variety called softened linen where it’s been basically been beaten to soften the linen fibers and simulate wear. Linen that hasn’t been softened just hasn’t gone through that process and will be scratchier.
those who continue to claim “professionalism” and maintain such stupid customs are fools, in my opinion Not if you have AC at 65 everywhere! /s
I count with my thumb on my finger sections (what do you call them?) rather than my fingertips. So one hand comfortably counts to 12. (You can do a similar version, with a little more stretching, to count to 16… but I can’t be bothered, and besides, I like 12.)
Did you learn this during a brief vacation in ancient babylonia?
Ever since this rusty Delorean got abandoned outside my cul-de-sac, I’ve enjoyed regular visits to ancient Babylonia.
The power of the superior base 6 system was within our palms this entire time?!
Two hands, base 12 the mostest superior
One hand for base 12; two for 24! Actually I just use one hand, so my left hand would probably become a second digit. 144 counts on my fingers ftw!
I drink Yerba Mate, and I’m from Australia
You do it in the South American style? With all the equipment?
I will be once it arrives :)
Amazing. I am still learning how to keep the matte from clogging the straw
Before I quit drinking I believe I was following Russian culture with my vodka intake.
In that case, I live my life largely in the Jamaican style.
Drinking cheapest vodka possible chasing it with cheapest bear possible, then fight, sing, fight again, vomit all over the place, and fall asleep face down in a bowl of salad?
Russian bear fight YOU
no such thing as half a bottle of vodka
I heard Koreans use metal chopsticks and bought pack home. Took some time to learn how to use those but so much easier when I can put those in dishwasher.
I hate metal chopsticks. Maybe I’m a bad Korean. I just find that they don’t grip as well.
Gotta agree with you there. Although Korean spoons are the best!
Is this what you mean by Korean spoon? What is better about them? I really love the ceramic spoons you get with Chinese soup, those are great for stews.
Yes there are several things I like:
- Long handles prevent the part you actually hold from getting hot and they don’t fall into the bowl as often when you’re eating soup from a bigger bowl.
- The length also allows you to reach things further away when eating family style meals.
- The bowl shape is optimized for eating soup & rice. At the same time, bowl is not too deep that it is uncomfortable to eat non-soupy things.
- Being metal lets you use the spoon to cut and scrape things, ceramic spoons are harder to use for that purpose because they’re typically thicker and more rounded.
Nice. Thanks for the info. I’m kind of curious and want to try Korean spoons now.
Yeah, the Japanese ones are the easiest to use, but if you want to show off then using Korean ones is the ultra hard version. You get used to it though quite fast.
American, here. Got a bidet, and I am never going back. The fact that this isn’t standard in American households is disgusting.
Oh so true! Before I visited Japan for the first time I thought having shit left on my ass is just a normal thing. But later I also visited Morocco and they have a bucket of water on the toilet so you can wash yourself. It seems it’s only in Europe/America where people don’t wash themselves after pooping.
They have been disappearing in France, sadly, because people couldn’t afford the space…
I’m adding integrated bidets to all our toilets in our oncoming renovation though.I like the integrated ones much more anyway. I got one for our second toilet from my fiance for my birthday, she’s a keeper :D
There are bidets in many countries in Europe too. In Spain, most houses have them, and I’m pretty sure it’s the same thing in France and Italy.
Separate bidets are a thing, but only in older houses.
I was a week in Italy and never seen them. But it’s good to hear that it’s getting better.
Bidet life is best life
I got one just around the time that toilet paper was getting yanked off shelves at lightning speed, and it has ruined me for public toilets.
Peasant toilets. Hideous.
Love my bidet. I feel so clean and it’s so nice.
I got a bidet but then I read you have to turn it off at the connection to the water (at the bottom/back of toilet) every time or eventually the gasket can wear out and it will explode and the water will just go and go and go. If that happened at night or when noone is home you’d have major water damage!! I thought you could just use it with the trigger. Do people really actually fully stop the water every time? I uninstalled mine because I don’t think I can reliably remember to do that.
The T-adapter? That’s not mechanically complex and should literally last forever if made out of the correct materials and isn’t touched all the time. It should be no more fault prone than the connection to the toilet.
A misaligned thread or a washer not fitting quite right might be an issue from a bad install. That’s an easy fix though and you should see a leak before things go catastrophic.
If your really looking for piece of mind I’m sure there are t adapters that can close themselves down in certain failure states.
Been using a bidet for several years, and that has literally never happened. I think you might have gotten bad info.
Yes. Bidets should be opt-out at this point.
I was what I think we would now call a “weeb” in my junior/senior year of high school, and had studied Japanese culture before making a short trip over there in the summer. One of the things I learned was that blowing your nose in public is seen as bad manners, and it really stuck with me. When you think about it, it is pretty gross to loudly blow snot into a tissue (bonus points for carrying a handkerchief!) in front of others, like (as an American) we’ll just do this at the dinner table without batting an eye.
To this day, I try not to blow my nose in public places or in front of folks if I can avoid it, because it has grossed me out ever since learning how Japanese culture perceives it.
I’m American and I don’t think anyone in my social circle would blow their nose at the dinner table. Yours might just be gross.
Or, you’re an American who lives in a country/continent where there are a wide variety of people outside of your little bubble who have different backgrounds and different cultural norms that you’ve very likely never considered.
See, I can be demeaning too!
See, I can be demeaning too!
Good thing you explained what you were going for because it was kind of hard to follow.
You made an assertion about all americans:
like (as an American) we’ll just do this
and someone wished to dispute it based on their own experience.
You described a behaviour as gross and indicate that it is common in your social circles. How is it demeaning to says that your social circles are gross? @htrayl is agreeing with you
What do you think you’re supposed to do after rating spicy buffalo wings that make your nose run?
Sure there’s some settings where you don’t do it (or do it quietly). Many restaurants are also loud enough that you won’t even hear it unless you’re listening to it.
Wtf? That is super gross. I’m Canadian and I don’t know anyone who would do it at the dinner table. I’ve seen my boss do it at his desk but he turns to face the corner next to his desk first.
Ime most people go to the washroom to do it, or at least make sure they’re not near anyone else.
It seems to me to be worse manners to just leave your snot as leaking out or making you sniffle. Better to get it over with rather than make people listen to that for minutes to hours.
How could I adopt a practice from a culture that isn’t my own? What constitutes ownership of a culture other than its adoption, and what is culture other than a set of adopted practices?
This seems unnecessarily pedantic given the harmlessness of cross-cultural pollination but I’ll take the question in good faith.
Obviously all cultural practices are necessarily adopted from individuals, groups, and other cultures. What I mean is that some cultures have practices that differ from the ones that are commonplace in the ones you may have grown up in or currently live within. I’m asking about those practices, the ones that aren’t necessarily homegrown or common in your own life.
So the culture one grew up in one’s “own” culture. Reasonable definition.
I grew up in Illinois. My mother made stollen each Christmas because she had encountered it in Germany as a traveling 20-something and she kept it.
It’s not my culture as an American, but as a member of my family it is my culture. This kind of thing is why I ask.
If you wanted to participate in the discussion with a less abrasive nature, you could share that story from your mother’s perspeyand how it became your own personal culture.
However, I would consider it not to be your culture, but a family tradition. Your culture is more rooted in community than just your own family in my opinion.
I think if you open your mind a little you may discover someone challenging your beliefs can be helpful to a conversation.
That’s part of the culture I grew up in: arguing and challenging each other as part of talking. Feel free to try it out or adopt it.
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Persuasion works best when you work off commonalities rather than differences. Though I understand you’re trying to go for combative argumentation.
I know that. I’m a salesman. I don’t talk to my customers like I talk to people here, because when I’m talking to a customer my goal is persuasion.
I am very suspect of persuasion as a motivation for conversing socially. I can do it to make money, but who am I to think that others accepting my ideas is more important than honesty? I might be wrong! If I follow the safe path that makes everybody like me, when will I ever know that I’m wrong?
I’ve always been an outsider. Maybe I always will be, because this always nice stuff just seems slimy to me. It’s exactly how the villains in the cartoons I watched growing up behaved: everybody’s friend, always pleasant, saying the most popular thing.
maybe read up on softening statements
You know I understand you. That was the way with me too. It took me a long time into adulthood to tone that down as I wasn’t making friends and people seemed to think I was an asshole. It really sucked cause I seriously didn’t mean any harm or disrespect, but most took it that way for some reason.
Now, after endless questioning of myself, I’ve learned to adapt to my audience.
I have a really hard time with it because it seems so non-spontaneous. What even is the point of discussing things without disagreement?
I see these conversations that are just people agreeing with each other and I just don’t get it. I don’t want to be a part of it.
But I don’t want to be alone.
Err, I don’t see a point in disagreeing for the sake of it - I have a similar problem to you though. I get awkward or silent when I don’t have anything original, new or even interesting to say, like you are uncomfortable with ‘agreement’.
Mmmmm… stollen. Can’t go without my stollen on Christmas and I’m American too.
Call your friend a cunt in America: people lose their shit.
Call your friend a cunt in the UK or Aussieland: Everyone laughs.
Culture is sometimes a very nuanced thing.
Stretching. I think this originally came from southeast Asia, its so far back that its hard to discover. But I stretch every single morning. As a Native American I need that to limber up so I can dance, which I enjoy doing.
Sleeping on a thin futon laid out on the floor (Japan / Korea). And riding a bike or e-bike everywhere (Netherlands), even though US cities and infrastructure are hostile to humans
oh man. im so the opposite. I got a higher bedframe so getting up and down is even easier.
a raised bed helps to keep pests off. whats the benefit of a ground bed?
Also better for bending over, standing beside, hanging off of and various other things… man I’d hate to just have a mat on the floor. How tragic.
I cross my sevens like a German.
I adopted this years ago so I could tell the difference between a 1 and a 7 😁
This is a German thing? I know tons of people here in Canada who do it.
It’s done all over Europe. They also have a fancy 1 that’s nice because it doesn’t look like a lower case l. I’m not positive that the 1 is used outside France though but it’s the standard in France. https://ielanguages.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/davidsno.jpg
Yep, we do that too. It’s called a Serif, though it being a French word I’d guess you know that.
I thought it was a Spanish speaking country thing only until this comment
They do the fancy 7 all over Europe.
When you indicate the number 3 with your hand, which fingers do you hold up?
Thumb, index, middle fingers?
Middle, ring, pinky (small finger) fingers?
Index, middle, ring fingers?
I heard Germans do it one of these ways, English does it another, and Americans does it yet another way. Don’t know if it’s true, but I think I saw that in some movie. Maybe Inglourious Basterds by Quentin Tarantino?
I swap between 1) index, middle, and ring and 2) thumb, index, and middle because I was raised with 1) but learned to do 2) while learning American Sign Language, as 1) in ASL means the letter W.
I still do that the right way. Pointer, middle and ring.
I am European and I don’t cross them, or any other character (except ‘t’ and ‘f’)
I cross the lowercase z (I write it without a loop).
You’ve adopted that from North American culture then.
I eat mostly with chopsticks.
…which I totally mis-read as chapsticks and was wondering where you get chapsticks long enough to eat with 🤦♀️😅
I never show the bottom of my shoe and think less of those who do. Learned this while traveling in Asia.
edit - Example of this is kicking my feet up on a stool at the local pub.
Never heard of this. What’s the reason behind Asian culture not showing the bottom of your shoes?
You are showing someone the bottom of your shoe as a means of saying they are “beneath” you. This is also true for middle eastern countries I believe.
Makes sense, thank you
Adding to this, stepping on something can be interpreted as similar. In a guide book for Thailand, it was advised that if a bank note falls on the ground, you should not step on it to stop it blowing away. Placing your foot on a picture of the king would be a sign of disrespect. You could get arrested!
Similarly, when sitting on the ground, say in a groupz you should ensure your feet aren’t pointing at anyone else.
It is common in the middle east, with some leeway. Like if someone is sitting diagonal to you such that your foot isn’t directly facing them, it’s okay. Unless its a professional meeting, then having your foot up is just disrespectful, but I imagine that goes for most countries.
Reminds me of some folks in school who were horrified that others were sitting on tables/desks. The idea that you’d put your butt where someone would eat seen as highly disrespectful.
theres some old Russian proverb that civilization began with the tablecloth.
Drink tea. Adopted from Japanese Anime.
I set all my digital clocks to 24hr mode, something I picked up after living in Europe. Would never go back.
One of us! Now shift to metric!
I actually use some metric when measuring around the house for projects, especially for anything shorter than an inch. I can’t be bothered to figure out 1/16 of an inch…it’s easier in mm.
Likewise. I just found it much easier when trying to schedule my day. Not having to account for the switch from 12-1 makes the math simpler.
