dunk tank because we’re dunking on this lady’s baby daddy
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Average length of labor for primapara is 18-21 hours, the part where I have to be in the room is usually under an hour
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Can confirm that the parental expectations for men are very low. Verbally and in the media/culture the expectations are higher but for real life boots on the ground parenting one gets lauded for doing not very much at all
Honey… can’t you take out the trash for me? I’m trying to catch the BIG GAME with the boys!
You’d think so, but if you are a single older guy, ‘Being nice to people.’ is seen as ‘Being desperate for attention or interaction’, at least until you hang out enough for people to realize ‘oh no, he’s fine with being ignored he’s just a nice guy.’ Which is wild to me because I see being an obnoxious asshole as being desperate for attention.
Social situations are completely fucked these days, especially with dating because of the toxic shit that both men and women are taught by ‘dating gurus’ on the internet. What happens is that people ask their friends advice on stuff, but their friends who are into these types of relationship dramas are getting their advice from people who are pushed on the algorithm, who are almost all people who are complete drama freaks. The amount of normalization (and romanticization) of whacky creepy behavior is wild.
The amount of normalization (and romanticization) of whacky creepy behavior is wild.
TikTok is a nightmare world of glorifying precious smol bean quirky abusers.
Seriously, the shit that I get praised for as a man is concerning. It’s apparently unusual for a guy to talk about his spouse or baby approvingly, or to say ‘thank you’ to a fast food worker
Ever have one of those “How the fuck am I still single, when this is my competition?!” moments?
Personally I think my problem is not replying to texts reliably, women seem to hate that
I know right everytime I go several months without talking to a woman the relationship is basically over
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That’s just when they respond to my first message which is very rarely because I also suck at the opening message, I have no idea what to say most of the time
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Also with jobs
Almost every goddamn day of my life, but I know the answer is that I don’t put myself out there or make an effort to meet new people/potential love interests. I think I would make a good partner for someone, it’s just a matter of actually seeking people out. Just sucks that guys are expected to make the first move most of the time and I’m terrible at gauging someone’s interest in me.
same. but there is nowhere to “put myself out there” anyways, besides dating apps which don’t work
yes :(
Just waiting for that special lady who will see me in my stained hoodie (it has a hole and stretched out sleeve cuffs) and walk all the way to the edge of the room to greet me. She will have just come away from arguing with her slightly-less-politically coherent friends and will see that I am reading a book.
“I’m sorry, is that Grapes of Wrath?” she will ask me.
I will say that yes, it is, but I’m only reading it as a change of pace from my usual material. When she asks me what my usual is, I will lean in, and say softly, “animal facts.”
It sure is very nice to be told that the bar is on the floor, when you still haven’t managed to clear it.
kind of a mean title
The bar is on the floor when you’re already dating that person.
Every fucking day, doubled whenever I interact with cishet men
Literally every time I read something like this
But then I remember I barely leave my house due to Covid, don’t really like meeting people or going out anyway, and the last relationship I was in we broke up because she held extremely bourgeois values and was an anticommunist. So sometimes the women are just as reactionary as the men, and also I do myself no favors being a crank shut in. So it actually makes complete sense why I’m single.
Crank shut-in volcel gang, we
outin here.
This guy sounds like a Connor O’Malley bit.
Pretty sure you’re fine being on your phone here and there. Especially for the long ass labours that go 24 hours sometimes. The porn is a weird though you can go without that.
Seriously though, what’s even the point of watching porn if you’re not pounding off?
Is it just an addiction?
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The nice thing about divorce in this case is that the kids wouldn’t have a father in their life anyway.
you right tho
My partner had to get an endoscopy a couple of weeks ago and I sat with her the whole time, holding her hand and talking
The only time she was out of my sight was during the actual procedure and the second she was in recovery, I went back and sat with her until she was ready to have me drive her back home
I can’t even imagine doing any less for someone I love
Obvious bait
I don’t think anyone is aloof enough to watch porn during delivery. Watching it while everyone is waiting and the doctors don’t want you interfering with their procedure? Probably if you’re that much of a cumbrain. The more realistic scenario I can see is the husband just standing there awkwardly in the back because he doesn’t want to be ‘disgusted’ by the sight
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I have never seen that word used anywhere but this site. 4chan uses coomer but ultimately means the same thing
Ask an actual L&D nurse sometime. They have seen some shit.
L&D nurses have had to forcibly remove husbands off their post-partum wives because they were trying to force themselves on them. It is a disgusting world out there.
I didn’t want to bring that up, but yes, I’ve heard exactly those kinds of stories too.
Hol up… I’m fucking speechless. I’ve seen some shit in my life, and I’m really desensitized to fucked up things. But this is a whole new depravity to me, like it would never occur to me that this was a thing someone might do.
I’m sorry to say that it happens and nurses see some of the worst of humanity.
yeah a lot of reddit posts def seem like bait. this sort of thing does happen though
reddit
In some places they don’t let the father be in the same room as the mother during birth. Presumably it’s because this shit happened too many times and the hospital wants to spare future moms the indignity.
fr tho I can’t even be on my phone if there’s someone in the same room vacuuming or doing dishes, I gotta get up and do something equivalent. This is actual sociopath behavior to me.
I gotta get up and do something equivalent.
In a statement related to birthing this sentence fills me with terror on your behalf
what do you mean you’ll do something equivalent
obviously I mean there’s gonna be two babies somehow.
That’s really fucking sad. The moment of my kids birth was the happiest moment in my life.
Same here. Also one of the most memorable. It’s also incredibly nerve racking, I was worried for my wife and baby. I didn’t watch the actual birth because I don’t do well with stuff like that, but I was right beside the bed the entire time. I don’t remember where my phone was, but it definitely wasn’t with me.
everyone around me acting like it’s a totally normal thing to be WATCHING PORN IN THE SAME ROOM YOUR LABORING WIFE IS IN
Honestly I think it’s weird that culturally we’ve leaned into making birth a weird medical horror date night. Isn’t it better to just not be in the doctors’ way?
Surgery and medical events are difficult and traumatic even when it’s routine and normal. It’s good to be there to wave the flag for your partner. Go visit your friends and family when they’re in the hospital - they will be happy to see you.
id like my bf to be there for any major surgeries, im definitely ok with him being on the phone in the moments where im not having a hard time tho. tbh would prefer if he put something on for us to both focus on
Isn’t it better to just not be in the doctors’ way?
Honestly, you kind of have to be there to make sure your partner is getting the appropriate care, along with providing emotional support for a long, exhausting and painful process.
Valid point, especially in cases like these where a misogynistic doctor might tune out a woman until her partner also goes squeaky-wheel.
Add in
and it’s even worse. Rough time!
“partner” doing a lot of work in that sentence
what in the fuck
