Oh my god I’ve got so many 😭

  • Chariotwheel
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    292 years ago

    I think we had the basics covered early. Too early maybe. I remember holding a presentation in grade school about AIDS, but that was half made by my grandma and I barely understood what I was reading from my papers.

    • Christian
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      72 years ago

      I think we had the basics covered early. Too early maybe.

      I basically had my sex ed delayed a year or two from the other students because as a fourth grader I would mostly just tune out when the teacher started talking.

  • @[email protected]
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    972 years ago

    at 17yo I thought my circumcision scar was a birthmark and I didn’t know you had to have sex at least once per pregnancy

    parents, please tell your kids where babies come from and what all their parts are supposed to do, and don’t circumcise them either

  • @[email protected]
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    2452 years ago

    I learned in college (from my nurse girlfriend) that if a girl is taking antibiotics that it invalidates her birth control pills for the month and you need to use condoms until after her period.

    Spread the word, brothers.

    • @[email protected]
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      That’s not really true.

      Sure it’s true for rifampicin and rifabutin (and maybe one more similar one). But those are used to treat TB.

      All the standard ones you’d take are fine for birth control.

      Edit: Thanks to some people who are more knowledgeable than me on the topic, there are some others, or secondary effects you should consider.

      Moral of the story: if in doubt ALWAYS use more contraception. Best to be safe out there.

      • @[email protected]
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        222 years ago

        It has two components. While Rifampicin and Rifabutin (and Penicillin,Amoxi and a few others) are directly showing effects on the contraceptives drugs effects, there is another factor that shouldn’t be underestimated: ABs can and will cause digestive symptoms, fastening gastric passage and that alone is known to reduce the effectiveness of hormonal contraceptives countless times.

        • @[email protected]
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          62 years ago

          That is true. I didn’t think of it from that angle. I haven’t read too much into that. But now I will. Thanks for the info.

          For the record, always use secondary contraception if you’re in doubt. I should have said that in my first post.

        • @[email protected]
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          192 years ago

          It’s easier to tell people to just use a rubber when on antibiotics rathern than explain to them that it’s only for some unpronounceable substances for most of the population and have them memorize a list of substances for which it’s safe to go on as usual - azithromycin is safe, amoxicillin is not. They may sound fairly similar to a layman.

          It’s because some substances (in this case, antibiotics) mess with the units in your body that process them and prepare them for excretion. They may inhibit or induce them, but these units process a whole load of other stuff. Including birth control, which can lead to less activity from the birth control pills because they’re inactivated quicker (in case of induction) or the biotransformation to the active form is slower (in case of inhibition, for prodrugs that are inactive as is, but have active metabolites, no idea if this is the case for birth control though).

          A similar thing happens with alcohol, for example, which is why you should always be honest with exactly how much alcohol you drink or what other drugs you take when talking to an anaesthesiologist, or any doctor prescribing you any sort of medicine, lest you risk ineffective anaesthesia or treatment (the first one is worse imo).

          • @[email protected]
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            52 years ago

            100 % agreed. I was just being pedantic I guess. Sorry for that.

            I really should have said ALWAYS use more contraception if you’re unsure about anything. Best to be safe.

            Good thing about this is now I have some interesting things to read up on.

        • @[email protected]
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          52 years ago

          It may be? I found a few references from like 2019, but as someone else posted above, there’s a lot more to consider than just the antibiotic interfering with the birth control. Digestive tract things. Definitely take a look at the post I’m referring to.

          But as I SHOULD have said in my original post, ALWAYS use more methods of contraception if you’re unsure. Best to be safe.

  • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
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    622 years ago

    well my sex ed consisted of a man who would later that year get fired for hitting a student telling us that premarital sex will result in pregnancy and then having us perform a play I can only describe as racially charged about the subject

    after being fired he went on to become a far right politician

    • Ashu
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      82 years ago

      What does Ace mean, if you don’t mind me asking?

      • sharedburdens [she/her, comrade/them]
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        182 years ago

        It’s short for asexual, which is a spectrum of not feeling sexual attraction. Personally I still have a sex drive, and seek out relationships, but I really don’t feel sexual attraction to people, I have to like them for other reasons. I even routinely go on dates with friends who are poly- but it’s just to be friends.

        • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
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          162 years ago

          I even routinely go on dates with friends who are poly- but it’s just to be friends.

          Isn’t that just going to dinner with friends

          • sharedburdens [she/her, comrade/them]
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            I mean one on one, to most outside observers that looks like a date. I’ve run into problems before I really figured things out when I was trying to be friends with people, only to have enraged exes jumping to all sorts of conclusions.

  • @[email protected]
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    302 years ago

    I learned way too late about the fertility cycle of my female reproductive organs. What, I can feel my cervix, if I just reach into my vagina deep enough?! And oh, so during my fertile days, my vulva will get slippery, my cervix is soft like my earlobe, and my cervical mucus becomes stretchy like egg white?! Also, my body temperature rises?! And on the not-so-fertile days, my cervix is closed, feels harder (like the tip of my nose), and none or less mucus. That’s wild, so much to learn about a body that I thought I knew!

    (You can use these observations to contracept or to become pregnant, but if you do, please inform yourself about Natural Family Planning (NFP) or the sympto-thermal method. It takes a routine and some experience for it to be reliable, but once you get the hang of it, it is awesome!)

    • @[email protected]
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      32 years ago

      Also, natural family planning should only be used on fully developed females. If you’re still developing, such as teenage years, they’re not reliable.

    • NX2
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      52 years ago

      You just made everyone touch their tip of their nose

  • @[email protected]OP
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    One teacher allowed girls bathroom breaks without a question but not guys and we thought it was bc girls can’t hold pee in since they don’t have dicks.

    If you can’t tell sex ed doesnt exist in this part of the world

    Hell that’s not even sex ed but anatomy ig

  • @[email protected]OP
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    1462 years ago

    Believed this until I was like 16 and so did everyone else in our school.

    A girl did anal and got pregnant and since it was anal that got her pregnant she was gonna poop out the baby. Funny thing is I was part of the group conversation that started this rumor and STILL we all believed it.

  • eXAt [he/him]
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    262 years ago

    Not my info but this year a classmate confided in me the following:

    “it took an embarrassingly long time to realize that men have multiple holes on their penis”.

    I thought she was joking but she was dead serious, (she was from a very conservative family to put it mildly and had been withheld from sex-ed their entire life). For some reason they insisted arguing about it with me and the other guy present.

    I was 22 and she was 21.

  • PeludoPorFavor [he/him]
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    292 years ago

    idk if ‘embarassingly’ late, but, I assumed that doggy style was always anal, and vaginal sex was missionary for a while lol.

    • Trollivier
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      I meannnnnn I’m pretty sure my mom still thinks this. When I was a late teen / young adult, we watched the movie “Quest for fire” together.

      When one of the protagonists starts having sex with one of the women, doggy style, my mom said “Well they won’t get very strong children doing it this way”. An idiom in French Canada to say conception won’t happen.

    • @[email protected]
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      122 years ago

      Sometimes they recommend you go three months without a period. Apparently it can be healthier. And the body doesn’t really know any better after you’ve got used to it.

    • kase
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      42 years ago

      yup! I have endometriosis and was on the pill continuously ages 15-18. It doesn’t work out for everybody, but it was a lifesaver for me. Debilitating symptoms went bye bye, and pretty soon I was back in school (after a few months’ absence).

      • Turun
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        152 years ago

        The pill works by tricking the body into thinking you’re pregnant. There is no reason why you could not take the pill (with hormones in it) for nine months straight.

      • @[email protected]
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        The Team that Invented the Birth Control Pill - The Atlantic

        https://archive.ph/enn5j

        He told Rock to have his patients stop taking the pills for five days each month. Their hormone levels would return to normal, their symptoms would ease, and they would have their periods. Rock liked the idea. It would make the pill seem more natural, like a scientific version of the rhythm method.

        So yes, your right, the sugar pill was added to help people count the 5 days of no hormones correctly.

        But the only reason for the 5 day hormone gap in the initial recommendations was to make users feel more natural, and not think they were pregnant.

        Though the history is fascinating, always worth a read!

        • InEnduringGrowStrong
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          102 years ago

          My gf does this, but eventually starts bleeding despite the continued (non-sugar) pills. Usually takes several months of skipping the sugar pills.
          She then stops taking them, has a normal cycle or two to reset things as it were and starts over.

          We’re also still young enough that no doc agrees on sterilization, but old enough to know we’re never changing our minds.

    • @[email protected]
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      Yeah, as i posted above, im a medical interpreter and yeah, birth control methods, not only hormonal, will stop menstruation, and that is normal. They actually prescribe birth control pills to women that bleed too much and have iron deficiencies because of it.

      Edit: As an anecdote, i went out for a time with a girl that told me that she took birth control pills because her period was too heavy, and that once she forgot to take them and that she was bleeding for 20 minutes in the shower, and that she was very scared. Femininity goes hard sometimes I guess lol.

    • Tar_Alcaran
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      Also, the pill does sometimes fail. Rarely if you do things perfectly (99% succes), but since we’re all human, things rarely go perfectly (91% succes rate in real life). If you normally have a cycle of bleeding once a month, you have a nice solid clue to go take a pregnancy test when you don’t bleed once a month.

      But yeah, you don’t really HAVE to. My next period is planned for early 2026.

      • @[email protected]
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        92 years ago

        According to my schedule Estrus we are going to have to push you back. We’ll call you when times available.

  • @[email protected]
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    Not sex related, but I learned it in sex ed. Most males do not have a big depression in their chest. Turns out that the males in my family happened to have a condition known as Pectus Excavatum.

    • NX2
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      12 years ago

      I have that (sort of)

      Some pictures if you search that look way worse than I have it. But for example it impacts my ability to run for a long time because I will get side-stich faster

  • @[email protected]
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    1042 years ago

    I had to explain to a girl that no, we should not have sex while you have a UTI. She was in her mid 30’s.

    • @[email protected]
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      152 years ago

      Worked in an ED/still work as a paramedic occasionally.

      You don’t want to know how many times I had to explain this shit to a grown woman, sometimes 30y older than me.

    • @[email protected]OP
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      382 years ago

      Sometimes you’re just in the zone man. Consequences be damned (pls dont do this this is not real advice)

      • @[email protected]
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        392 years ago

        So if one partner has a UTI, the other partner could get the UTI (even asymptomatically) and they could keep reinfecting each other in a hilarious game of tag.

        Or if one partner has multiple partner they could spread the UTI around, even if they are asymptomatic.