Oh my god I’ve got so many 😭

    • Ashu
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      82 years ago

      What does Ace mean, if you don’t mind me asking?

      • sharedburdens [she/her, comrade/them]
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        182 years ago

        It’s short for asexual, which is a spectrum of not feeling sexual attraction. Personally I still have a sex drive, and seek out relationships, but I really don’t feel sexual attraction to people, I have to like them for other reasons. I even routinely go on dates with friends who are poly- but it’s just to be friends.

        • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
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          162 years ago

          I even routinely go on dates with friends who are poly- but it’s just to be friends.

          Isn’t that just going to dinner with friends

          • sharedburdens [she/her, comrade/them]
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            I mean one on one, to most outside observers that looks like a date. I’ve run into problems before I really figured things out when I was trying to be friends with people, only to have enraged exes jumping to all sorts of conclusions.

  • CptKrkIsClmbngThMntn [any]
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    172 years ago

    Not really a hilarious assumption, but it was only this year that I actually learned anything more than the names of a few STIs. It’s good to familiarize yourself with the risk profiles and treatment options of the common ones, and get tested regularly if you’re sexually active.

  • I did not understand orgasms or realize I wasn’t having them with my partners until I finally did have one. 😂 I genuinely didn’t understand that it could feel that good until it did.

    Another win for abstinence-based sex ed in rural America!

    • @[email protected]
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      392 years ago

      That is a win in their perspective. For those types, sex is something a woman lets her man do to her. Her pleasure is not even secondary, it isn’t even a consideration.

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      How does one not know what an orgasm is supposed to feel like??? Like did you never masturbate or anything (I feel rude saying that, pls feel free to ignore the invasion of privacy).

      But also being on reddit taught me that this is smth many women have gone through

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        In my experience it’s women who squirt that are more likely not to know what an orgasm is supposed to feel like. They’ll definitely feel good, like edging, then get to a point where it feels like they’ve overstimulated themselves to the point of peeing the bed and stop. Not realizing there’s a “getting over the hill” moment to an orgasm.

    • UlyssesT [he/him]
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      392 years ago

      Ever meet a true fedora-tipping gentlesir that insisted that feeemale orgasms can’t exist because there would be no biological purpose to them?

      They’re out there. expert-shapiro

      • @[email protected]
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        I’ve never understood why “feel good makes men want to do it more” can’t be applied to women as well

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          The way I’ve seen logiclords explain it, it’s because male orgasms result in sperm ejaculation, and feeemale orgasms do not, therefore feeeemale orgasms have no such contributing factor to conception therefore they have no reason to exist. kubrick-stare

  • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
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    well my sex ed consisted of a man who would later that year get fired for hitting a student telling us that premarital sex will result in pregnancy and then having us perform a play I can only describe as racially charged about the subject

    after being fired he went on to become a far right politician

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    I learned in college (from my nurse girlfriend) that if a girl is taking antibiotics that it invalidates her birth control pills for the month and you need to use condoms until after her period.

    Spread the word, brothers.

    • @[email protected]
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      That’s not really true.

      Sure it’s true for rifampicin and rifabutin (and maybe one more similar one). But those are used to treat TB.

      All the standard ones you’d take are fine for birth control.

      Edit: Thanks to some people who are more knowledgeable than me on the topic, there are some others, or secondary effects you should consider.

      Moral of the story: if in doubt ALWAYS use more contraception. Best to be safe out there.

        • @[email protected]
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          It may be? I found a few references from like 2019, but as someone else posted above, there’s a lot more to consider than just the antibiotic interfering with the birth control. Digestive tract things. Definitely take a look at the post I’m referring to.

          But as I SHOULD have said in my original post, ALWAYS use more methods of contraception if you’re unsure. Best to be safe.

        • @[email protected]
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          It’s easier to tell people to just use a rubber when on antibiotics rathern than explain to them that it’s only for some unpronounceable substances for most of the population and have them memorize a list of substances for which it’s safe to go on as usual - azithromycin is safe, amoxicillin is not. They may sound fairly similar to a layman.

          It’s because some substances (in this case, antibiotics) mess with the units in your body that process them and prepare them for excretion. They may inhibit or induce them, but these units process a whole load of other stuff. Including birth control, which can lead to less activity from the birth control pills because they’re inactivated quicker (in case of induction) or the biotransformation to the active form is slower (in case of inhibition, for prodrugs that are inactive as is, but have active metabolites, no idea if this is the case for birth control though).

          A similar thing happens with alcohol, for example, which is why you should always be honest with exactly how much alcohol you drink or what other drugs you take when talking to an anaesthesiologist, or any doctor prescribing you any sort of medicine, lest you risk ineffective anaesthesia or treatment (the first one is worse imo).

          • @[email protected]
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            100 % agreed. I was just being pedantic I guess. Sorry for that.

            I really should have said ALWAYS use more contraception if you’re unsure about anything. Best to be safe.

            Good thing about this is now I have some interesting things to read up on.

      • @[email protected]
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        It has two components. While Rifampicin and Rifabutin (and Penicillin,Amoxi and a few others) are directly showing effects on the contraceptives drugs effects, there is another factor that shouldn’t be underestimated: ABs can and will cause digestive symptoms, fastening gastric passage and that alone is known to reduce the effectiveness of hormonal contraceptives countless times.

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          That is true. I didn’t think of it from that angle. I haven’t read too much into that. But now I will. Thanks for the info.

          For the record, always use secondary contraception if you’re in doubt. I should have said that in my first post.

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    I learned way too late about the fertility cycle of my female reproductive organs. What, I can feel my cervix, if I just reach into my vagina deep enough?! And oh, so during my fertile days, my vulva will get slippery, my cervix is soft like my earlobe, and my cervical mucus becomes stretchy like egg white?! Also, my body temperature rises?! And on the not-so-fertile days, my cervix is closed, feels harder (like the tip of my nose), and none or less mucus. That’s wild, so much to learn about a body that I thought I knew!

    (You can use these observations to contracept or to become pregnant, but if you do, please inform yourself about Natural Family Planning (NFP) or the sympto-thermal method. It takes a routine and some experience for it to be reliable, but once you get the hang of it, it is awesome!)

    • NX2
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      You just made everyone touch their tip of their nose

    • @[email protected]
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      Also, natural family planning should only be used on fully developed females. If you’re still developing, such as teenage years, they’re not reliable.

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    My high school sex ed never taught anything gay or anal. So I knew to wear a condom with my first girlfriend, but until I was a freshman in college (a year ago…) I didn’t realize it’s important to wear one with a guy too. First gay experience, we’d been seeing each other for a month and I thought I was pretty ready, sock on the dorm door and everything, but then bro asked me if I had a condom and I was like “huh?” And obviously I didn’t so he just gave me head instead

    For whatever reason I thought condoms only helped in vaginal sex, since that’s the only thing they taught its use for. Didn’t really know how gay and bi men prevent STIs other than monogamy and a few other assumptions. Part of that stupidity was probably just me being optimistic and horny brained about not having to wear anything

    • PorkRollWobbly
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      Why do you need to know about safe gay sex when you’re just going to die and go to hell anyway? /S

      I’m sorry you weren’t taught better but glad you didn’t have to learnt the hard way.

      • @[email protected]
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        I did have to learn the hard way. There’s me, tied up, horny, ready to finally find out what it’s like to get fucked, and this guy puts on a condom.

        Far too much friction. Ridiculously painful. And it wasn’t from the pressure; it was from the friction.

        I don’t know if the lube that wasn’t working or what. This guy did have a dom style that was 100% based on pain though. Like he was just a straight up sadist more than he was a power tripper.

  • @[email protected]
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    I had a friend once who thought that doubling up on a condom meant double protection. That’s a huge no no.

    • @[email protected]
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      I knew someone who said women’s vagina had 5 holes and seriously argued with me about it. I thought he was trying to troll me and when he said he paid a prostitute and looked up close I just left without saying anything else.

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        Technically a vagina has six holes (assuming this guy is talking about the whole genital when he says vagina):

        The urethra, where pee comes out

        The vagina, where sex

        Two paraurethral glands (Skene’s glands), which secrete lubricating mucous during arousal and also produce female ejaculate when squirting (it’s not piss!) - these glands are analogous to prostatic glands in males

        Two greater vestibular glands (Bartholin glands, which are paravaginal), which also secrete lubricating fluid.

        Although I would advise against putting anything in those last four (they are visible to the naked eye but still very small). Also not sure how he counted 5.

        • @[email protected]
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          This was around 30 years ago maybe more. But I’m 99.99% sure he had no idea what a gland is or any anotomical knowledge to know where to look. At the time his only real life experience in person with a vagina was when he came to this world.

  • SirStumps
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    I learned a lot about the human reproductive system in both male and females while I lived in Maryland. I moved to Texas and I learned that women are sinners and so they suffer every month and men have OP rib bones.

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    Believed this until I was like 16 and so did everyone else in our school.

    A girl did anal and got pregnant and since it was anal that got her pregnant she was gonna poop out the baby. Funny thing is I was part of the group conversation that started this rumor and STILL we all believed it.

  • Chariotwheel
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    I think we had the basics covered early. Too early maybe. I remember holding a presentation in grade school about AIDS, but that was half made by my grandma and I barely understood what I was reading from my papers.

    • Christian
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      I think we had the basics covered early. Too early maybe.

      I basically had my sex ed delayed a year or two from the other students because as a fourth grader I would mostly just tune out when the teacher started talking.

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      Yeah, as i posted above, im a medical interpreter and yeah, birth control methods, not only hormonal, will stop menstruation, and that is normal. They actually prescribe birth control pills to women that bleed too much and have iron deficiencies because of it.

      Edit: As an anecdote, i went out for a time with a girl that told me that she took birth control pills because her period was too heavy, and that once she forgot to take them and that she was bleeding for 20 minutes in the shower, and that she was very scared. Femininity goes hard sometimes I guess lol.

      • Turun
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        The pill works by tricking the body into thinking you’re pregnant. There is no reason why you could not take the pill (with hormones in it) for nine months straight.

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        The Team that Invented the Birth Control Pill - The Atlantic

        https://archive.ph/enn5j

        He told Rock to have his patients stop taking the pills for five days each month. Their hormone levels would return to normal, their symptoms would ease, and they would have their periods. Rock liked the idea. It would make the pill seem more natural, like a scientific version of the rhythm method.

        So yes, your right, the sugar pill was added to help people count the 5 days of no hormones correctly.

        But the only reason for the 5 day hormone gap in the initial recommendations was to make users feel more natural, and not think they were pregnant.

        Though the history is fascinating, always worth a read!

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          My gf does this, but eventually starts bleeding despite the continued (non-sugar) pills. Usually takes several months of skipping the sugar pills.
          She then stops taking them, has a normal cycle or two to reset things as it were and starts over.

          We’re also still young enough that no doc agrees on sterilization, but old enough to know we’re never changing our minds.

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      Also, the pill does sometimes fail. Rarely if you do things perfectly (99% succes), but since we’re all human, things rarely go perfectly (91% succes rate in real life). If you normally have a cycle of bleeding once a month, you have a nice solid clue to go take a pregnancy test when you don’t bleed once a month.

      But yeah, you don’t really HAVE to. My next period is planned for early 2026.

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        According to my schedule Estrus we are going to have to push you back. We’ll call you when times available.

    • @[email protected]
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      Sometimes they recommend you go three months without a period. Apparently it can be healthier. And the body doesn’t really know any better after you’ve got used to it.

    • kase
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      yup! I have endometriosis and was on the pill continuously ages 15-18. It doesn’t work out for everybody, but it was a lifesaver for me. Debilitating symptoms went bye bye, and pretty soon I was back in school (after a few months’ absence).