I say Hello Sister. I also say hello mother or father too. My family is weird though.
Greeting, paternal figure.
Is that only when you’re at Camp Grenada?
I do the same thing. My family’s not weird though, just me.
If there is a preamble of any kind, it’s “Dude” followed by a story of some kind. But usually it’s just like… Stream of consciousness. Like. A text will be “so, this thing happened.” Or we send memes. That’s it. Sometimes we say “hey”.
It’s never too late to reevaluate and remove abusive relationships from your life. Whether old friends, mates from school, parents or siblings, absolutely no one is entitled to your time and emotional energy. By giving yourself some distance, you may realize contacts maintained out of social obligation or fear of loneliness were actually anchors preventing you from seeking your own happiness.
Nothing wrong with continuing them as is or returning to them after some time to find clarity, either. But it is worth remembering, all of this is entirely under your control.Chicken Wing is the preferred nickname both ways between myself and my younger brother. No clue how it started exactly.
For us it’s Gollum. Girls and boys alike. Everyone is Gollum.
That’s pretty much how some Asians call their siblings
It’s like title and first name, right? Like the way English speakers will say “uncle John” you would call your grandmother “grandma $firstname”?
Pretty much just the title. You wouldn’t use the name of an elder or superior.
Edit: I’m speaking directly of Korean. I think your comment was related to Asia in general and I didn’t follow the response lines correctly.
Oh ok. Thanks for informing me.
I think a lot of this weird writing comes from anime and manga where they translate it like this from Japanese
Yeah, in Korea, if you are a boy and have an older sister, you have to call her “nuna”. Your older brother “hyeong”. If you are a girl, your older sister is “onni” and your older brother is “oppa” (which also carries the unfortunate sexual connotation like calling someone “daddy” in English.) Thankfully at least all younger siblings are "dongsaeng"s. No wonder shit gets translated like this.
Ahh yeah, you also have to use these terms with your friends that are older and younger than you. If any Korean tells you someone is their sister or brother and it seems unlikely, it’s because they mean that they are their older or younger friends, but the only person that Koreans actually call “friend” (chingu) are people the same age as them.
I’ve always struggled explaining this to people. I was taken aback for a long time in that one of the first questions upon meeting someone new was how old I was. I didn’t understand that it’s embedded within the language to establish this.
I read an interesting linguistics essay once that asserted nobody is fluent in Korean because the vocabulary changes as you age. I don’t agree with the thesis, but found it intriguing nonetheless.
(Also, I was there in the nineties. I’ve heard that agashi has since become a word one doesn’t want to use. When and how did that happen?)
Hahaha! “Agashi” is fine if you’re not being creepy about it.
“Hey”
“The fuck you want?”
This is the way
Usually some derogatory term. Sometimes I go out of the way to find something in another language or old English.
It’s not about saying hello. It’s about mind games.
“Hey, you flippy bint!”
“I… Uhh, hi?”
“Sup asshole.”
“Hey. Wait, are you wearing my shirt??”
And then whoever was wearing the stolen item fled the scene.
Woop woop woop (V) (°,°) (V)
The claws can’t flee like they used to.
My sister once got my attention from a distance by shouting “HEY, DIPSHIT!”
My Dad tries to encourage us to call our step-sibling Bro, and it ends up feeling weird because of exactly this - siblings just don’t talk like this.
I think you might not want to know what kind of porn your dad watches.
Bro…
Step-bro…
I laughed, but still downvoted you.
Same.
Remind me not to get stuck anywhere with my Dad or step-sibling around
Given how prevalent it is, it can be hard to avoid. I’m not into it but sometimes I’m like “OK, I’m tired of trying to find something that fits my description and isn’t incest/incest-adjacent. I’ll just try to ignore that aspect.”
I never specifically look for it but so much comes up with seemingly any search.
Do you then, as a parent and step-parent, instruct your children and step-children to refer to each other in more closely related familial ways?
I do not, but I’m not sure that’s relevant. You’re just trying to come up with a correlation based on essentially nothing. You only know this one thing about them.
Folks without siblings think it’s like a built in best friend, which it is, but it’s one forged in blood, insults, and lies
Idk it’s less a best friend and more a really long built trauma bond in my experience
Reading through all these comments I’m sorry we all went through this with our siblings but I’m glad I’m not the only one, I feel a little less broken & alienated. But what a tragic waste of such a close relative and strong relationship bond, for it all to be nothing but trauma and anger and fighting.
Yeah I don’t want to downplay how much I love her. She’s one of the coolest people I know and I’m so proud to get to be her big sister, but yeah the crux of our relationship is that nobody else can really relate to my childhood and early adulthood. Nobody else grew up with our parents and that’s huge
Exactly - All best friends are forged from blood, insults, and lies, and siblings are no exception.
It’s like if you went up to a best mate like, “Hey, Best Friend”
I made my best friend playing backyard football after he intentionally beamed me in the balls.
There is only one man who can pull that off
Sauce?
Aoi Todo from Jujutsu Kaisen
I dunno - none of my brothers are really my best friend level now we’re adults. we’re friends, we enjoy time together, but not my best friend, not the person I go to with fears and worries, hopes and dreams.
but absolutely best “grabs a shovel and a car when I say I have a body to bury” emergency backup. the brother who doesn’t respond for 2 weeks to a social invite (“hey, sorry I missed your message about last week”) is always there when I say I have an emergency.
Depending on the specific sibling dynamic, the following is also acceptable:
“Hey dickweed!”
“Fuck off. Alright what do you want?”
As my family is Vietnamese, not only do I adress my own elder siblings “brother” and “sister”, I even adress people like that that aren’t my actual siblings at all. Unless they’re older, in which case they’re “uncle” and “aunt”.
Although, I also grew up without my siblings around and am more removed in aged from them than they are from each other, so there is kind of a distance that a lot of siblings don’t have.
for me it’s either a curt exchange of mutually understood grunts, or
“DEAREST SIBLING, how wonderful to see you! How are–”
“fucking stop.”It’s amazing how little effort it takes to piss off a sibling. You know exactly what buttons to push. Other times it’s like they’ve built up a tolerance to your bullshit so it doesn’t work. One time I farted in my brothers face four times while he was playing on his Nintendo DS and he only acknowledged me because of the amount of farts. “How the hell can you fart that many times in a row?!”
I call my sister ‘sis’ because it’s gender affirming for her.
