I have had a tendency since my earliest days on social media where I will get halfway or more through a response, and end up just cancelling it. Sometimes I feel like I’m just being to over the top with snark or otherwise don’t want to be that kind of person, but a lot of the time I’ll decide I just really don’t care enough to finish it. Sometimes I just know it’ll be an argument and I know what the person is going to say, and just have no interest in continuing the discussion. I did it on Reddit, I did it on bulletin boards, I even did it in my teens and twenties on Usenet - and I’ll probably go on doing it for as long as I continue using this medium. I probably do it a bit more than half the time. I know that lemmy benefits from more content and I have had some great discussions, but sometimes it’s just not worth it for me.
How about you? Do you hit publish or cancel more often?
40% I’d estimate, I tend to write very long and in depth comments and will realize either I dont care enough about the subject to finish my statement or argument point, or I’m likely being baited by someone who doesnt care about having a genuine exchange of ideas and just wants to be “right”.
Far less than on the other site. I’ve been trying to commit in order to grow the Fediverse, even if I’ve got a few garbage hot takes. I will say, my shit comments seem to get way more responses than my good ones.
Similar situation with me. Although I don’t complete my comments just to help Fediverse have more in it, because I don’t think the shit stuff even I wouldn’t like to be a part of it. Not saying you do it, cuz shit differs.
The times I hit cancel are usually when I can’t conclude my arguments satisfactorily. Sometimes my argument isn’t as contributive to the discussion, whether by sounding stretched or irrelevant, or by simply sounding incorrect or incoherent in the end. I bet a lot of people realize this as well when they put their thoughts into words and hit cancel. Nevertheless, it is a commendable action to both try to form the argument and send it to trash when you realize it isn’t reasonable in forms of communication.
Mostly the reason I complete my comments and hit submit is that Fediverse feels way less toxic, has a lot wider views, actually discusses a lot different takes, and generally less hivemind about upvotes/downvotes, although they matter less here.
All the
50% of my messages here on Lemmy.
I’d guess more like 25% of messages at work and 75% on the discord server I use with IRL friends are deleted without being posted.
It depends how long the comment is. Short comments get past the “dont post it” filter 99% of the time. But long posts give me time to realise i dont care enough to carry on.
The irony is that there might have been a fair amount of replies to this, but people bailed on them. I guess we’ll never know.
Shout out to those guys
fuck it never mind
fook this nvm
I find people online tend to have a lot more passion for arguing than I do so I often rethink posting any responses I come up with.
This is what I hate the most about the practice of using a very “scorched earth” style of rhetoric focused on shaming and berating and making things uncomfortable for opponents. There’s probably a lot of people with objections but they just don’t feel like dealing with that stuff so they don’t say anything.
I wish more people on Lemmy and everywhere else were like you.
I’d say I post about 1/30 responses I make.
Do you write a lot of responses, or just do a low amount of bailing?
One in five, I’ll guess. I am prone to TMI, not as much intimate sharing as wanting to write about things that are too far remotely related.
I’m also prone to seguing into a rant as I have much to say I wish were said more often. Sometimes I edit those out. Sometimes I mark them as rants.
And then I am prone to mobile keyboard fatigue, and will wear out if a short explanation won’t do. I get back to it at a proper keyboard less often than I don’t.
Probably 50/50. Mostly because I don’t care enough to get in an argument or have to defend what I say.
Simple throwaway comments, observations, generic opinion stuff I’ll just drop it and move on.
Anything I’m really knowledgeable in though, I’ll start and then cancel because there’s always someone who wants to challenge and argue and it’s just exhausting.
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Sometimes I react emotionally. Resting a reply is the catharsis to release, and usually by the end I’ve lost my steam by letting it out. 🍵🫖
Constantly.
