Either by choice or sheer luck. What is something that has happened to you that made your life actively better?
(So far) For me it has been me finally able to move out of my parents home.
Using the trade skills I acquired to pay for a computer science degree, which has secured me the best job I’ve ever had. Going to college later in life was absolutely a game changer.
Bought a house for $18,000 during the mid 90’s in a run down neighborhood. Now the neighborhood is the most desirable in an urban city. After the 2007 real estate crash I was able to move to suburbs and I rent out my original house. It was more luck than anything plus a willingness to live in a rough part of town. I’m always playing a game in my head now. What neighborhood is next?
Uh oh, now Lemmy knows you’re a landlord…
Haha yeah I knew I was putting my neck on the line
Cliche but meeting my partner, girl has saved me from so many dumb decisions and she has no idea.
Had both my lungs collapsed. Forced me to quit pot which made my life take a 180 degree turn.
Ah man, happy to hear that for you dude. Much love.
I started kayaking! It’s been a lot of fun and it’s been great to explore new places in my area that I’ve lived at for over 30 years!
being born in a place where i am not genocided for being myself (yet)
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My life is one lucky decision after another and I couldn’t be happier with where I ended up. Fucked off in high school but somehow got into college (jk, I know how I got in ($$)), dropped out, fucked around, went to school for my current field literally to buy time, fucked around but got out, fucked around at work and decided to join the service. Fucking around was frowned upon so I finally turned it around. Came out, got better at civilian job, lived with friends from the service for one year in a town that happened to be like 25 miles from where my future wife was just finishing school, and so our dating profile search rings matched up for all of a couple months.
Bought a house months after meeting my future wife and it was she either moves home and we go long distance or she sticks around and figures out a rooming situation with her then roommates. That was a decade ago, and two kids, and I live on a block with seven or eight other young families in a walkable neighborhood, my kids will walk to school when they’re older, ride their bikes around, we hang out and socialize regularly with neighbors. And it’s all because I fucked around in high school.
Said screw it and moved to Korea.
I was incredibly lucky and met a Korean in school, so I was able to get all the info I needed about what to expect. I’ve been here 3 years now, sure I miss my family and friends but I’ve been granted a new life.
To anyone who thinks their life sucks: move. Everyone has an excuse, but at the end of the day you’ll either stay where you are until you die, or you’ll go somewhere new.
I’ve been in Korea for coming up on 14 years. It’s really a great place to live.
It’s not so easy to just “move” like you say. Most people can’t afford to uproot their lives and start somewhere else. Im happy for you but don’t assume others can just “move” if things are bad for them.
I made this comment explicitly because people say it’s not easy to just “move”. The truth is… Yea, of course it’s hard. But unless you have a health condition that requires weekly hospital attendance, it’s a matter of how much you want it
That’s not true at all. Many are living paycheck to paycheck and can’t afford the price of a major change like this. “It’s a matter of how much you want it” is a brain dead reply. There are people who literally cant afford to live where they are now.
Teaching jobs will pay for your flight and accommodation (provided you have a degree) . I came to Korea with just enough cash to survive for a month. It’s actually not expensive.
You are making so many assumptions it’s insane. Not everybody has a degree in teaching. Just stop
Bro you are the insane one here, they were just motivating people, no need to be so toxic
You don’t need a degree in teaching. Any degree is enough to meet the visa requirements. If you’re single and have no pets it is actually pretty easy.
It must be nice to come from a world where you can just get any degree you want and then have the ability to move whenever you want and find any job in a new country and have the money to float the whole process.
Another option would be to become a volunteer and join an organisation that does volunteering work abroad. There are possibilities for them sponsoring your flights, accommodation, and meals.
Nothing.
Life has been on a slow, downward slide since I was a teenager.
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More female electricians please!
My daughter is in her 2nd year, of 5, election school - she’s Union and loving being an electrician.
She just attended the Washington DC female electrician convention.
It’s completely changed her life.
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Shit, sorry, saw you wrote “boyfriend” and thought “female electrician, like my daughter!”. Hey, the trades need more LGBQ+ people too!
Congrats!
I love this question, super interesting to think about. I feel very lucky that it’s hard for me to pick one, between meeting my fiancée (she makes my life better in every way), getting on adhd meds (a lot more things about life make sense now), or getting my job (since it’s made me grow into a completely different, more capable person). Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in the negative thoughts, so thank you.
If you don’t mind sharing, what about moving out has helped you? I’m sure there’s as many different ways as there are people who would answer similarly, increased independence, escaping the power imbalance, having to grow as an adult, and so on
I decided to start taking my health seriously this year.
- Going to collage and experiencing the wide gamut of experiences there.
- Meeting my wife and her saying yes to going on a date with me my last year of college.
- Living in a foreign country (Japan) for 3 years for work with my wife and having 2 kids while I was there.
- Having kids (3 in total)
- Designing and building our own house.
Getting to fall in love with my wife
By luck: meeting my husband online in a random forum. Self explanatory.
By choice: getting top surgery (a double mastectomy). What a literal and figurative weight off my chest! Being able to just walk outside without wrestling into a binder or being worried about if people noticed my chest was such a game changer. You don’t realize what a gift it is to be able to get up and go outside on a whim until you can’t do it.
You couldn’t do it because of their size? Or other compounding factors?
