Sometimes it helps to log off. The internet is a machine that constantly spews shit, there will always be terrible people to argue with. There’s no guarantee any more that the guy you were arguing with was even real. “Touch grass” is a meme and sounds callous, but spending time outside helps.

The way I see it, when that person blocked you, they actually admitted that you won.

One is perspective. For me, most situations don’t fucking matter because no one died or was seriously injured. I have to deal with safety pretty heavily on a job where either one of the people I’m responsible for gets injured or killed or a member of the public can be injured or killed. It makes other areas of my life less critical.

Another way is reframing. He got the last word, but you said made him run away. You did more damage, what you said was more impactful that he had to run away. When you look at it through that frame, you won. On the other hand, you had a debate on the Internet, so maybe neither of you won.

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You could find solace in hard determinism.

This was always going to be the way it happened.

Your actions were determined by your biology and life experience up to that point. Likewise, the other person acted how they did according to their biology and experience.

The gears of the universe turned in the only way they were going to turn, and the outcome you got was the only one that was ever going to happen.

It doesn’t mean that you can’t now act upon it moving forward, but hopefully there’s some calm to be had in knowing that what has already happened was always going to happen. It’s just a tiny artifact of the vast and intricate clockwork of the universe.

As someone who does this fairly often, I can say I’m not trying to have the last word, I’m just done. I don’t mind a couple back and forth with a rando online, but more than a couple back and forths, pretty much everything has been said, its just become an ouroboros and all that’s left is some long dick poker. So I try to block and move on, before I get annoyed.

It is what it is.

Who cares who has the last word? What does it matter? Of what benefit is having the last word in a matter when it is almost always used to be hurtful? Would it not be better to let the other person have the final say so that the confrontation ends as soon as possible? If you can apologize, do so, even if you think you don’t have to. It does no harm.

Only a weak person believes that being strong means digging their heels in. It takes a truly strong person to willingly walk away.

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@lompedtfre @nostupidquestions The only thing constant in life is change mate

Can you forgive yourself for feeling like he won? What sort of compassion can you feel for yourself in this situation? What kind of compassion can you feel for the person who blocked you?

I would go for a run or sit and journal a bit. Write or think out exactly what happened. Then I’d let myself know that it’s okay to be feeling this way. Now this is a chance to better myself, because i want to try to be better than this. I then try to widen my context. It’s not just me, it’s not just me and this rando on the net. This is a small part of all of humanity right now, and it’s time to make humanity better, even it’s in a small way that only matters to me. Maybe next time I can try to make it better for more than just me.

I know what you mean. At the end stoicism is the way to go. It basically already what you know but it’s more condensed and you can practice it daily. It’s not to stop your emotions in general, but to regulate them and understand what you can and what you can’t change.

Just learn that next time you gotta hit em with the ‘no u’ and you auto win any engagement

This is a tough one, that takes practice and mental discipline.

You’ve already acknowledged that you can’t change how things ended with this individual. Right now, you’re in a very natural place for humans to be: you’re feeling powerless, like someone has done something to you, and you want to blame that other person for how you’re feeling.

The bit that takes practice and discipline is that you CAN change how you choose to react to things like this. You can take accountability for your reactions and emotions.

Why is this irritating you so much? What is it about the exchange that annoyed you, and makes you wish you could reply? If you had the chance to reply, would you want to do the same thing - reply and block - or continue arguing? To what end? What outcome is it that you want?

Accepting reality starts with acknowledging there are things you can’t change. You’ve already said that, so you know this is the right path to continue going down.

The bit you need to try and take accountability for is understanding why you’re feeling the way you are. This isn’t about the person “robbing you” of the chance to reply. It’s about why you feel so strongly that you need to reply.

Until you know why this pissed you off so much, you can’t take meaningful steps to getting yourself into a better emotional state.

Edit: I feel bad that your OP is getting downvoted. You’ve asked a legitimate question about mental health, and some people are clearly writing you off as you having a whinge.

Stop caring what other people think. Within reason of course, no need to go full psychopath. 😆 They don’t really care what you think so why waste the energy and time? Save it for people who demonstrably give a shit.

I will continue to be a proponent of meditation practice. It’s honestly a shame imo that it has a “mystical” connotation. I think it’s very practical. I really don’t think of it much more than dedicating time to observing how my brain works. And a lot of that is all the stuff that arises that doesn’t feel like it “under your power.” When you actually sit down regularly and take notice of the arising and falling away of thoughts and emotions, it becomes a lot easier to not let it consume you and react.

It’s one thing to “know” the emotions are temporary and you shouldn’t react so strongly. It’s another thing to really internalize that and be able to have that same perspective in the moment of strong emotion. It’s practice.