To the people answering “climate change”: How does that feel?
I can only sympathize with the feelings referring to oneself. Like being miserable or blaming myself for my individual situation. Climate change doesn’t make me depressed personally, more angry. (At politics for example.) But it’s not something i overly blame myself for.
I would like to know what you feel. Weltschmerz? Being helpless? Does it somehow concern you more than other people because of your geographical location?
Climate change, though of course a potential issue, isn’t particularly a bad vibes factor for me, but one thing that always succeeds in making me feel a little irritated is how, when people take action against climate change, they always do it in the countries that are already fairly good about keeping the air healthy, and it’s the countries that really need it that have no active movements. The reason Los Angeles air used to be stereotypically dirty is there was so much smog in China that there was enough of it for some of it to blow over. China is still a mess with air pollution, but I only hear the climate change activists taking it out on the English speaking nations.
Plus Europe, at least in most nations
Would be funny though, if it were somehow dependent on language: “Scusi, cos’è l’inquinamento?”
But it’s not ‘us’ vs ‘them’. Mind we let the chinese manufacture our stuff. They pollute the air by proxy. To mass-produce our goods.
For me it’s completely helpless.
I have total disdain for this consumerism and can’t see how we can avoid anything but reverting to essentially subsistence farming again. Once you take away the shipping container, everything falls down…
I believe the economics of shipping stuff around the planet to be cleaned, then processed, then packed, all in different locations is completely insane.
If I was more charismatic, if start a suicide cult, essentially. I know that’s comment an excuse but it’s how I feel about the matter. There are simply far too many of us, we need to thin the herd.
I also regret having had kids and would never again do that to someone, I kinda fell down the antinatal hole… I love 'em and we have a great time, but I see nothing bright in the future.
Thanks for explaining.
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The real issues? Social anxiety, general guilt and regret about the past, the acceptance and occasional pain in knowing that I’ll never have a partner.
But the situation has been the same for about a decade and I’ve moved past the point where it bothers me other than acute episodes. I’m fortunate enough to have a good job and enough money that I don’t have to worry about housing or food, and aside from work I can basically do whatever I want (the positive side of “no partner”). I have hobbies and am going to start traveling soon and work keeps me busy, so I don’t really have grounds to complain.
Also, at some point if you’re not dangerously depressed, it just becomes a part of life and the new baseline. I feel “meh” at the best of times aside from when I level up on OSRS, and having that kind of pessimistic outlook does have some advantages. I don’t really panic when something goes wrong because everything is shit anyways, so the boiler breaking down or w/e is just another Tuesday. Makes life much more chill then the rollercoaster of being an optimist.
- Constantly nagging unhelpful family
- Social anxiety
- Degrading health
- About to fail my college
- No direction
Talk to your University counseling services. They can likely help waive failed credits for diagnosed mental health issues, since they qualify as a disability. You can also possibly get accommodations such as extended due dates, etc, if you have continued mental health issues. Even without accommodations or getting credits waived, utilizing the counseling services for therapy or psychiatry can likely help a lot. There’s a lot of options and services likely available for you that you may not know about. I would have dropped out of college if I hadn’t started going to University counseling and I had failed several classes due to anxiety and depression. Seeing a therapist turned that all around and I was able to graduate and only had to take one extra semester. Hang in there!
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The rampant discrimination and racism my migrant wife isbsubjected to and my helplessness as i cant be around protecting her during they day.
I have clinical depression, so it’s hard to pin down a “most”. Lots of it just exists.
But, I’d have to say a negative self-talk cycle, probably. No idea why I do it or why it’s so intense, but it’s constantly there.
I do too friend. It’s really hard most days. It is also destroying my relationship with my fiance and my friends. Its hard not to push people away when all you want to do is lay down and not think for days or weeks on end.
I am absolutely alone.
I have not had a friend irl in like 7 years and on top of that a lot of trauma that has made it very difficult to trust people now. In 2020 some bad stuff happened to me at like right at the start of the year just before the pandemic really took off. I just… shut down, pandemic and trauma and everything I just couldn’t cope other than withdrawing from everything.
Thats been going on for 3 years now, pretty much live like a hermit now even though I am in the middle of a big city, like hikikomori levels of hermit. No family nearby. I just never leave my apartment anymore, get everything delivered. I can “technically” leave, I am able to go to things like a rare dr appointment or something like that. But I get near panicky if I am out too long, I have thrown up several occasions trying. It’s actually been a few years now since I even talked to any one irl except for people in like service roles like shopkeepers or receptionists, things like that. I actually don’t know how to unhermit myself at this point. I feel trapped.
If you read this and think of commenting some shit about how I just need to put myself out there please fuck off, it’s not that simple.
I want to say, you are not alone in your experience. Millions of people are dealing with social withdrawal. Alot of ppl misunderstands and assumes it’s a choice when its often not. There are numerous reasons be they - environmental, Social, and personally that leads people to that situation. This phenomena is global and the numbers of ppl across the world socially withdrawing is startling. The rates of social dislocation, loneliness and disconnection are at sky-high rates as well. So this is a global social crisis that is happening.
I’m not going to give cliche solutions but I think checking out Dr. K’s videos from HealthyGammer gives alot of insights on Psychology and mental health for today’s digital age, so check them out, could be insightful. He made a video on this topic called 25 year old loner
This is a major problem that isn’t being addressed. So many ppl are suffering and this issue isn’t enough respect it deserves. To help people socially withdrawing the answer to the problem isn’t just getting out there as you said, but adressing other underlying mental health problems.
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That sounds like a most extreme version of what I’ve experienced. Do you hang out with ppl online at all? Down to talk to a rando if you got time this wknd.
Hell no it isn’t simple. It sounds like a constant struggle with no rest.
I got stuck so far up my own ass, emotionally speaking, I couldn’t keep a social engagement for several years. There’s just no reasoning yourself out of it.
I intentionally took an extremely social retail job to force myself to go through the motions of social interaction. Part-time was all I could handle. I needed the job anyway and the benefits were good so I could avail myself of proper mental health care. Eventually I emerged and am still rebuilding a healthy social circle.
It’s hard and I’m sorry you are going through this. Your path will be different than mine, but I want good things to happen for you.
I feel like there are no happy options for me. There are only least-bad. I have a million different ways to spend my time and energy and they’re mostly lesser-evil choices. If I do the things I want to do, then my family suffers. If I do the things my family wants/needs to do, then I suffer. Regardless, a large majority of my decisions are filled with suffering. I don’t see any end to this.
I too find myself weighing a lot of pros and cons. It helps to have a mental idea of what your ethical code is.
Economic anxiety. I still don’t feel like I’m in a comfortable position at the moment and it feels like I’m falling behind some of my goals, economically speaking. I put some of my hobbies and interests on the back burner to focus on work. I started a new job a few months ago and I genuinely like it. I hope to there longterm as I slowly replenish my finances and pay off my debts.
One of the things that weighs me down is posts making me dwell on the things that weigh me down.
Sorry for that :( I hope things get better soon.
I am not depressed now but in the past there have been entire years where it felt like… nothing. Emotional numbness, every day feeling indistinguishable from another. One day just as meaningless as another. No motivation, seemingly nothing to look forward to, even typing this remembering what it was like to feel that way for literal years is unnerving.
I’m ugly as shit and socially awkward.
I don’t mean to come across as insensitive to your issues. I just wanted to say that ugly is not objective truth and it shouldn’t hold you back from finding people in your life. Plenty of similar looking or even different looking people are there who will not discriminate against you. For social awkwardness, it goes away with time as you interact more in real life with people.
I mean, my experiences interacting with people feel like navigating a minefield. I’ve had several times where I think everything is fine and then hours later I get texts and messages telling me how awful I behaved and how shit I am. I try to adjust to what they tell me because I feel bad if I bother other people and same thing happens. Like everything seems fine and then haha nope fucking loser.
And unfortunately my appearance does prevent me from having friends. I’ve been described as a 2 on a good day, trying to talk to men, even if it’s part of my job, often results in references to girlfriends or wives. I’m 32 and no one has ever asked me out or been interested in me. Women will sometimes take pity on me and talk to me for maybe a week or two but then the social awkwardness leads to them ditching me.
At least you get feedback. I dont know what I do wrong or right, I’m just ignored. Maybe a gendered thing? I mean I have never heard someone tell a man his low ranking to his face. But also I dont know if I could have handled the amount and kind of feedback I’ve heard you women get. It probably hurts, and I’d probably punch someone eventually.
I’m sorry to hear that. If I’m assuming correctly and you are a woman, then i just want to say that woman are judged much more harshly than men based on looks since the fucked up expectations are they should look “cute” and girly and a bunch of other things as well. But still, it’s very sad to hear that other woman are also avoiding you.
If it’s truly a behaviour problem from your side, do you have anyone in your life who you trust who can share an honest feedback with you regarding what might be going wrong in these interactions you have with others? That might help you work with what’s going wrong.
But if it’s not a personality problem and just a looks problem, then maybe it’s still worth a shot trying to find like minded folks. I’ve been alone at times in life and sympathize with your situation. For me what worked was I had a supportive family who I could still call even when i was not feeling great and a bunch of new friends who actually cared about me because I had previously helped them a lot with things without any expectations from them. What i mean to say is that I felt that I’ll be alone always at many times in my life but with time and much effort and luck, that’s not the case and I have a good support system in place. I hope you can get find a way around this and wish you best of luck as well friend!
The feedback I get is random, often times a week or more after an interaction. For example, I was watching a movie in a discord chat and people were making comments during the movie. I joined in with a few (fucking 3 comments) of my own and people laughed with me. I did not say anything else during the movie. A week later I get 3 messages saying I was a loud asshole during the movie. I joined a discord when someone was streaming and asked if I could watch. They said yes. I then get a message after I leave saying I was creepy and quiet. Like I don’t know what to make of this. This is what I mean by minefield. Social interaction has infinite rules and it is ridiculously easy to piss someone off by mistake.
Are these interactions with the people you know and are close to you? Because these are not constructive criticisms of you… it would be far more helpful if someone who personally knows you and is trustworthy tells you if there are things that you might be unaware of… i can’t imagine why would being quiet be taken as creepy. I wouldn’t be giving much value to these incidents since they have no basis.
I don’t have any friends, so I’ve been trying to make some online and irl, so no I don’t know them that well. The only people I talk to on a regular basis are my family and coworkers and they say there’s no issue. So idk what the problem is.
My health. It’s made me lose so many connections, and lately it’s made me feel like I’m invisible. Not even those closest to me really know how to deal with me and me having to cancel things because my body says no.
Depression tends to go hand in hand with having a chronic illness. Especially when it feels like you’re constantly fighting what feels like a losing battle with it…
Lately my sense of motivation has been in an odd state. I’ll do things for others, or when it involves more than just myself - like I’ll go to work and do my best because I’ve committed to it, if friends ask me to do something I’ll do so, etc. But when it comes to doing things for just me I’m finding it difficult to have the drive to do so. Listening to music and jamming it out while programming was always one of my favorite ways to pass the time and even that seems to not have the “spark” that it once did.
It feels like there are just so many factors of my life that are off kilter, and when I try to re-balance one, its difficult to do so because a different facet is off and affecting it. It’s like a game of whack-a-mole really.
Yeah it’s like doing things for other people is something I can’t decline, but if it’s for me I have to find the motivation and it’s almost impossible! When I’m not working or helping other people it’s just apathy
That some day all of the good things in my life could disappear, without me even doing anything. The fleetingness of real happiness and the fact that constant euphoria is unattainable. That I’m not living up to my potential, that I’m being exploited and under valued, that I’m never present for my emotions because I self medicate and distract.
Also my dad just died and I didn’t think it would affect me much because we didn’t have a great relationship. But yesterday I woke up from a dream where he was alive and the happiness I felt to see him again was immediately crushed by the relalisation that I would never see him again, and he’d miss everything from here on out. I was inconsolable, still am tbf
But also I’m in therapy and take prescribed meds that work for me, so I’m doing my best.
I totally relate to this, when I was young I used drugs to find that constant euphoria and that fucked me up even more, now I’m almost in my 40s and I lost my best years… my dad died 15 years ago and now my mom, I have just my husband and we would love having a child but I have a chronic illness and no one will give a child for adoption to an ex addict so I feel old and alone… I’m also going to therapy and taking my meds and is helping me a little, we have to take it one day at a time!
Climate change. I strongly feel that we’re doomed and it puts a damper on almost everything for me. I try to enjoy myself and live life in the moment but wherever I look I see reasons why something is wrong or hypocritical. I try to deal with it by working jobs that I think help against climate change.
I’d have gotten to a place where I don’t despair any more. Like, I care very deeply about the climate but I have resolved it in myself that it’s not getting better. That’s a pessimistic view, but just following the news and hearing about the extreme weather and the impacts happening now, I don’t even want to think about what’s it’s going to be like in 10,20 years.
I know going forward that my whole life is going to be affected by the climate, and I have accepted that it’s going to get worse. I have gone through a major depressive doomer stage before and realize that’s not productive or beneficial to my mental health.
I have gotten to a place as Micheal Dowd, puts it “post-doom”.I’m going to approach each day as a miracle and with all the loving kindness I can muster, even if things look bleak.
Don’t kill yourself on climate change, do what is needed and don’t over think about it. It isn’t helpful
