like, if i’m feeling bad but force myself to do something, i usually feel better. how to maintain the usefulness of this advice without presenting it as ‘fuck your feelings’, in that usual arrogant right wing sort of way
using something along the lines of “someone’s gotta do it” always works for me
As a self-encouragement strategy, I agree, and often use the same trick.
maximum effort
time to nut up or shut up
never half-ass two things. whole-ass one thing.
There’s a bunch of colloquialisms that express roughly the same thing, as others have mentioned - take your pick.
Toughen up
Rise to the occasion
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+1 for IDLES
Persevere.
Lets do some wild improvisation!
It promts me to a) just fukkin do it and b) not expect perfection
Put on your big girl panties
This was my go-to, but has since evolved to “big kid pants”
“Grow up”.
Isn’t this just an insult?
It is, but “man up” not only insults that person but also half the people on the planet.
Doing the right thing is hard
When I getting to the point of boiling over, I remind myself that what I am doing is hard because its the right thing to do. It usually helps or at least puts me into a mindset that evaluates what I am doing to make sure that its worth the hassle.
Feelings are just chemicals in your brain. Don’t let those tiny bastards win.
“Take responsibility for yourself.”
“Be accountable.”
“Learn to accept things you can’t control.”
“Self pity gets you nowhere.”
These are all nongendered ways of saying your mental health is your own responsibility. Or, simply repeat to yourself your own observation, “If I’m feeling bad but force myself to do something, I usually feel better.” You were already on the right track friend. Just realize gender has absolutely nothing to do with the concept and counter thoughts that tell you otherwise.
“Your feelings matter, but your actions matter too, and you choose those.”
“The only way out is through.”
“What can I do to improve my situation.”
Don’t let douchebags scare you away from this, but this is basically stoicism. It’s not that your feelings don’t matter, it’s just that sometimes you actually can change your situation and it’s good to do that then
I reframe it as a reminder that something is temporary. “I only have to deal with this for x more hours/days/whatever” helps me remember that while I gotta be tough now, I don’t necessarily have to be later.
“Get it done” or “Take care of business”. I guess another one is “Future me will appreciate this”.
“Let’s get down to business”, works doubly so if you’re trying to defeat some Huns.
bro down, dude
