If stage fright is the fear that one has, when performing
Then inbox fright is the fear/dread I have, when it comes to getting replies or reactions, after I post…
Especially if its related to political content
You never know if you’re going to pulled into a struggle session over something and sent nasty messages, overall
I stopped reading my inbox.
I have this with checking emails at work. I hate when I have a new email and don’t know what it’s about to say.
Ughhhhhh, just logging in in the morning and seeing the tab header go to ‘Inbox (27)’ is awful.
How do you get it to say 27? Mines like 500, I think…
I used to. Don’t give a flying shit anymore. Sometimes people agree with me, sometimes they disagree. Fuck it, whatever.
Maybe on a messaging platform with IRL people, but never on somewhere like Lemmy. If anything, I really enjoy seeing that number go up! 59 unreads right now (I never check the box, the only way they go is replies).
Hey OP
BOO
Agh!
I had this when I was younger, too. Today, I don’t mind if someone posts or messages me nasty stuff, I either ignore it completely or just block this person and move on. There is no use getting frightened because of some internet stranger who decided that today is the day to type random bullshit to someone he doesn’t even know.
You can hide the notification icon, and check unread in https://lemmy.ml/inbox when you want to.
Ublock Origin Dashboard -> My filters, add:
lemmy.ml##a[href="/inbox"].nav-linkI kinda felt this way when I used reddit.
Less so on Lemmy, and pretty much never on Hexbear.
Yes. When I’ve just been shitposting, I look forward to responses. If I’ve made a few serious comments, I dread that I’ve angered the hivemind.
I know that it makes no sense. But I’ve been honest, and there’s some part of me that’s afraid of negative feedback.
I belive in standing on your square. I post something because I belive in it, and at the end of the day it’s just text on a screen. Like other ppl posted you aren’t obligated to response.
I’ve tried to counter this by cultivating a Russian roulette mindset when opening my replies. Fuck it, open it, we’ll all find out
What’s in your anonymous inbox can’t hurt you irl. If they’re right, or make an argument that convinces you, you can always say so. If they’re personally hurtful you can block them. Meanwhile reflect that their nasty comments say more to the rest of us about them than you.
Imagine being able to walk into a bar and block anyone obnoxious from interacting with you, wouldn’t that be peaceful…
Edit to add: you’re probably going to get more posted comments from people who don’t experience inbox fright than from those who do. So keep in mind there’s a circle of silent friends supporting you!
In my experience, I’m far less likely to encounter aggressive and unpleasant people in a club or a bar than I am online. I don’t fear social situations, and I even speak and perform regularly in front of large groups, but I get the feeling OP has. When I find an online community where I don’t get the really rabid comments in my inbox, I tend to fixate on it and post only there.
It’s important to remember that you don’t owe it to anyone to engage in a comment fight. If someone decides to be grouchy and try to pull you into an argument, you can just ignore it and move on with your day.
I post a lot of memes across Lemmy, and you’d be surprised (or maybe not) how often someone goes out of their way to be upset and attempt to bait me or others into arguing with them. I think some people just enjoy being mad, but I’m not one of them, so I’ve decided that it’s not worth the mental energy to engage with that.
Leaning into the “ThePicardManuever is half of lemmy” meme, it would be terrible if you (or anyone!) were cowed by downvotes
I don’t think it’s that people like being mad. I think it’s that they just care about things and think they’re important. It’s very nice to be able to be carefree, but a lot of people place things like honour or duty or morality above their own happiness at times.
honour or duty or morality
Replying to posts online shouldn’t be sufficient to fulfill those things for you anyway. Go outside and be useful if that’s so what you find fulfilling. It’s highly unlikely you’ll change anyone’s mind on social media. People use it to have their biases reinforced.
I used to have such fear, especially when I was younger. not just an inbox fright but also some sort of “reaction fright” meaning that I was scared a lot about people’s reaction in a face-to-face conversation
Yes.
I think I have a mental disorder where if people online are angry at me I actually start introspecting a lot rather than blowing it off. Sometimes I have something I want to say anyway and emotionally prepare to eat it.
