A dead body doesn’t look real. The stillness and one’s denial mechanisms combine to make it look like a mannequin.
Also, if the person has a protracted fight with a disease or simply old age (ie anything that isn’t a sudden death) they rarely look like themselves. One elderly family member had an open casket and I could barely recognize them, they wasted away to half of their normal size.
When my mother went she had an aggressive immune therapy to fight lymphoma. That’s what actually killed her. Ended up looking like 3rd degree burns all over, unconscious and shivering… didn’t look like her.
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Never take the people you love for granted. Don’t wait on any deed or utterance that is unfulfilled, and know how fast they can go in a matter of minutes if you take your eyes off them. I made that mistake more than once. In the blink of an eye, life can go from 42 to 0.
WHY IS NO ONE PAYING ATTENTION?!
I didn’t even know I died. I just… woke up. I’m so happy to be depressed and to admit my faults and to make my friends laugh. There is a Multiverse where I don’t do that.
Grief…doesn’t motivate you. In movies, guys like me, people who have had loved ones killed through prejudices and big evil organizations 🐘 do something about it. Whether that’s activism or something more illegal. But I was way more aggressive about my political views before my girlfriend died. Now it’s like…I can’t muster up the ability to give enough of a shit to do more than vote.
Grief affects people differently. I’m not going to go to into what happened to me, but it definitely motivated me and I’ve been a camp counselor (week long camp counselor, not a licensed or practiced one). I’ve seen a mix of (mostly) kids but still some adults during my volunteering. Rule one is still “you don’t know how they’re going to take it”.
I am to my knowledge still alive, meaning that I don’t have any experience with being dead.
The most important things in the world to you could be here one day, perfectly happy and healthy, and the next day gone. The weight of discovery and their limp body.
Every time I would see someone acting in movies I used to think, that’s a bit of an over reaction. No it’s not. When you see a movie and the reaction seems a bit over the top, it’s not.
Death can come to anyone at any time and unless you live to be 150 years old it will always seem like you didn’t get enough time, so it’s best not to worry about it.
I’ve only observed that it seems to be a relief, at the very end.
72. Strive ever to more! and if thou art truly mine -- and doubt it not, an if thou art ever joyous! -- death is the crown of all. 73. Ah! Ah! Death! Death! thou shalt long for death. Death is forbidden, o man, unto thee. 74. The length of thy longing shall be the strength of its glory. He that lives long & desires death much is ever the King among the Kings.
Excerpt, Liber AL vel Legis, Chapter II
I live in the Midwest, right on the edge of tornado alley. When the sirens go off there’s three kind of people. People who do the right thing and go hide in the basement or the bathroom or whatever. People who just completely ignore them and keep doing whatever. And then the dip shit rednecks who run outside like ‘IMMA SEE ME A TORNADER’
I bounce between option two and three depending on my mood. One time this happened and a tornado actually started to form directly above me. Three times in a row it started to come down and then crap out.
What really surprised me the most was my reaction was a calm ‘huh. So this is it…’ Didn’t try to run. Didn’t even move, and not in a frozen in fear way.
And i guess what I learned is I’m ready when the time comes.
I was in the hospital in January following a heart attack.
I woke up one morning and was on my phone when the nurse came in.
“Were you asleep about an hour ago?”
“Yeah, why?”
“Your heart stopped for 8 seconds.”
“. . . Uh, thanks? I guess? I’m not sure what you want me to do with that information.”
Never knew it happened.
And they’re just checking on you an hour later?! Wow thanks.
Apparently it alerted at the nurses station but didn’t set off any alarms in the room… or so I was told… I mean, I WAS asleep…
I’m in a line of work where I see death very very often.
I don’t know what I’ve learned from it. Besides that it’s coming. I also know there are things worse than death. Often, in the end, people/families can’t accept it, and they end up uselessly suffering.
I suspect the suffering is often compounded by certain cultural beliefs and practices, that (arguably) have less healthy outlooks on death or approaches to grieving. Western countries rooted in puritanical belief systems immediately come to mind.
Absolutely. Especially those who believe in miracles.
OP, you’ll find that most people haven’t experienced death, and the rare few that have, only for a very short time.
Stop worrying about the news, turn it off, and spend more time with family and friends.
Also, stop spending your time on lemmy, right?
Lemmy is family and friends.
"All you get is today
try to see it that way
don’t hold on too tightLoosen your shoes
don’t listen to news
that keeps you up a nightDon’t try to explain
try not to complain
no one really cares.And don’t try to find
your place in line
'Cause it’s everywhere."Thanks for sharing that video. What a true artist, beautiful song. Lots of heart and experience.
That consciousness is eternal. That each of us will live until the end of the universe and possibly beyond. Alone.
We are the universe experiencing itself