stop distracting myself from myself and come to terms with my identity
Regardless of this being a comment about your LGBT+ identity, this is good advice for anyone young.
All you out there 25 or younger, stop fighting who you are. Stop trying to fulfill other people’s expectations of who you need to be. Focus on yourself and who you want to be and who you are.
To a degree. If people are telling you “don’t pursue that career in art, go get a normal job that at least buys you some sanity in the evenings”, then maybe it might help to listen to them a little. You can still pursue art in your free time.
That’s advice on what to do, rather than who you are. I agree that it’s great to choose a career path that allows for financial security, but you can do that and decide that you’re an artist. They don’t have to be exclusive of each other.
I agree, but some people let their identity define their entire reality, much to their detriment when reality pushes back.
(1) work out, (2) ditch an extremely toxic relationship without ever looking back, (3) have more fun, (4) buy aapl.
Abstain from alcohol
Less fucking about, more fucking
To start taking care of my self. In all aspects.
The act of starting to love, appreciate and take care of oneself it’s a very powerful life changer that can save and avoid you a lot of problems. From physic and mental health, to social relationships and to career/work and much more.
I feel and think life is much more enjoyable if you lookout for yourself and for others.
Kept in touch with friends.
Got back on ADHD meds that my parents took me off as a 10yo as they didn’t like the side effects.
Exercised.
Study, get the certification I ended up getting eventually (that i was repeatedly recommended to do but was too perpetually exhausted to study for), and breaking into IT as a career sooner.
Not waste years 18-22 in a shitty grocery store/fast food job. To this day I can’t stand to look at a rotisserie chicken cooker.
Skipped years of college that didn’t do me any good and just moved out instead of living with my family for another 4 years.
Lost my virginity.
Being the (almost) 40 Year Old Virgin is not as great as they say it is.
Fuck it just get a hooker mate
Looked inward and truly considered how my words and actions affected others
I (emotionally) hurt someone I cared about deeply, and it has taken years of work and therapy to begin to move past it
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Get tested and subsequently treated for ADHD.
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Dump the ex I was dating around that time instead of letting her take up two years of my life that I wont get back.
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Pay more attention to the people that actually put effort into their friendship/relationship with me and drop the ones that didn’t.
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Work out more and eat better.
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Socialize as much as I could while living in the dorms.
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Either join or create study groups.
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Stuff that would theoretically have been possible, in no particular order:
- develop better study & time management skills so college doesn’t kick my ass nearly so badly
- walk on to the college’s cross country team. After all, it was a D3 school, they’ll take just about anyone. Would’ve been a great way to avoid putting on 60 pounds in school.
- spend more time taking advantage of the free therapy sessions in the student health center and maybe God forbid not fall as far into the pit of depression
All of this. Wish I had applied myself and found someone to tell me constant criticism for making mistakes isn’t normal.
My drivers license. Now I’m 19 and still need to do it.
The sooner the better. I know people in their 30s at my work that can’t drive and just Uber to work every day. Don’t become that guy
I don’t have a driver’s license, but I have made lifestyle choices so I can walk, bike, and take transit to most of my destinations. There is the odd destination where I’ll use ride hailing, but I avoid it.
I would give anything to be able to ride my bike to work, but it’s just so dangerous where I live because of all the cars :(
Yeah, I was lucky enough to be in Portland already, so I was already in a decent position. From there, I needed to make housing choices that put me along bus lines and safe bike routes. That took some real planning and a price premium on our house. My takeaway was that I want everyone in the US to have this sort of transit/bike/pedestrian access, not just an upper middle class DINK couple (me).
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I’m going to finish school soon and I want to drive a car when I have a job and can afford it. I’ve used public transportation for the past 3 years and will probably still use it in the future when it’s not too inconvenient but a 30 min drive to work taking 1 hour instead, where I spend 30 minutes just waiting, sucks. This weekend I drove to a friend. It would have taken 30 minutes by car but it took me 2 hours with public transport because I had to wait a total of 1 hour and 15 minutes. The issue isn’t public transportation itself but that the government was trying to save as much money as possible and it is getting better with the new government but there is still so much to do and it will take time.
I didn’t make any life-ruining mistakes, but like others have said I’d make certain investments. And I’d put the eyelid holders from Clockwork Orange on my friend, show him Requiem for a Dream, and hope he learns not to experiment with drugs
Tried dancing with that girl at the prom who actually wanted to dance with me. Yeah the music was loud, but I should have tried anyway. (Even not knowing how.)
Eventually I learned better how to talk/interact with women and even married a great one, but I do wonder how my life would be different if I had earlier what little skill I have now.
Transitioned
Same, I waited till I was 27, I’m happy I’m finally there, but it woulda been nice to start 10 years earlier, woulda been a lot better for me mentally especially.
I’m glad you figured yourself out. I waited until I was 22 to come out of the closet and until I was in my 30s to dress how I wanted (I didn’t transition, but I do identify as non-comforming and wear clothing that isn’t standard for my gender). It’s extremely comfortable being who you are.
Huge mood
