Orrrrrr he has social anxiety and has difficulty replying.
Sincerely, somebody with social anxiety
It could be both… PvP me!
First reply> 12hrs ago
Second reply> 2hrs ago
Checks out…
This is me too. That and there is this stupid goddamn idea of “caring too much.” Like responding quickly is a bad thing because it makes you seem desperate… Ffs I wouldn’t be messaging you if I wasn’t interested, but now I need to wait and play a stupid mind game so I don’t lose the persons interest because they might assume that stupid thing about quick replies being a bad thing…
I hate mental games so freaking much…
If the other person cares about silly games like this, they might not be that interested in taking to you.
Yeah, find someone not into playing head games. There are plenty such people about.
There’s a Deathbulge comic for that, I just can’t find it. Basically a dude taking forever to reply to get “cool points” and accidentally replying immediately a second time, immediately losing all his cool
No you’re talking to a guy who’s letting an llm do the groundwork.
Would probably be a lot faster if he was
If it’s recently, its probably helldiver’s 2 in which case wait your fucking turn lady! He’s risking his life to spread liberty and force democracy on godless bugs and soulless robots. THESE ARE IMPORTANT THINGS
Rock and stone for me. Also has bugs nad robots, but more capitalist ⛏️
Rock and stone, brother!
Thank you for your service, helldiver!
I kind of wish helldivers had more downtime so I wouldn’t neglect my gf’s texts as much
There’s tons of downtime if you’re trash like me! Two minute respawn timer hangout gang through and through
Yes I will have one round of video games please
25 Minute Civilization rounds are a thing. Just one more round bro
You can tell this if your man starts replying in one minuite, but gets progressively slower and slower until it’s one hour each by the end.
Battlefield rounds can easily be that too. In custom matches in can be 1½ hours!
This is what happens when your boobs can no longer distract people from their lives and you have to fall back on your lack of a personality.
With that personality, I’d prefer you to have boobs.
Pretty yikesy take. If your first response to a post is to reduce someone to a sex object, that’s some incel-ass vibes.
Controversial opinion, but actually all most people have to go on is their appearance/perceived wealth. It’s not a female problem though it’s people generally. They’re all completely vacuous. Take away their boobs/abs and they’re dull as fuck.
Or, alternatively, you have difficulty relating to others and so all you notice is their “appearance/perceived wealth”.
I can certainly say this is the case for me. I don’t know many men or women I have any real interest in getting to know better let alone actually become romantically involved with. I used to just go off physical attraction and try to power through the relationship by faking interest in whatever they wanted to talk about and being funny which could usually carry it for a few months before they got bored of me. At this stage of my life though I’ve gotten over the “need to be in a relationship to feel complete” thing so now I just don’t try to date.
You might find you fit under the aromantic umbrella, if you’re looking for others in your situation. It’s certainly a valid state to be in, and I hope that not having to seek out romantic relationships has made your life more fulfilling.
What I’d caution (or what I found particularly irritating in the comment I initially replied to) was implying that one is superior and all others are vacuous shells of human beings, which just comes across as pompous and arrogant.
I don’t think it makes me better than anyone. Sorry if my comment came across that way. If anything I think it makes me an asshole. I just can’t really do anything to change that about myself other than bow out of the dating game.
Oh don’t worry – I didn’t get that from your comment! Only the original one I replied to. And I don’t think having difficulty with romantic relationships or necessarily friendships makes you an asshole. I hope you’re able to find what makes you happy.
No society is to blame. People have been herded into getting excited by products and obsessed with TV shows. There are niches we fit into and we will never admit to thinking anything different than our chosen tribe. If you’ve chosen to be right wing, Jordan Peterson can do no wrong and to kill a mockingbird is trash. If you’re a swiftie, your goddess is absolute. If you’re on the left, Israel is inherently demonic. Etc etc. The price you pay for betraying your tribe is isolation, excommunication, disdain. We’ve bred obedience into the population and sacrificed free will. We’re constantly bombarded by Reddit poss and articles about how we’re supposed to act and what norms are good and which troubling behaviours are red flags.
So we adjust, rework ourselves, refine our personalities until they become acceptable to our chosen audience. I’d love to get to know other people, but the sad fact is that other people don’t want to be known, or have willingly ground down their personality until they’re just one of the cattle.
The games people play when dating is a classic example of this. You present yourself a certain way, you shave the right places, you say the right things. If you play correctly you can win a fleshlight with the right to vote.
I’m not interested in having a sex toy that repeats whatever talking points my chosen masters expect. I am a hairy, sweaty, problematic animal. I want to become close with other wretched creatures who say and do inappropriate shit. I’M NOT INTERESTED IN FUCKING CHAT GPT!
Oof. You should do some internal work, this comes off pretty pathetically.
And you should sniff my finger.
Definitely not where that’s been
Whenever someone sends me an important message and I don’t read/respond in time, they call to get my attention so I can do so. My ex used to get mad at me for “ignoring” her for 2h or more and would call. I was just busy doing whatever and ignoring the phone as usual.
I hate that. Also in a business setting. By definition a message (be it text, email, whatever) is not urgent. They might be important and of course you shouldn’t leave them unread for days, but for urgency there’s calls.
I always perceive an IM as high but not immediate importance, an email as “get to it when you can”, and phone call as immediate.
The older people I work with tend to call for email level things.
You have my undivided attention… while I queue for the next game.
If you dont know why it takes me 25 minutes to respond, you dont know me well enough to get mad that you are only #2 on my priorities list.
Oh I’m busy doing some other aspect of my life. Might possibly be that I’m working, at my job, which by the way was one of your requirements on the dating profile.
Not absolutely everything in my life is about video games.
It’s almost as if it’s a joke.
Oh, yeah, I forgot that kind of humor where it sounds exactly like a bad take.
Here you go:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Comedic_device
Looks like a solid example of Misdirection and Understatement combined.
(This comment is also an example of Double Entendre.)
Unpopular (?) opinion - text/IM systems are asynchronous messaging systems, and in most cases it’s totally reasonable to not immediately jump on your phone and answer a message as soon as you get the notification.
One of my friends is the sort of person who will stop mid sentence when their phone pings so they can answer whatever they’ve been sent and it drives me nuts
It’s unpopular because it’s so far removed from it’s closes analogue analogue, envelope mail. And because it’s on mobile phones people incorrectly assume it’s closer to a phone call.
I find it’s simpler to simplify all internet scenarios to postal mail & home telephone scenarios.
Can’t remember the last time I had my phone off silent.
Yeah my phone gets attention when i want, not when it wants.
I have all notifications off for all apps too, i don’t need an app saying hey we haven’t fed you crap for an hour come look
My phone used to be on vibrate until i accidentally cut the motor during a repair. My phone suddenly became a healthier part of my life where i look at it when i feel like. I also miss every urgent message from everyone.
If I had my phone on silent I would miss a lot of important shit.
But thankfully Android has excellent customization so I know without even pulling the phone out what is notifying and whether it needs to be addressed immediately or checked later.
Notifications that are truly not high priority just get put on silent, which also shifts them to the bottom of my notifications.
My wife is like that, and it kills me. I might leave your text unread for hours because if it was important, you’d call. I have priorities! Like the next round of Helldivers.
I’ll never call. But I also understand that not everyone looks at their phone at all times.
Don’t forget to take breaks… If you want to be remembered as a coward!
You’d call
Does anyone call these days? Nobody seems to pick up for fuck all.
I’ve received 158 calls in the last 7 days, and not one was a valid call. All spam and fraud.
I don’t know.
Android is pretty damned good at filtering those. I usually have 1-2 a week that I have to send to the transcription service.
The landline at work is a different story.
It doesn’t offer any out of the box filters to my knowledge. What are you talking about?
My carrier does but it’s pretty bad. It does filter maybe 70 out of 150 and then I blocked each and every one. At a certain point I’ll have blocked every single number in my area code. Which is fine because I no longer live in the area code for my phone number.
For some reason I don’t get spam calls. I’m just had to look and the last call I received about anything was on the 18th of February. Where are all my spam calls dammit, I’m missing out.
Do you give your number out to non-mandatory anything?
What’s your phone number I’ll look it up?
I have had none in the last month. It’s the magic of not giving my number to anyone who does not absolutely require it.
I send all unknown callers straight to voicemail. But I do frequently make/receive calls from family, friends, coworkers, etc. Probably a dozen/day. I like having a conversation.
I always see the priority from highest to lowest as Calls, then texts then emails. Texts can be responded to immediately or later in the day, but more than ~4-8 hours is unacceptable
I’d raise that to 24 hours, but you’re right. I know two people like that. One just lets messages pile up until they feel like responding, which can take up to a month. Another straight up told me they have so much incoming messages that they have no hope of ever going throughб so if I wanted to reach themб I should keep messaging them like every few minutes to keep the dialogue up in the list. I’d say that’s just a poor communications hygiene. Suffice to say I don’t really talk to either of them anymore. I know smalltalk isn’t urgent, but I cant see it as a dialogue anymore if it goes slower than a message/day.
A relative does that, and sometimes completely forgets we were having a convo after they’re done with the phone
I used to date a girl who would answer her phone mid-sex to have some innane conversation for 30 minutes and not see a problem with that at all. That relationship did not last very long.
Did you shrug and just keep going?
Nah, that’s a put your pants back on and go home scenario for me.
I’m sorry but lmao
I feel so disengaged when someone does that to me that I just stop communicating with them in the future
This is so annoying, I like to remain in the room even if I’m using my phone, but my friends literally check-out. Like they’re in another place and can’t communicate with me whilst using their phones.
If you send me more than three texts in a row, I’m calling your ass to sort things out.
I don’t want to be repeatedly distracted from real life. It’s annoying.
she cute
Oh for god sake. Yeah those six pixels that you can see are real attractive.
We can tell from those 6 pixels:
- She’s a girl
- Has long dark hair
- Has the ability to smile
That’s all we need to know. Good enough for me
Hey! When I was 14, living under the tyranny of dial up, I jerked off to fewer pixels on a regular basis.
Stop bandwidth shaming!
Nah… If I’m taking long to respond, I just don’t particularly like you. Simple as that.
Texting is a non-instantaneous form of communication for when things aren’t time sensitive. If both of you are choosing to communicate via text then both of you are in agreement that immediate response is not required.
Therefore the lack of intermediate response is not indicative of anything.
Get out of here trying to put significance on things that have none.
Uiuiui, someone got hurt
For an average guy, you’d be lucky to get more than one convo.
As another user mentioned, there are bigger priorities at the moment on top of texting-- like you’re working. And personally, I don’t like texting especially with crappy autocorrect of phones. I prefer speaking in person.
So what’s her excuse when it’s the other way around?
We’re not allowed to ax that question.
Why wouldn’t it be video games?
Because the text makes it sound like the person disapproves of the delay being caused by video games.
Also the language is weirdly stilted in a way that suggests they probably dont play video games.
Would you be wrong in saying a given woman is statistically unlikely to play video games?
Fully half of women report they never play video games, and even more report specifically playing The Sims and nothing else.
Lots of chicks out there for whom gaming isn’t part of their world.
Because women don’t play video games, silly!
