I don’t know if this is something people say in other countries, but in my country, there’s this common cliché or “wisdom” where adults will assure you that the people who picked on you in environments like school will universally develop lives of hardship later on, one way or another getting into mayhem.
I asked my mother one day what happened to all those people growing up. I can sense she may have been sugar coating it, but she said something along the lines of “well, I waited, and waited, and waited, and waited, and waited, and became a teacher, and waited some more, and finally watched as my bullies had to go into retirement five years late, yay” (okay, not really like that, but it might as well have been).
Yeah, common theme in my experience that what we hope for is never “that” set in stone. No matter where in the community (or even long-distance communicating) you knew them from, based on life, how much approximate correspondence do you associate with that mindset in the first paragraph?
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My grandma came in with a hot take on this.
“If she was a bitch at 17, she is a bitch at 70.”
I never saw them again after graduating
I assume that’s the best outcome generally. Just forgetting they existed
I was curious about a guy who bullied me in elementary school so I looked up his name on Facebook. His profile picture had a pro-life message in it. I was not at all surprised.
A bully having a pro-live message? Surprising.
You know what’s not surprising? How much you can save by switching to Geico.
They’re all very successful now. This whole notion that bullies and assholes would be bagging my groceries and asking me “you want fries with that” in adulthood is BS.
I myself am somewhere in the middle on this. All my classmates were basically this to me because the school allowed it, then when time came to get a job, they were so used to the school environment which disfavored me at their benefit that they ran into a speed bump and ended up feuding with each other. By a rare good stroke of luck, this means I’m my employer’s favorite.
There may be one exception. A kid in the year above me who I didn’t personally know but looked like one of the many people that bullied me was killed on a night out when he tried to break up a fight.
It made national news, but mainly because it led to an underage drinking scandal where it turned out loads of pubs weren’t checking ID. He was only 17.
People who were bullies in high school earn more on average. I’d say they are probably doing better.
My bully from grade school is serving up to life in prison for attempted murder (he shot two teenagers while he was an adult, something gang related I think) and also sex with a minor.
Not that he doesn’t deserve it, he absolutely does, but part of me feels bad for him. He never stood a chance. His home life was fucked, he was always on this path and nothing was going to stop it.
The biggest asshole at my primary school got shot by a woman he was living with when he was like 19.
That was quick.
I’ve no idea, I haven’t thought about them since I left school and now I can barely remember their names.
Two of them became somewhat decent persons.
The worse one was murdered.
The others I don’t know.What happened to the murderer?
He surrendered himself and waits for his trial.
I have no idea, I don’t hang out with bullies.
This thread reeks of Facebook user problems
Not sure about all of them, as I don’t want them in my life. But I found out by chance that one of them became a social worker. I saw another in an acceptance exam to an academic program, he failed, I got in.
Having receieved lessons of the social worker field, it always scares me to think old bullies are filling in the roles.
I mean, it’s possible that’s remorse, education, acceptance, and repentance at work.
Not all bullies are really bad people at heart … some just have a bad home life and nobody to teach them healthy outlets or how to make friends.
Not just that though, but depending on where you live, social workers themselves can be the bullies. In particular, in the US, the CPS, a branch of social services, is perhaps the epitome of capitalistic abuse. They make a living by framing people for domestic abuse messes and ruining everyone’s lives when society is peaceful. Social services is as corrupt as gains will motivate them to make it.
I don’t expect the odds of karma kicking them in the junk to be much higher than average maybe +5% to 15% max.
I know at least one of them was arrested for B&E and possession with intent to sell of meth (though it was immediately after high school and I’m sure he’s out by now). The rest, don’t know don’t care.
What’s B&E?
Breaking and Entering. He (and two others) were burglarizing homes.
A town near where I grew up had an epidemic of that. The teachers treated the bullies like their favorite children, the next thing you knew they had burglarized every single unlocked vehicle in the entire town for drug money on multiple occasions and were arrested right before they would’ve graduated from high school. My friend was one of their brothers and I remember it got so bad they graduated him despite him not passing just to remedy the memory of trying to overshadow him.
One dead, the second one with his life just as stagnant as it was 20 years ago, and the 3rd one I honestly have no idea. 3rd one wasn’t really bad, he just fell in with the wrong crowd. I ran into his sister a couple of years ago, but she didn’t know his whereabouts either. But last time she heard feom him he was doing surprisingly well.
A few of them died from drug overdoses or landing themselves in jail on domestic violence, but most of them grew up and have families and are pretty chill these days. I’ve buried the hatchet with anyone like that from high school.
