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We have similar views on most of the important things (as defined by us). Our interests are really different though, and that’s fine with me.
Same here. Our core values are the same, but our personal interests are very different. Our personalities are quite different too, but they’re complimentary. What one of us needs, the other can provide. We’re both better together.
I think that’s an ideal setup. I have learned a lot from my partner because we are so different in what we like. :)
Thirded, we agree on the goals but not on how to accomplish them, which is fine. We’re both pulling in the same direction just in different ways/paths.
This is like us too. The important stuff aligns, but we have very different general interests and hobbies.
We have a similar view in many things (politics, life, and so on) but with very different interests and ways to do daily things
I don’t see how I could date someone who had radically opposing views. What kind of monster do you even get if you flip a bunch of them? Racist, sexist, queerphobic, ahistorical, gender essentialist, sex-shaming, animal hating, anti environment, hates exercise, hates games, hates cities… sounds like a bad time!
Sounds like a bad time to you but that’s someones dream woman you just described.
We definitely share basic values including political views, but there’s also many things where our opinions differ. For example, we both strongly believe in supporting human rights for everyone, but we have different views on local planning reforms or diets. Some hobbies but not all hobbies and interests are shared, we listen to different music, etc. Overall, I really like it this way - we’re different enough so I can always learn something new from her, but not so different we’d have arguments about basic values.
My wife and I are the same way. I don’t understand her taste in music and she doesn’t understand mine. I like different types of movies and TV, so we compromise. But nearly all of the important things like political views, childrearing, social views, and life goals match.
Oddly enough, we differ in religious views, but she’s only lightly Methodist and I’m atheist, so it’s not a crazy untenable difference.
Similar-enough views, some overlapping interests.
Differing views are not the foundation of a healthy relationship. I absolutely would not be with someone who didn’t align with mine.
Very similar views. Where we differ is a matter of nuance, not fundamentals.
If you and your partner have vastly different political opinions, you also have vastly different systems of morality and probably won’t work out.
We are very similar, and have grown more similar over time.
Politically, we agree on 90%+ on things. Like - it would be really odd if I married a woman who didn’t believe my friends deserved basic human rights. 
But I will say we handle conflict very differently, loss very differently, anxiety very differently, fear very differently. We’re different people.  The important thing is that were able to communicate with one another. We’re supposed to understand each other’s motives, behaviors, needs. And try to anticipate them.
Ideally, we’re strong in areas the other is weak in.
As far as interests, there’s a lot of crossover. But I have specific hobbies (music production mostly), that she has no interest in. She’ll give feedback from time to time. And also, she plays piano. But we don’t play together.
I like goofy nerd shit, she likes The Bachelor. I like some gaming, she thinks it’s lame and reads in her free time. I mean, no great relationship has ever thrived based on a shared love of Star Trek or something.
So most importantly, we match well in two areas. One, we can make each other laugh. Two, we like the same foods and are adventurous eaters.
For what it’s worth, half of every live-in relationship is trying to decide what to eat next.
My wife and I, politically, tend to have very different viewpoints. She tends to lean conservative on a lot of things, whereas I tend to be either centrist or left leaning. It works, however, because we’re willing to calmly and rationally listen to each other’s viewpoints, and accept when the other tells us we think we’re off base or just straight up wrong.
Another important part, though, is where she doesn’t lean conservative. That being the area of human rights. She’s very accepting of trans people for instance, of which I am one. And when she has an unknowingly transphobic view, she’s always willing to listen and change her stance when it’s pointed out. If we had fudemental disagreements about treatment of LGBT people and other minorities from the beginning, I never would have dated her. That’s one line that I think shouldn’t be crossed and shows if a person is genuinely hateful or just misguided.
I don’t think she’s ever gonna fully migrate left, and I’m certainly not heading right (fell down that rabbit hole once, not gonna do it again,) but knowing she’ll listen and change if I point out a view of hers is unintentionally hateful has been a very important part of our relationship.
On the non-political side though, we tend to agree on pretty much everything. We have similar views on mental health. We have similar relationship goals. We have near identical hobbies. We even agree on the best condiment to eat nuggets with (barbecue sauce. And if you’re using ketchup you’re a monstrosity.)
Personally, I do think there’s some key things that disagreeing on will, inevitably, destroy a relationship, but I think people overestimate how much you have to agree on to have a healthy relationship.
On politics, religion, etc. we have very similar views. About the only place we have wildly differing views is our actual, physical viewpoints: mine is about 18 inches (close to half a meter) higher than hers (standing) so she can see into shelves that I would have to think to bend down for, and I can see and reach shelves that she can’t unaided.
Yup. Sums up our relationship nicely too.
My boyfriend and I are both left leaning though I’m a bit more progressive than he is.
My partner is right leaning and I am left leaning. It works well for us because we never fight over who gets the good spot on the couch - my good spot is with the arm rest to the left of me and his is the arm rest to the right of him. It’s probably not good for our backs to lean the same way all the time though.
Politically opposites. We see things from almost exactly opposite sides.
But culturally similar, same sex drive, both open-minded about food, both like to stay in shape, like similar look for the house, a lot of overlap in movie/media tastes.
