When I first moved in, I thought the housemate was a little stuck up and a bit out of touch, but when we started speaking more I realised that we’ve actually had quite similar lives and we get along really really well. He didn’t grow up in the system, but he still got to “enjoy” a lot of the same things I did. Moving around a lot, changing schools more than yearly, etc etc. And knowing that he’s managed to get through it actually helped a lot with some of my deep seated fears about the future.
These days we pretty much just talk shit about the system and people in the department, but it’s always nice talking to him. It’s a massive shame he’s moving out so soon, but he’s been here for longer than I was at the last place, so I can’t fault him for wanting to move on. If I was in his shoes I would too. I hope the next LT/mentor they’ve lined up is as easy to talk to and get along with
I went to eight primary/high schools and have lived at around 35 different places, the longest for eight years (where I was born).
I’m having trouble remembering every school I’ve been to, but I’ve been to at least 10 (+1 kindergarten, if you count that). I think you have me beat on houses, I’ve been in 20 or so
I’m not gonna go into details about the housemates situation because it’s not my place, but I moved around a lot mostly because of affordability. My mum was disabled, but according to Centrelink not disabled enough for the DSP, so we were just on regular jobseeker/family benefits. We lived in outer Melbourne (which would’ve probably been classified as country at the time) when I was born, but the landlord tried to double the rents when I was born on account of “children = mess”, which was probably illegal but whatever. We lived in a decent sized country town for a couple of years, but moved because of rents and such.
We moved again to an absolutely tiny country town, but eventually the landlord decided to sell the house. This was the case with the next house, too. Probably went up for sale as some sort of attempt to bypass tenant protections, as the houses were both dumps and sold extremely cheaply, even for the time. The next house we moved because of extremely abusive neighbours. Next house was an emergency house for families facing homelessness, which we were only in for a couple of months. Then we moved to a housing commission flat (still in the country).
Then I ended up in foster care with an abusive carer, so eventually the placement broke down and I was removed and placed in kinship with a family friend. Then I went back home. Then a couple years later I ended up in state care, was bounced to an emergency foster carer a fair ways away, then a few days later went to a contingency but slightly longer term foster carer place. Then a few weeks later I was moved into a contingency residential care house which was converted from a residential aged care place, they “matched” me to a “long term” Resi in the same town my mum was living in a few months later, but that broke down a couple days in and I was kicked out. They sent me a few hundred KMs into the city where I was placed in 2 different hotels. Then eventually I was moved into a long term contingency residential placement, then they finally matched me to the one I was in last. I did a 4 year stint there and Eve tually transitioned into a lead tenant placement (mostly independent living, but still under the purview of child protection) where I currently am.
The longest I’ve ever lived at 1 house was at my last residential placement where I was for 4 years. School wise, I was still in primary school when I entered the last place which I moved to midway through year 6. Then I bounced between 3 different high schools while I was there. First I was at a flexible high school 30 mins away, but I left due to an incident that occured. I did school online for a while post COVID, but that broke down because they didn’t suit my needs, and then to an alternative school. Averaged out, I’ve changed schools something like every 9 months. But at a number of my state care placements, I hadn’t even been there long enough to be enrolled in a school. I’ve never stayed at one school for more than a year and a half or so (maybe 2, I’m having trouble remembering the dates from a couple of them)
@Baku woah that’s an interesting backstory thanks. I was thinking like “me=unstable parents, him=military parents” level of detail lol.
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Gibson deserves all the treats! 😸
So I mentioned in passing to wifey that I’m thinking about getting a buzzcut when the weather gets warmer.
She’s urging me to do it, and is now offering to shave my head…
I deffo reccomend getting her to help with the back; I re-did my undercut today and knew I went a bit too high when some of my long hair came off too 😂 I measure with my finger but obviously not well. Partner came home and confirmed it’s just a bit arched at the back slightly.
Getting her to check the back will ensure it’s an even shave!
Be prepared with a beanie for when the weather turns cold unexpectedly.
Do it. Last 20 years = cheap haircuts (especially if you do yourself in the end), quick dry post shower/swim etc, no thought about actual hair style, built in fidget toy after fresh cut. Hair life is good.
I have long hair which is definitely a useful fidget toy, I don’t think I’d know what to do with my hands if I cut it short now. At the moment I can hold on to the end of my ponytail behind my back. pull it forward to tuck under my chin, or tie it into literal knots. Being able to run my hands over my head and go mmm, velvet… just doesn’t seem as versatile. Probably looks less silly though.
We have little snow? peas growing !! Not sure how to tell when they are ready to eat. Still waiting for onion, garlic and spinach to sprout. Cauli, radish and carrot are all growing nicely.
It’s my therapeutic veggie garden.
Snow peas are ready to eat whole when you can juuuusssst see/feel the tiny little peas inside the pod. And can be eaten at any time after that until the pods dry up and go crispy, but you have to shell them at that end of the season. Jelly. Mine don’t grow over winter dammit.
Mine should grow over winter, but have so many critters eager to eat them that the plants often don’t get established. I planted some seeds a while ago, I need to go out and see if I have any that managed to sprout. I’m definitely a long way from actual pods even if they have survived.
@Seagoon_ I just stopped by the shops quickly, and while I was there, picked up a freshly-made cinnamon donut.
Nom Nom Nom.
cinnamon donuts are under rated 😋
Yes! Especially while they’re fresh and warm 😋
I really feel there needs to be an audit of all these folks with the kings awnings hanging off the roofracks, and ESPECIALLY the rooftop tent folks. How often are you camping where you NEED your tent with you at all times? I totally need some roofracks to get one myself!
It’s gotten to the point where it’s too cold to get out of bed, but it’s also too cold in bed so I just kinda push through and get up anyways
I can touch my toes for the first time in my life. All the pilates is doing some good.
Does anyone here have a recommendation a psychologist in the Monash Council area?
GP is happy to give me a referral but needs a name.
I need help with stress, anxiety & depression. Trying to avoid meds if possible. Need to get on top of this.
Thanks for anything & everything.
Have a look at the APS find a psych page. https://psychology.org.au/find-a-psychologist
You can filter to specific issues, and some psychologists have a secure messaging feature, otherwise you can call to ask questions
Edit: in case anyone else is reading this, you can also filter to ones that will do assessments for stuff like ASD or ADHD
Thank you!!
No worries. I hope you find one who works for you!
I know this is an odd thing to complain about, but I don’t like how Amazon doesn’t charge instantly when I order stuff. It feels like the non credit version of a credit card. They don’t seem to take their money until 12:30am on the day of delivery, and I really don’t like that they do that. It feels like they’re encouraging me to spend money I don’t have/shouldn’t spend. I don’t have overdraft so I guess it’s not that bad, but still. If they took their money instantly, I’d know okay, I have exactly $x left
My bank when consulted on online gives me a total balance, and an available balance figure. That is, any pending payments fill up the gap between the two figures. Maybe your bank does something similar if you ask them nicely???
I don’t think it’s that, because I have notifications on for all transactions. Amazon transactions don’t show up at all, not even as pending until about midnight ish on the day of delivery. I’ve even confirmed that they don’t because no parts of my balance change. I could buy something then spend the money on other things because they haven’t charged me
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Oh man, that really sucks - of all days!! Please don’t beat yourself up though, as hard as it feels to think right now that there’s always other jobs, you only have one body. You did the right thing to look after yourself, who knows it could’ve been a worse outcome if you tried doing the interview while in great pain. I hope these guys understand and give you a chance or that something else comes up.
🤞🤞🤞
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I mean if they’re reacting poorly to a genuine reason for cancelling, then maybe it’s for the best. Seems they’re showing you what it would be like to work there. Remember that you’re also interviewing them.
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gees, door bell rings when I’m in the shower 😬
Is that better or worse than the fire alarm going off while you’re in the dunny?
“You’ll have to speak up, I’m wearing a towel”
Good old Simpsons reference.
It’s so embarrassment, I’ve been resting trying to heal my back.
@Seagoon_ @StudChud UGH! Of course that’s when they’d come!
And then instead of one long relaxing shower, you end up with two half showers 😔
Seriously, it’s the kind of thing that would make me a grump all day.
I hope it was at least someone or something important at the door.
(If it’s just some salesman who’s promising to cut your power bills, in the circumstances you’re completely justified in chasing him off with a cricket bat.)
I did not answer it. 😣 Now I am wondering who it was.
My phone stopped recording data from my watch. So I played around with the both of them and now it’s working. I did technology and I’m very proud of myself because I didn’t get angry or throw anything.
After years on pre-paid, I got a new phone on a plan yesterday. The initial setup went smoothly, settings and security all good , but I’ve spent the whole morning (and most of last night actually) having to re-login and setup most of my apps again. Thank dog for password managers, I would have been stuffed if I had to try and remember them all or rely on various scribbled post-it notes. What watch do you have?
Garmin venu. They had stopped syncing which is weird because I certainly didn’t touch anything.
My 245 music has done that a few times. Currently it’s forgotten that a button press on my headphones is supposed to pause the track…
I need to give mine a few minutes to find each other and catch-up once I open the app on the phone.
This is the usual for me too but somehow they unpaired.
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awww
I have an assignment due at midnight. It’s quarter past 11. Fml.
I already got an extension on it and is bound to be overdue. I need a certain average to keep the option of getting into honours open but I’ve already fucked up and let the shit I’ve gone through fuck me up. There’s always the option of pursuing research later down the line if that’s what I want to do.
Maybe it would be better if I went to sleep and got up early to work on it, taking the 10%.
I have another assignment due on Monday. I have had so much time to do them but I’ve spent all this time wallowing in self-pity. I am so mad at how I’ve let this stuff affect me. Another failed uni semester!
Don’t let guys get in the way of study. A good guy never will.
The worst will interrupt you all the time so you can’t get anything done. Will make drama that distracts you from your aim. Might even get nasty and sabotage you if you persist. Might start using put downs.
An example of subtle sabotage is organising an event when you have classes or work to do and expects you to come.
Do not blame yourself. If he is out the house and you are in no danger be done with him and get to work.
