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You can’t just pretend that you’re “driven by logic” and ignore your “weak” emotions forever. If the foundations upon which you build your personality are rotten, there will be point where it all comes crashing down. Until that moment you just waste time pretending to be someone you aren’t.
This is something commonly misunderstood as:
Logic = correct = good
Emotion = irrational = bad
In truth your emotions are trying to tell you something. You certainly shouldn’t be acting completely on emotion. But you do need to learn to interpret what your emotions are telling you and what that means, because there is critical information there that you would ignore at your peril.
Exactly. I think it’s easy for autistic people like me to fall into this mindset. When I was younger I was quite disillusioned with the world, mostly because I didn’t fully fit in. Feeling like I was in some way better, because I was driven by logic instead of emotion, was probably a defense mechanism or something. In truth it was not that I didn’t have emotions, I just wasn’t able to listen to them. Luckily I never really got into the far right “facts don’t care about your feelings” bullshit.
What about Tiananmen Square…?!? That was kinda cool for the CCP!
I wasn’t there but maybe someone here was.
Oh wait.
No.
They were all killed and then turned to mush by tanks repeatedly driving over the bodies and then hosed dune the drains.
GLORY TO THE CCP AND HOW WONDERFUL THEY ARE TO ALL THE PEOPLE.
Being alone doesn’t always make you lonely, and loneliness doesn’t always mean you’re alone. The feeling of loneliness derives from feelings of helplessness or hopelessness.
Counterintuitively, some people make you feel lonely. Abusive people, even if close to you, will often make you feel lonely. Apathetic people can also make you feel lonely.
I’m not sure if this will be a revelation to everyone but it was to me.
Weapons are a human right, completely independent of anything about rebellions or keeping the government in check.
Individually, if you prevent a person from carrying a weapon when they’re in a dangerous situation, it’s like locking them into a cage with a hungry tiger in it.
It’s perfectly natural for a person to be able to reach out and pick up a weapon. To block someone from this takes active effort.
And if that person is in a dangerous situation, and you make that effort to prevent them from being armed, you’re actively violating their rights.
I’d say I am a prime target for random violence but I wouldn’t want weapons to be legalized here.
Does being a prime target for random violence mean you’ve experienced random violence?
Mostly just people trying to let out their frustrations. I can handle them. It’s a feature, not a bug that there’s no weapons involved.
I’m taking the other comment about not arguing with stupid people.
Surround yourself with people you want to be like.
Don’t argue with idiots!
As Mark Twain said:
“Never argue with an idiot. They will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.”
I agree with the principle, but not in the same way.
It feels good to portray another person as an “idiot” or obviously wrong. Feels superior and legitimate.
The lesson for me has been: people are allowed to have their own thoughts and opinions, no matter how ill-informed I think they are. It is going to be just as difficult to force them to believe my opinion, as it would be for me to believe their position. So shouting “facts” and “logic” doesn’t work at all. If you can get over branding someone an idiot you might be able to listen to why they actually believe such misguided information, but this would take non-judgemental questioning.
So I agree: stop arguing with people.
You cannot make people change their minds in a single sitting. You should aim to be less closed minded than they are. Stop thinking of others as “idiots” to begin with.
If you’re really interested in diving into this, here’s the first of a 3 part series talking about how to have difficult conversations with people who see the world differently, how to have better debates about contentious issues, and how to ethically and scientifically persuade one another about things that matter – in short, this is a three-part series about How Minds Change.
(I’m not affiliated with the podcast or this guy’s books…I just listen to a lot of cognitive science podcasts)
To keep my mouth shut more than it’s open.
Still working on that one, actually.
That’s a hard one. I too know from experience and am still working on it.
Understand that people will come and go in your life. For better or for worse.
Just because you’ve known somebody most of your life don’t assume you know anything about them. They can surprise you, for better or for worse. And for my experience it’s generally for the worse.
People change and sometimes it’s best to just let go.
If you have to force it, you’re going to break it.
Sidenote: rectal fistulas are awful.
You can’t argue with crazy. In fact, if you’re that desperate for crazy to validate reality for you, you have deeper problems.
Oh also if you help a family member who’s threatening to kill themselves, they’re just gonna threaten that every time they need $5.
Intentional change happens through years of dedicated work and organization. Very few people accidentally improve themselves overnight. Even fewer wake up to discover they’ve improved society.
To elaborate on this one: Sudden change (for the better) happens, but it’s extremely rare. It’s happened twice for me, and I think those are outliers. Usually, progress is slow and tedious, and you don’t notice it while it’s happening. Only in retrospect does the change become truly visible.
The people living in the Renaissance didn’t feel that change was happening around them.
Hard work does not always lead to success. Most of the time, it just leads to more work.
To be precise: Fast work leads to more work.
More like nonsmooth work leads to more work.
Smooth is fast
At my current job, people keep remarking how fast I unload a truck.
I just laugh to myself. I’m not fast - I just work at a steady pace and utilize efficient methods.
I know and have know plenty of people that can move faster than me but its almost always at the expense of their quality.
I just see no reason to be ‘the fastest gun in the west’ if you can’t hit the broadside of a barn.
Same but loading instead.
I was just thinking today about how I keep bitching in my head about the number, and then realize I run it all day no problem.
Just gotta hit that flow.
The fact that it’s hot probably helps as well, the inside of a trailer gets hot even with 2’ diameter fans, you have to learn to be efficient.
I’m so glad I started over winter, it gave me plenty of time to start to figure out timing and pacing.
Plus y’know the unreal amount of money it pays for work that isn’t even that hard once you’ve built the muscles.
Plus y’know the unreal amount of money it pays for work that isn’t even that hard once you’ve built the muscles.
Don’t sell yourself short. Pay isn’t about how hard your work is. It’s about how much money the company makes off of you and how quickly they can replace you.
This was obvious during the pandemic when all the “low skill” jobs hiked their wages. It turned out most office jobs were not as important as retail work, so lots of people in retail got raises for the same work.
I had a different direction in mind actually. My experience is that if I work fast (or rather faster than the slow colleagues) while delivering good work, I just get more work from my boss because I have time. If I slow down so everyone is at the same pace, I have less work in the end. This is why I think a fixed 40 hour work week is shit. Let me go if I’m done with my tasks.
Indeed, haste makes waste
Nothing matters, but neither does that fact.
Growing up in a population with lots of spirituality, it felt like a requirement to have some higher meaning to your life. And me deciding one-by-one that I didn’t believe in the spiritual stuff, it felt like I was missing that higher meaning.
What I didn’t realize for too long, is that if I don’t believe in the spiritual stuff, then I necessarily also don’t believe that the spiritual people have a higher meaning to their life. And that it’s not a requirement. A regular meaning or even no meaning is just as fine.
Nothing you do matters, so the only thing that matters is what you do
Life having no meaning or purpose can be scary. Living in an artificial bubble of pretend is scarier.
While I’m sure there are many genuinely religious or spiritual people, the vast majority just mindlessly follow what they have been told.
We’re all going to die.
Society sucks.
There are some great benefits, but it just feels like it’s doing more harm than good.
Humans seem to aim more to oppress each other and make the world worse for their descendants than the opposite, overall.
