Yup.
Seems very American. If you ask a German you be prepared to not get Smalltalk.
Sounds amazing. I should move to Germany for a while.
A friend of mine, married to a European, said that I should have been born in Europe, not the US, due to my hatred of small talk.
It really depends on the country and people’s personality.
In my experience in Southern Europe people tend to love share stuff about themselves (and will easilly go into their life story) whilst in Northern Europe getting anything about them without having a long acquaintance with them is very hard if not impossible.
Apparently the Finnish are very averse to small talk (pretty much the opposite of Southern Europe).
Then there are also other variances - in Britain they’ll tend to portray themselves as better than they really are feeling, in Portugal they’ll tend to complain about life and things and in The Netherlands, if you do get them to open up, they’ll be very matter of fact.
After language, it’s maybe the hardest kind of thing to get used to when going to live in another country.
Finland is very good for people who hate smalltalk.
This isnt small talk, this is a survival mechanism to figure if the person will enact violence on you or not. Optimally you want the response to be empty words, grunting, or being told to fuck off.
Optimally you want the response to be empty words, grunting, or being told to fuck off.
US/DE/both, did you mean?
I was referring to US culture. The most exposure to Deutsche culture is through part of my family culture and that ancestor left back when the HRE was still in living memory and not even old living memory.
Where does “Good enough” fit on the scale? Asking for a friend…
Good enough= My day is shit, My week is shit, My life has been shit, but it’s not as shit as other people so I don’t have the right.
It’s the suffix that hits hardest:
… it’s not as shit as other people so I don’t have the right.
~at least that’s what my friend that I’m asking for definitely said~
“Good enough” is “My head is barely above water and I’m wondering if it’s worth the effort”
I see no “it is what it is” on here. This one happens a lot where I am
Her horrors persist, and so do I.
Wh… what’s y’alls base suicidality level
Our national holiday consists of drinking and playing with explosives at nighttime. You do the math.
It’s generally a very cheerful level of suicidality though! Would be awful to bring the mood down by making a suicide all somber or some shit.
Yah we kill ourselves, Or overly think about it, with extreme excitement and joy over here.
Also one of our best known sub-cultures is one in which the concept of health and safety are slurs when used outside of work. I should know I am a relatively cautious Redneck, that just means I actually keep the medkit nearby for if shit goes worng.
“I’m okay”? “I’m not too bad” would mean that you’re near the base suicidality level
Fair to middlin’
it’s not bad
Wouldn’t jump into a running vehicle. But wouldn’t try to try to climb up a cliff
My foreman would always say “Love my job” in a happy tone after anything bad happened on a job site. The happier the tone, the worse it was
then comes the singing.
“Dear God, he’s doing H.M.S. Pintafore. We have to leave. Now!”
I know that guy
whenever I hear living the dream I hear it like:
I feel like the one going on about defcon does not know defcon 5 is actually pretty chill
Should’ve gone the Kanye route and said defcon 3
*death con 3
Defcon 5
I never know if they’re meaning that it’s not that bad, or if they actually mean defcon 1.
Because with defcon, the lower the number, the worse the situation.
Defcon NaN
“The situation is so bad, it can’t even be defined!”
Fuckin a, man.
So far, so good.
Is another of my favorite responses to “how’s it going”
DefCon Stages:
5 - “I’m here, ain’t I?”
4 - “ain’t dead yet.”
3 - “it is what it is”
2 - “I’m not gonna lie to you”
1 - “…don’t worry about it”I climb hand over hand closing my eyes
Too scared to look down I climb hand over hand
Putting distance between I and I and the ground
I get to the top I stand on the edge
I look to the sky and say all my prayers
What could be better than a swan dive into the asphalt?
I don’t know
Nothing can be better than a swan dive into the asphalt
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