Feel free to share any life experiences or anecdotes.
Find a topic that you have interest in and master it. This will only get harder as you get older.
Other people will never complete you, but they’re nice to have around. So focus and work on yourself, but stay empathetic.
And don’t try to complete somebody else, no matter how meaningful it feels in the moment to do so.
Find a skill based hobby that you love and practice it every week. Stuff like a sport, musical instrument, art, etc. The hobby itself will be rewarding but there is no substitute for having decades of experience under your belt for these kind of activities.
Also, don’t have children.
Don’t go to college. Run away to a country that doesn’t have a US military base and live a simple, happy, peaceful life.
Because those countries are happily accepting uneducated immigrants, right?
Usually…
Any examples? I’ve lived in 10 countries so far and am about to move to the 11th end of this month. Neither of them had a US military presence (Liberia did have a massive UN presence though), and all of them required an academic record to grant a residence permit.
I believe Georgia (the country) was the only one that didn’t, but that’s because of a special agreement they have with the EU.
How did you like Georgia? I keep beong obsessed by it (because music).
I loved it there, and meant to move back at some point. Amazing people, food, and landscape.
Unfortunately from a few friends I still have there (both locals and foreigners) I heard that after Russia invaded Ukraine, they are swamped with refugees from both countries(escaping the war or the draft), pushing hospitality to its limits, prices have more than quadrupled, and there are a lot of tensions thanks to some pro-Russian political powers (no doubt backed by Putin).
So for now I’ll stay put in Asia, but still didn’t give up on it entirely…
Why?
University isn’t to get A grades, it is to make connections(contacts), A grades doesn’t assure anything, contacts can save your life.
This is too true and I wish my parents raised me under this motto :(
I graduated college with a 3.55. I got my first job through contacts (my sister cut the hair of all the executives’ wives, I including the CEO’s wife). They never once so much as looked at my transcript.
If you can’t make contacts, try eyeglasses.
If you can’t make contacts, try eyeglasses.
Worry more about your job than your grades. Create a stable source of income, your degree can wait especially if it’s not a traditionally stable profession (medicine, accountant, lawyer, etc).
Exercise and maintain your strength and flexibility. This is super important, more so than the job. Staying healthy early on will save you a lot of money in doctors appointments by the time you hit your late 20s.
Seconding this, and even if its a supposed stable profession don’t depend on it, I’ve seen too many tradesmen working retail and doctors that fail to start residency.
I’d add on learn as many skills as you can, especially basic cooking and repair (car, home, gadgets, etc), it will save you time and money. Home cooked is cheaper than eating out and if you can make meals in advance and freeze them it will save time.
Start exercising regularly and eating correctly now.
Go do a trade. Computers are dumb.
Get accostumed to eat your veggies, once you hit you 30s your intestine starts revolting if you don’t give it healthy food
Don’t worry too much if you fuck up. You have more than enough time to fix just about any mistake. You’re still young, it’s OK.
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- Get a fire extinguisher for your home.
- Get legal expenses insurance.
- In both private and professional affairs, be fair and honest.
- Don’t waste too much time with shitty partners or in shitty jobs.
Almost no one knows how to do the job they are hired for. You’ll have a trainer at almost every job. Apply for things you don’t think you are qualified for. Most people figure it out as they go.
Don’t assume you have to get on the relationship escalator of “dating - exclusive - engaged - married”. There are other kinds of relationships, including no romantic/sexual relationships at all. Don’t stick with someone who’s not making you happy out of inertia or a sense of obligation.
Be social. Don’t burn yourself out socializing every night of the week, but if people are inviting you to be a part of their life make a good effort to show up. Video games or YouTube or whatever will always be there. Friends won’t. (This assumes the social stuff they’re inviting you to isn’t , like, insane. Skip on someone inviting you to do heroin or whatever.)
Pay attention to your spending. Some people like a dedicated program for budgeting, or their bank provides something. I’m a particular kind of nerd so I used Google sheets. Whatever you use, adding up what you’re actually spending every month can be illuminating. I don’t expect anyone to discover “if I stop getting avocado toast I can afford a house”, but knowing where your money is going is an important prerequisite for controlling it.
Don’t fall into lifestyle inflation. Like, a friend of mine started making good money and his budget grew. He was spending $1000/month on food because he’d just gotten used to dining out and such. His paycheck was bigger but he wasn’t saving any more. Another guy I used to work with told me his family “struggled too” despite a $500k family income. They had a big house, new cars, expensive memberships, extravagant vacations, designer clothes. You can just not do a lot of that and be happy, too.
Be social. Don’t burn yourself out socializing every night of the week, but if people are inviting you to be a part of their life make a good effort to show up.
This is a really good one. You never know where these things lead. Future lifelong friends. Future romantic partners. Future job opportunities. I’m quickly moving past my 30s and hearing about the “I’m so alone” people is really depressing, as our species are social animals. I also say this a introvert.
If you’re not being invited to parties or BBQs, then be the change in the world and make them.
I have two that I always say:
Take care of your teeth. They’re the only set you get. Also they don’t tell you this when you’re young, but all dental care is either preventative or reactionary. They can’t actually “fix” problems. If you have a cavity, that starts you down a road that ends with a crown or implant. Use any dental insurance you have religiously, pay for a good toothbrush (Oral-B or SoniCare), learn to floss properly and do it all every single day.
Second, save now as much as you are able. If you can adhere to it, look into the 50-30-20 rule. One thing it took me too long to learn is, given an otherwise living income, you won’t miss money you don’t see. When savings is automatically deposited from your paycheck, it’s out of sight and mind.
Lastly, just be yourself, and be a good person to those around you.
Good toothbrush advice (but don’t floss with a string, use those small brushes instead, doesn’t budge the teeth if you have to force the string through).
But for spending? If you have loads of wealth, then why not, but I blew about all my cash I had when I was young, going on trips, partying, eating with people, buying hobby things, checking stuff out…
I don’t regret that a second. I even think most old people would think it priceless just to go back in time and fool around a week as a 20 year old, but it’s too late now for them.
So live right now is my recommendation I guess, without doing too stupid things obviously.
Cheers.
Not saying to not have fun while you’re young. By all means, go for it. Just pointing out that a small amount of savings when you’re young pays off much more over time. If you wait, you’ll spend your later years catching up!
Well I sure can put away way more money today than when I was young. Depends I guess 🤷
What do you mean by not budging the teeth while flossing? Some of my teeth are pretty tight and I do use force to get the string floss to break through, is that bad?
Thats what my dentist says yes, I use something like this (but longer and with an angle):
