I just realised that “like it’s your first time” has a positive connotation I guess, but like… motherfucker? Do most people have non-awful first-time experiences of sex? Between garbage sex ed and cisheteronormativity I just can’t imagine. I doubt it was even momentous for most people tbh? Idk.
Idk I think I had an okay time
People take the sex thing too seriously imo, doesn’t matter if it’s awkward or if things don’t work, just try something else and if no one having fun give it up and go do something else
Maybe I’ve just never had good sex lmao
People put way too much emphasis on first times though, virginity is an especially cursed concept
virginity is an especially cursed concept
Finally someone says it!! But also yeah generally agreed tbh.
I remember my first time like the time I first thought to myself “wow I love being cis”
it never fuckin happened
I will keep it as real as possible with u - if u did not have sex during your teen years you dodged a MASSIVE bullet.lmao, i was such a walking pile of eggy emotional issues, restrictive parents, and crying that there was a solid 0% chance i’d ever get laid as a teenager. i still don’t feel like i “dodged a bullet” though
I mean I legit unironically think it’s better to miss out during your teens, feels less good if you also miss out in your 20s
I haven’t been single since I was 14 though and all I got was a fucking boatload of trauma that’s taken twelve years and counting to work through
feels less good if you also miss out in your 20s
:yea::yea::yea: ask me how it’s going
Brother in arms 🤝
Picking up knowledge to use later is what I’d recommend
Reading some books on trans sex and such. FTW is a good start too.
It’s far better when you know what your doing and get good with just touch and how to play with sensation.
Those are things you dont get taught. You can teach yourself tho.
Hey if I managed to find someone then you can too
Just be ready for dating to suck ass and take forever before you find a good match
Oh yeah, my first time was nice. We were at a cool (very queer) party with a bunch of my friends (I still have a few polaroids from it! physical images, imagine). I thought it was really sweet that they checked if I was under the influence first (they didn’t want to take advantage of me). We had a good time!
Still have yet to have sex with an AFAB person, interestingly enough.
Wtf why couldn’t this be me???
Well, there’s kinda some asterisks to this, but I don’t really want to get into that.
it’s okay, blowjobs count as sex if you wanna bump those numbers up
My first time having penetrative sex was on my honeymoon, and I think we both realized we’d been mislead by our upbringing and pop culture. You go your entire life thinking things will snap into place like magnets and biology will just take over, but our experience was kind of awful. We were both nervous and stressed, and nobody had really taught us that things simply don’t work when you’re psychologically insecure.
We can laugh at it in retrospect, but it was really an eye-opening moment for us.
and biology will just take over,
This kills me because
but also 
One of the shittest ideas there is tbhThe sex-ed in the midwest is god-awful. I like to think I had a fortunate experience but there are clearly holes in my education lol
There are also quite a few people i know who are surprised to have trouble conceiving because they were made to believe they’d get pregnant as soon as they took their clothes off.
movies have given people brain rot, your first time is universally awkward as fuck because you literally have no idea what you’re doing as far as muscle memory goes
even if it’s good you’re probably not going to look back on it more fondly than later encounters where you actually know what you’re doing and what you’re looking for in a partner
The game was rigged from the start…
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it was awkward and kinda sucked
best part of sex is like, learning what your partner likes and getting really good at it.
True… but the bestest part of sex is when you’re with a partner and you’re casually like “aite yo is it cool if I buy this big ass dragon dildo” and they’re like “can i try it too” like obv you can let’s get it
Yea =)
There’s the romanticized version of prom night with your highschool sweetheart, which I’ve rarely heard of actually happening. Then for most people it’s an awkward event. There’s a lot of misinformation for young people and their first time - mothers who speak in euphemism and project their own disenchantment on it, fathers who won’t talk about it, porn being easily accessed by kids… Usually a person’s first time is weird or not great.
That being said, happy cake day!
My first time was a hat trick with my best friend’s girlfriend in a cheap motel. It was a lot of fun.
It was dogshit and every experience since was too. All the bad experiences is why I’ve not touched anyone for at least 6 years now :yea:
The volcel pledge
rip though…
part of me thinks I’ll never find someone that will be a good antidote to the volcel policeFor now I’ll keep the pledge
The VOLCEL POLICE are on the scene! PLEASE KEEP YOUR VITAL ESSENCES TO YOURSELVES AT ALL TIMES.
نحن شرطة VolCel.بناءا على تعليمات الهيئة لترويج لألعاب الفيديو و النهي عن الجنس نرجوا الإبتعاد عن أي أفكار جنسية و الحفاظ على حيواناتكم المنويَّة حتى يوم الحساب. اتقوا الله، إنك لا تراه لكنه يراك.
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Why would you do something voluntarily with the expectation of poor outcomes and memories?
What if, instead of that, you just did it because you had a lot of libido at the time and woefully insufficient knowledge? What if your partner was abusive? What if you needed to change your body and did not know yet?
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Okay so instead of that, what if we add some context: I was the abused partner, only even having sex because hormones literally gave me libido. My partner took this opportunity to use me as her very own realdoll even long into my transition. There are many reasons why someone would continue to have sex despite being abused; it took me years to be able to say “no”.
You can always just do the least charitable possible read, but that’s not very cool.
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I would suggest that your transition to the sex that abused you, seems to be self abuse;
Are you John Money, or perhaps J Michael Bailey, or maybe even Sigmund Freud? You do not know the first thing ahout me and you make this ridiculous assumption. Quick, did my transition predate or postdate the sexual abuse? When did the sexual abuse start to begin with? Who on earth are you to be psychoanalysing queer people with reductive queerphobic trash takes like this?
The best part is I am not the same gender as my ex, lmao. Genius level take.
It was a positive experience for sure. With my high school girlfriend. We were long distance, we’d been together for almost a year and made specific plans for it, and it was gay sex so we were under no illusions that sex ed or cultural sex knowledge would be sufficient. We knew each other well enough that it was comfortable to laugh at the inevitable clumsy parts. Not all of my memories of that relationship are fond and I’ve had better sex since, but it was a good experience.
best one I’ve heard so far…
My firsts were good personally.
First time I got head was mutual, in high school, over 12 years ago. (Not where you think it’s going) Went to an all boys school, student at our all girls sister school I was friends with doing musicals/plays came out to me as trans, transitioned years later. I was their beard initially but we fooled around a few times.
First time I got laid was at 18 with my sister’s friend during a trip. They were 12 or 13 years older. Everybody got drunk, we went to bed together. Both woke up in the morning and got busy, dated for a few years after.
Mine was awkward as shit and most people I know say the same thing. It’s more of a cringey memory than anything, that’s what happens when you’re both awkward kids who don’t know wtf you’re doing
It is an exaggerated concept, for sure. It can be an important and formative experience, but it’s from person to person. I lost my V-card to knife-play and the whole experience was spectacular. But like, my second partner was kind of a shit-show and I came out of it a sadder, but wiser man.
