my main problem is I compare life now to in the US in the 50’s through 90’s instead of the dark ages.
When I do that, I think about medicine in general and dentists in particular. Our age wins here. Though I don’t know, maybe regular folks in the US can’t afford medical and dental help, so it doesn’t matter to them.
Yeah I don’t see much change dental wise. Its again sorta gotten bad since 2000. Flouridation had a big effect but finding an independent dentist as a doctor whose main interest is the health of your teeth and mouth seems to be harder and harder. Now we have these corp things that feel shady as fuq. The US is a bit strange in that we had obamacare and like right after things got much better but then the mandate was kicked out and that upset the balance of pay with insurance companies and then we allow corps to own insurance and provider and pharmacy and hospitals. but then biden got the no surprise billing thing. its been a bit of ping pong but since the millenium. I mean technical advances always are better as time goes by but of course if they are not available or guaged so much they are not (something as basic as insulin) thats not really better.
Let him know I’m willing to trade places.
diet of kings, but we are all alone now
so are kings btw
“it’s lonely on the top”, ever heard that?
i mean sure, but is that what we want?
It’s just chemistry, it barely has anything to do with what is actually going on in your life or how much you appreciate it.
Do you think environmental factors have no effect whatsoever?
They have an effect on the chemistry, but for the most part, if you are depressed, you will be depressed no matter how good of a day or month or year you have. Depression doesn’t happen because you did something to cause it. And it doesn’t stop from just having a good time.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hedonic_treadmill
Also, from an existentialist point of view, we’re inundated by so many choices that almost nothing could satisfy us. We’re always seeking more. Here is a quote from Soren Kierkegaard:
Marry, and you will regret it; don’t marry, you will also regret it; marry or don’t marry, you will regret it either way. Laugh at the world’s foolishness, you will regret it; weep over it, you will regret that too; laugh at the world’s foolishness or weep over it, you will regret both. Believe a woman, you will regret it; believe her not, you will also regret it… Hang yourself, you will regret it; do not hang yourself, and you will regret that too; hang yourself or don’t hang yourself, you’ll regret it either way; whether you hang yourself or do not hang yourself, you will regret both. This, gentlemen, is the essence of all philosophy.
“I have all these materialist things and still not happy”
Yeh, this absolutely hits the nail on the head. Good summary.
Alienation from labor and isolation from your community cannot be solved through pleasure and consumption
… Bet.
The lack of purpose my dude
Royalty had agency and power. Anon is just doing the movements, but can’t sculpt the future.
Also it’s a bit naive to think royalty didn’t have their fair share of depression and mental illness
Can relate. On our coast we have some of the most laid back village people in the world, yet here in the city with all our amenities we get upset with dumb things like people making noise in the tennis court across from our condo. Priorities are shot.
Alienation moment
You have nothing to distract yourself
hedonism does not lead to life satisfaction?? do people know this??!!
You need some sort of goal in life, and anon doesn’t sound like he has one. Most any positive goal will do, just get one
Yeah just get one of the life goal market, something is gonna make sense eventually right haha
Are you doing okay? You didn’t sound alright
You can always contribute to the great project of figuring things out.
Or find anyone you even slightly admire and help them do their thing.
Yeah anon sounds like he’s fallen into the ‘what is masculinity’ trap of trying to fulfill all goals he’s told by other men to do or an idea of men and doesn’t understand why he himself is unfulfilled. He only knows the idea of man and never became his own friend enough to understand what might make his self more satisfied. This is why many if the happiest people have simple things they are happy about. They don’t fall for the money = happiness trap or other stupid roles that society brainwashes into people. The main complication is just getting comfortable enough with self to speak ‘hey maybe gardening/cooking is my thing’ or whatever. We’re taught to over complicate our happiness.
Well, for a start, 90% of young men can’t relate to the first one. That is a major and growing problem
What can we do to solve it?
Travel helps a lot. Gives perspective. Also there’s a whole ass planet of people that will boink you out there. No need to geographically lock your romantic life. Just ya know, don’t go to brothels and shit, that’s no bueno.
Brothels are fine. Treat the workers with respect like you would anywhere else and maybe it will teach former incels to unironically not put the pussy on a pedestal.
Yeah I got no issues with sex workers, and maybe it would work for incels, it’s just not my thing. I was more specifically saying I’m not advocating for sex tourism. Just go have a good time, eventually someone will want to see you naked.
As someone who formerly suffered from that problem I think a big part of the issue is that the world is incredibly isolating and alienating, so you get stuck in your head and can’t just talk to people normally. We need to stop creating suburbs that act like prisons for developing minds. We need more third places. And we need to find some way of teaching people to have healthy relationship-building interactions with other people without making anyone feel unsafe.
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