People who make me feel like crap or worse off then when I encountered them consistently are written off and out of my life
Doesn’t matter if its family, nobody is entitled to your attention and suffering and it does nobody any real good for you to succumb to the inevitable dysfunction it creates in your life and relationships and also material conditions.
Don’t do anything you’re going to have to lie about. If you do, don’t lie about it. If you do, make it right as soon as possible.
This is something I learned from experience. I have plenty of problems in my life but a heavy conscience isn’t one of them.
No surprise parties for you then
“First is best”
To avoid overthinking decisions that don’t really matter, the first acceptable choice is the correct one.
Save your indecision for stuff that matters.
Relates to intuition right?
I’m sure your wife loves you…
“Babe, why do you only last 2 minutes when we make love?”
“I’m first to cum! I win at sex!”
You’re saying your wife’s pleasure doesn’t matter to you?
Me? I was talking about YOU! Its your rule.
For making choices. It’s not a race, buddy.
If you ain’t first, you’re last Ricky Bobby!
Forgive yourself when you fuck up
Also, if you’re not fucking up occasionally, then you’re probably not pushing yourself hard enough
Still learning this one.
I find I easily forgive myself if I immediately recognize the fuckup and have a plan started or in the works to prevent it happening again.
Kind of a “fool me once: shame on this. fool me twice: shame on me” alto its infinitey recursive so I would simply start back at 1
If I learn a lesson from it, its money in the experience bank and I trust myself to make it right and mitigate it as best as is possible
It helps with inverse thinking cuz now you know one of the paths or constituents of failure in whatever the endeavor and you have the opportunity to get closer to success next time
If it works for you, do it. Ignore what other people think
People either enhance or diminish your life. Very few are neutral.
Treat them accordingly.
What makes a man turn neutral? Lust for gold? Power? Or were you just born with a heart full of neutrality?
I have a whole growing plethora of these, rules of thumb I consider in the long scheme of organization. Where would I start if not to ask about stuff?
It was to care about other’s wellbeing. I remember when it clicked, and it was the first moral principle I consciously followed
Don’t have your mouth write checks your ass can’t cover
Or
Under promise while over deliver
Aim to surprise, and you’ll never not impress. Unless its a dark surprise.
Im obsessed with truth. Its been a struggle and kept my mind occupied much through my life. It still stays with me but I am more accepting that it is a journey without end. As for the truths the acceptance of the never ending journey and the ethic of least harm. I lean toward selfishness in my morality so am unwilling to compromise for the greater good.
As a counter to perfectionism:
If it’s worth doing, then it’s worth doing poorly. [source: a reddit user]
I always liked, “Perfect is the enemy of good,” and a close second, “Make it work, then make it better.”
Make it work, then make it better.
I really like this one. It’s borderline a mantra.
MVP (Minimum Viable Product) is a good tool of thumb also. What is the simplest end result you can work towards to establish a foundation/working model you can iterate over if necessary later to “perfect”
When deciding what to do, the order of trumps is legal, then prudent, then right. Do what is legal unless what is prudent is illegal, then do what is prudent. If doing what is right is neither prudent or legal, do it anyway because it’s right.
Never start fights with people. Always be prepared to finish a fight someone else starts with you, quickly, without posturing, hesitation, or mercy. Regardless of their size, shape, color, creed, or uniform, bullies can never be allowed to win.
When solving a problem, always start with the simplest possibility first.
Never lend anyone: Your truck, your pen, your chainsaw, or your wife. No matter what, they’re going to do something with them that you’re not going to like.
You can never have too many pens, flashlights, knives, or bullets.
Be unremarkable but no so unremarkable as to be in and of itself remarkable
I have no more right to interfere in someone else’s life than they have to interfere in mine.
Avoid people who don’t share that view.
“First thing you learn is that you always gotta wait.” Taken from the Velvet Underground about buying drugs, but I think it’s pretty applicable to everything.
Make it work, then make it work right.
And it’s companion for understanding how things came to be- every complex working system invariably developed from a simple working system
Have strong opinions that are weakly held.
Don’t let “perfect” be the enemy of “good”
Now that I think about it, my principles like my life may be all about engineering…
MVP is a good tool I was just mentioning. Picked it up unknowingly from coding, still working on generalizing it to my life but its working and rightly for me
Don’t let “perfect” be the enemy of “good”.
When I make maps for ttrpgs, I’ve started using a tool that is, let’s be honest, kinda crap. The maps I can make using it can only ever be “good enough.” This is good, because it means I don’t spent hours trying to make it perfect, and instead just finish prepping other things.
Why does one need strong opinions? And what are they actually?
To me, having a strong opinion means I have thought about the problem space enough to understand what I believe are the important aspects and what optimizes them. Remembering to hold them weakly in the light of previously unconsidered or under appreciated arguments prevents me from becoming overly rigid.
Have strong opinions that are weakly held.
Ooh this is excellent phrasing of a good principle
