Everyone has one. lets try to recognize and be grateful of what we have!
Though I’m disadvantaged in a lot of ways, I have a really good job with a solid team and a fantastic wage structure. It’s also union and wfh. Super lucky and grateful.
Being born into a place and time where I’m not killed or imprisoned for being autistic and LGBT+
yep, the past aint so bright as the future
I was lucky to have money to invest at the right time when the markets crashed in 2008 and 2020, when stocks could be had at a 90% discount. As a result I was able to pay off my student loans and put a down payment on my residence with the profits, just by being willing to wait a few years for the market to recover.
I never felt the need to compare myself to others. aka, I’m competing with no one but myself.
I consider that a huge advantage, but who knows maybe I’m wrong.
In what context is that an advantage?
Def is a huge advantage! Once you stop caring about others you can properly improve your self. A lot of people never does.
I’m practically invisible. Now that I’ve settled into it and don’t really desire/crave attention, it’s nice to just fade into the background.
any example on the way you use your superpower?
Mostly just keeps people from bugging me (random conversations in waiting rooms). Unfortunately, doesn’t seem to work when waiting in queues. Occasionally will be in a conference room working and co-workers will come in to work out their drama and not even realize I’ve been there the whole time. Petty stuff like that lol.
Occasionally will be in a conference room working and co-workers will come in to work out their drama
I hate that. So many people talk to their therapist about their drinking in front of me.
I’m a white man living in the UK that’s about as close to life on easy mode as you can get. I learned quite young to not care about what other people thought of me which has been very useful.
Truly. I think many does not realize the advantages of being a white guy in a 1st world coutry. This advantage is especially useful when traveling abroad.
I’m easily satisfied with life. I have a pretty good job and make pretty good money, good friends, and I have a beautiful wife, and that’s all I need. I’m not the ambitious type who needs to keep making more and more money. I don’t need the fanciest car or designer clothes. I don’t want to be famous, and I don’t have anything to prove to strangers. That makes it much easier to be happy, I think.
Wow, something that I would never say but good on you! A simple life is in no way a wrong life to lead
White, male privilege.
I hate it when you see those images on other SM of poor white people and some knuckle dragger says “I see no white privilege here”.
Why do you hate that?
Because white privilege doesn’t mean you were born rich, it means you have to work harder for the same or less.
Yeah nothing to be proud of but I can’t discount how powerful this one is, now that I’m “woke” to it.
Like I have worked for people for years and just not known they were racist or sexist, only for them to let it slip. And then you see behind the mask.
Realising why there are no people of colour in my office, or women with any kind of power. Realising I would not have this job if I was not a white man.
As a queer person, it feels even weirder. Like I’m a spy and my cover could be blown at any moment.
Welcome to being “high functioning” autistic, which is basically an undercover assignment from birth where if you slip up suddenly you have enemies.
Nobody, literally zero people, will acknowledge treating autistic people differently but holy shit.
I’ve never felt like someone might kill me if they learn I am on the spectrum. I have felt that way if they found out I fuck dudes.
Actively kill me? No. But take away my ability to earn money? Yes. Fortunately our society has safety nets for people who are expunged from groups, so in our civilization it’s not killing to kick someone out of the group.
Even as a straight I kinda feel that way sometimes, all theses assholes keep telling on themselves to me. It’s also depressing how many of them there are
I feel that. I’ve got a very serious redneck thing going on. I hunt, fish, dress like I just got off work at the ranch (that’s true sometimes), and raise a lot of hell. I know why they think I’m one of them. It’s depressing some days because it’s almost like people can’t wait to say fucked up shit as soon as they meet me.
Never underestimate the power of a white man saying “that’s some fucked up shit bro” to another white man
I use that power. I say things ranging from “Dude, that’s not ok” to “Are you fucking stupid or something?” if I’m looking to get their attention.
I’ve also pulled out “You know my cousin is black, right?” (true statement) and “That’s my sister” (untrue statement). When you make it personal they get real uncomfortable and start apologizing.
The number of times I’ve been “accused” of being gay just because I don’t have a problem with homo couples. Sometime in the 200Xs I stopped correcting people and went with “so what if I am gay” which added a real satisfying record scratch moment to arguments.
Let them believe I’m gay if they want, it’s none of their fucking business, and they should be aware there are queer folk in stealth mode literally in every aspect of their lives.
I also like to act like I have no clue what the punchline of the racist\sexist\homophobic\hateful joke they are making is, having them explain it out loud gets em really awkward
Yes! Weaponized naivety is a powerful tool.
A motivated person? Crazy
Did you ever use it?
It’s not something you actively use, it is just “there.”
For example: I applied to a job as a refrigeration technician and during the interview the guy actually fucking said “it’s really hard to get clean cut white guys to apply. I don’t want some Dominican (literally referring to their Dominican maintenance guy) walking into a store with our logos on.”
I had finished a tech school with some other black guys that I know also applied, I got the job and they didn’t. :/
I bet that interviewer cheers like crazy when a Dominican player hits a home run for their favorite team, LOL.
Been there, wasn’t that great.
That’s nothing compared to good looks. Opens literally all doors in life. Secret cheat code.
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Yeah, I guess left-leaning white males are just as underprivileged and oppressed as people of color and women. We should rename it to “conservative white male privilege.”
I know you’re joking, but queer white men exist, and they also face oppression.
It’s almost like the system that keeps us all oppressed actually doesn’t give a shit about these marginal differences, and just wants to keep us focused on identity politics and fracturing ourselves.
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Autism ?
Interesting. How do you think thats your advantage?
I’m HFA, so sometimes lack of empathy, sometimes better understanding of things in general, a little bit like “the good doctor”, can be rather strange to neurotypical, but it often does the job
College educated parents. Education and early career is so much easier to navigate with parents who know the ropes and have a network.
a lot of my peers underestimate how much their parents can help them in their career.
White, male privilege and loving parents that supported me in all ways when needed. Seriously, life has been almost on peaceful mode, definitely easy mode.
loving parents that supported me in all ways when needed.
This is the component that I was missing. I have the white male privilege, but I’ve always had split parents and 2 stepfathers that were always dicks. I had to move out at 18. My friend had the exact opposite situation where he could stay at home as long as he needed to and he spent his time studying towards a computer science degree. I always had to worry about moving and paying rent so I never pursued anything “difficult” or time consuming as I never knew when I’d have to move again so I’m now just a worthless, single, factory worker schmuck living in someone’s garage and my friend is happily married working from home making major money from a well known major corporation.
We couldn’t possibly have more different outcomes unless our skin color were also different.
I’m sorry you got a rough rub, man. I’m heading in a similar direction (moved out at 17, now late 20s working a dead end job to barely afford bills and halfway trying to go to school) and yeah, shits depressing, especially when you have friends that had similar interests and skills as you that were able to make something out of them (my friend who’s floor I slept on the last year of highschool is now a literal rocket scientist).
Just remember, we’re never truly worthless! So long as we keep clocking in every day, we have immense value to our employers. And what more could a person ask for.
White + was lucky to get a good job early on + parents had enough capital in their home to guarantor for my home loan at 28.
Pro: I never get seasick, no matter how rough it gets. Con: Terrified of heights and flying.
My mom is absolutely terrified of heights, to the point where she can’t stand on a chair without someone holding it. On tables isn’t happening. Ever.
But she’s perfectly fine with flying, and does so at least a couple of times per year. I even offered to take her flying in a very small aircraft a while back, and she had no problem with the idea.
Everything higher than the second floor of a building is a big nope to me. My family made me go on holidays via airplane back when I was a wee child and I kept screaming for the entire duration of both flights. They never tried that shite ever again. I mean, what did they expect, really, knowing damn well about my severe anxiety issues? Even today I’d never set foot on any kind of aircraft, even with knockout medication and a million Dollars in return. Just no. I do not belong in the sky. I need solid ground or water under my feet. Interestingly enough it’s cool for me to go hiking in the mountains. The mountains are solid and therefore they are my friends. If I fall down, that’s on me then.
Other than randomly being born in a western democracy ranking high on living standard, happiness etc.
I was a good boy and put in the effort in school. I get paid accordingly and have a relatively stress free job.
I’ve experienced both extremes of fiscal class: inherited wealth and opportunity as well as prison and homelessness. It’s a double edged sword, a great curse and advantage concurrently.
