The ability to deal with the rush and then persistence of negative feeling whenever anything bad happens, my routine is thrown off, or even I have to do something I’d rather not, because I do not cope well with any of those, and it causes me to shut down.
The usual advice is to “bury it”, “hold it” or “suck it up” for some unspecified later time, but that was basically my old coping mechanism and It Does Not Work™ any more.
So I’d like the upgraded version of that. Whatever it is. Preferably a version that won’t break or occasionally malfunction (we call those “Warning signs”, kids) like the original one did.
or even I have to do something I’d rather not
What works for me for this: A soundtrack. Back in the day, I used to bike every weekend. I hated exercise but realized I had to do it. I started collecting fast, powerful tracks, found what made me focus rather than go into daydreaming. I slowly over the weeks, months and years, kept at the same soundtrack. Now, when there’s busy work, or shit work, or pain i need to endure, i throw an earbud in and i’m back on the long ass boring trail, just focusing on whatever bullshit i need to do.
Doesn’t work well if I need to do something creative, but cleaning and grass cutting, it’s like a switch to turn off my “god i ate this” switch.
This is an issue CBT (not that one) can help with.
Tried it. Have had at least four therapists at this point, and I’ve reached the limit of what I’m entitled to.
As for the other one, someone once told me to avoid it because “[I’m] already paranoid enough.”, with which I agreed.
Ah shit, sorry to hear that.
The upgrade is get a good therapist, and that can be trickier, more or less depending on your place of residence. Someone who can help you gather new tools and the skills to apply them. I wish you the best.
“I know how to make myself do the thing I planned to do.”
Knowing every tree, plant, insect, …
Yeah, Billy 780164 as I like to call him, is an ant living in the basement in a swedish suburb near the sea, just besides the grass Gras9534795.
:) not what I intended, but that would be cool too
That ability is known as Dave😁
Math, specifically gambling.
being able to inspect/ appraise any item and get comprehensive details about it.
it would be great to spot antiques and famous works from garage/ lawn sales.
Ha! I’m imagining a DC comic book about “appraisal man”!!
How to speak Japanese. I’d move there in a heartbeat.
Having a strong speech skill. I’ll have the silver tongue needed to talk and utilize etiquette to get what I need and want. Maybe even pick up someone too.
Being able to feel joy/happiness. I really don’t understand or know what those things are but everyone says it’s wonderful and awesome. So It would be awesome to experience it at least once.
Read and write all languages. Be it swahili, mandarin, latin, hieroglyfs, python, c++ or java. ;)
Is Maths a language?
For sure.
You had me until Java.
I agree. But i want ALL languages ;) even the crappy ones.
JavaIsEasyToReadAsLongAsYouDontEverNeedToTakeABreakToBreathFactoryFactory
I would use it as a Total Perspective Vortex and dump the scale of the universe into my mind.
I would immediately download more RAM. No hax. Really works.
The ability to perform high level mathematics and computer science tasks including programming languages and logic.
Playing the piano, or just singing at a professional level. Would be amazing to know, but takes years of constant practice and teaching to learn.
Seconding Piano. I’m a reasonably decent guitarist, but there aren’t many everyday situations where this comes in handy unless you’re a professional musicians.
However, Pianos are casually placed everywhere, intended for public use. Especially in airports for some reason. I would love to woo random people passing by by flawlessly playing Hiromi Uehara or Jordan Rudess.
Is Charisma an uploadable skill? If so, I’d love to upload the entire library to displace my Charisn’tma.
It is but its a 20 sided dice roll after that. And you critically fail…
Pick your battles, so to speak.
I want to understand, intrinsically, and be able to manipulate to my liking, all the financial systems of the world.
At worst, I’d quickly become a well-paid accountant. At best, I’d become an extremely talented, untraceable, modern Robin Hood.
I’ve thought about that a lot. If I won a near bn or more lottery, could I stay grounded enough, after hiring a reputable financial planner, to found a Montessori school of high global academic standards or free health clinic, including pharmacy, that includes plant medicines, organic foods diets, where appropriate, and/or a smaller side project or two? Or would I be irresponsible and do an Elvis-type thing for my primary caregiver and for my child that’s still in my life, rather than set them up with a trust, so they would be able to be truly financially independent, should their spouse pass before them? It’s easy to think the best of ourselves until the moment of truth arrives. I’d hope I’d be financially responsible, hire the planner, give to my community in a meaningful, probably anonymous way (because of sudden best friends clamoring for Fendi bags and Lambos), and buy myself an old Volvo or Audi, dependable and unostentatious.
I can’t reasonably spend more than like 100m, including giving millions to friends and family. Like what the fuck would I even buy? I could buy 4 lambos and 2 houses for every friend I have and every family member I talk to and barely make a dent.
Probably just donate it to whatever the best charities are for a variety of things.
Taxes will take a chunk, and if you take immediate payout, that’s another chunk. My community has needs I would like to responsibly and realistically fund, long after my death.
Yachts and real estate.
This would be a pretty dope tv show for about a season.
How many episodes and his long are they?
