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Speaking as a freeform blob. Roundness? Yes, I have some ot that. Sharp pointy bits? Yep. Little tangles? Ya, a few of those too.
Executive dysfunction!
Thank you for teaching me about rejection sensitive dysphoria, I think it has been playing a role in my struggles, but I didn’t know it.
I really, really, struggle with this. I try to power through and tell myself that most people simply do not care enough to reject you for small shit that I worry about, and those that do aren’t worth my time.
It’s not going well, though.
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Ageism. Heard of that one ?
chews… so you like cherries?
Being a boomer is a mindset, not an age. It’s just more noticable in the baby boomer population.
You don’t need to explain your bigotry to me.
Lol, sure thing, buddy
Boomers think the solution to every problem is religion, “work harder” or alcohol. I knew not to listen to most of them when I was a child. I definitely don’t heed their puerile advice now, especially after watching so many of them get blindsided circa 2008 and again during Covid.
i mean, technically every word is made up
Well, now I have a term for that awful sinking feeling I get in the pit of my stomach whenever I find out my friendgroups are doing things without me. That’s a start.
Doesn’t matter if they’re “made up”.
The conditions that precipitated those words have always existed. The resistance to creating the terms doesn’t make the conditions not exist, it just means that the disagreeable person can justify to themselves that they don’t have to acknowledge them if they can avoid the words.
IOW, terms can help legitimize. They don’t want the conditions legitimized so they don’t have to acknowledge them.
Could you not use people’s age as an insult?
If you don’t get it, it’s not even worth explaining.
k, thanks. bye.
edit: I’ve engaged enough here. Feel free to comment if you’d like blocked.
Boomers is more of a mindset than a specific age range to be fair
Hard disagree. It’s a generation. If people used zoomer or millennial in the same disparaging way in a meme, they’d be lambasted.
Yes. No one has ever used the terms millennial or zoomer in a disparaging way… 🙄
They do and it gets lambasted. My point stands
Yeah baby boomers are a generation, but not all baby boomers have a boomer mentality. I know some Gen X, some millennials and some zoomers that do too.
I’m familiar with the argument. And yet it is an age descriptor used as a pejorative. But no one cares because its just old people, right?
Well, maybe “old people” should have stopped fucking everything up for everyone about 50 years ago. Fuck em
Don’t be absurd, the Greatest Generation was awesome.
It’s their kids that suck.
a mindset from a different time has little to do with age and more to do with the environment they grew up in. If a baby boomer time traveled from when they were 20 to now they would still be a boomer.
Well, a word can have multiple meanings
So if someone called a gay person f-slur, its okay because words have different meanings. Got it.
Yep, totally the same thing, a blanket word for obtuse close minded people and a sexual slur
Oh boy, are you intentionally dense?
The last characteristic you are allowed to freely attack. It’s rampant online and they don’t even know they’re doing it .
They’ve had longer to become better.
Cry harder
I am in this picture and I don’t like it.
Deleting my post doesn’t make it not true.
Accurate clocks were only widely available and relevant to anyone following the growth of railroads less than 200 years ago.
And YOU apparently think all humanity evolved an equal sensitivity to the passage of time, and that everyone else should be in just as much of a damn hurry as you.
Not wanting my time wasted waiting for someone who can’t be bother to think about how their lateness affects others, doesn’t mean I’m in a hurry.
Ok, doesn’t change the fact that clocks weren’t available to the layman until a couple centuries ago.
We did not evolve to be sensitive to the passage of time.
It’s a thing whether you like it or not. Your preference for punctuality is a learned behavior, not something that everyone else has.
It’s a skill which can be practiced. Making excuses to avoid doing that doesn’t help anyone.
Imagine being colorblind and someone trying to explain what purple looks like. Seeing purple is not a skill, either you have the receptors in your eyes or your don’t. The ability to sense time is similar. It is not a skill.
Damn, I used to believe that because I could do something it was possible if not easy for everybody else to do that thing. I’m ashamed to admit that I felt that way well into my thirties.
Then (way, way too late in my life) I somehow realized that not everyone was the same as I am, and I learned a little thing called empathy.
Ok, then it’s a skill that not everyone else values the same way you do. It doesn’t make you better than anyone. Frankly, it appears to stress you out, and probably lots of people around you too.
That’s funny, because every time I’ve been in a group effort at uni or the office, the late folks were the neurotypicals while those with ADHD showed up early.
Which is a polite way of saying, you’re full of shit, a fucking atrocious human being, and you statistically make less money than me who has a literal disability 👍
Edit: and of course it’s a lemm.ee fascist. Typical.
while those with ADHD showed up early
I go where the phone reminders command.
“Justice sensitivity” as a symptom of a disorder is fucking wild. Like they really said, “This person doesn’t roll over and take all the systemic abuse. We keep telling them it’s a normal amount of abuse but they don’t accept it. This is their problem.”
I absolutely agree, although I wonder if it’s sorta like “hypervigilance”. Vigilance and keen observation are fantastic!
But there’s also a point where it interferes with your life because it’s freaking exhausting and you just can’t…stop…noticing…every…little…thing…
Maybe that’s what they mean, assuming in good faith they’re not being all 1984 about it…
Although it does feel like the mental health “industry” trend of pushing the onus on the individual who, may simply be reacting normally to a completely chaotic, absurd, often bleak environment.
That last part is a worthy criticism of the mental health industry and one that often gets a lot of push back unfortunately.
It results in a lot of misdiagnosed individuals and mismatched support plans that can cause more harm than good.
Yes, and if it interferes with social, work, or home life it can be more than just mentally taxing.
What disorder are you referring to? I tried to look this up, and justice sensitivity just seems to be a personality characteristic. There are also lots of websites talking about its link to ADHD and autism, but AFAIK it’s not a symptom of either.
Hm, looking it up I think you’re right.
I still think it’s kind of wild that we’ve noticed these things are linked to higher “justice sensitivity”, and as a society we still insist that those people are disordered.
Like, maybe there’s a link between having the kind of “disorder” that our hypernormative society punishes for not fitting its far too rigid systems, and being sensitive to injustice.
It’s like breaking someone’s finger and then noting that that person has high “digital sensitivity”. Like no, they have an injury, being sensitive where the injury happened is to be expected, actually.
Sure, although those are still different things, and people won’t receive a diagnosis just because they’re more sensitive to matters of justice.
I completely agree with you that the stigma around psychological disorders (“disorder bad”) isn’t justified. Especially people with conditions like autism or ADHD often just experience the world differently and in ways that would sometimes be beneficial if everyone saw it that way.
The term “disorder” does a poor job at conveying that these conditions often result from peoples’ inability to function in “normal” society, which is not caused by them being “bad” but rather by society making it difficult for them to function as well as they could.
And then they get real snippy when you say “all words are made up.”
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Yet 100% true. And a cromulent response.
Without additional explanation its dumb yeah. “All words are made up, these ones were simply made up after you stopped being interested in learning about anything new in the world.”
An obnoxious response to an obnoxious statement
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Did it ever hold true?
There are cases where it does hold. Trivially, if the wrongs are vastly out of proportion, someone is overreacting. For example, if you’re fixated on your phone, don’t look where you’re going and bump into me, that’s a mild wrong. If I respond by slapping the phone out of your hands and stomping on it, I’ve caused way more damage to you in retaliation.
But in the case at hand, I’m with you: An obnoxious statement designed to invalidate someone’s complaint countered by another obnoxious statement designed to invalidate the previous one, thus defending the original complaint, is perfectly acceptable. The point isn’t just obnoxion, but a counterargument.
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All words are made up. That is a true statement, not ‘a wrong’ thing to say.
Just because it wasn’t polite doesn’t mean it’s wrong. You’re putting morals on how to correct people on a subject you don’t fully understand yourself.
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And the thing it’s a response to isnt?
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The response is also just kind of snarky and annoying.
That’s the point. Pretend that my problems don’t exist? Get your bullshit thrown back at you.
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Normally I’m all about education, but I know a lost cause when I see one. A person like that probably won’t be persuaded by information. By telling them that all words are made up, you’d be applying the snark you consider fine.
Which is the point of it. Be a jerk, get a snarky and true response.
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What do you think that response does?
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How is telling someone that all words are made up, not just the ones they are angry about, not calling them on their shit in a real way? In cuts straight to the point and is undeniably factual. It can turn to more conversation on the topic if it’s worth the effort. As science progresses, people make up words to explain new discoveries, so all words are made up.
Treating someone like a child that’s acting like a child is how to deal with children.
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Agreed, one of those “technically correct but deliberately missing the point” statements. Not sure why you’re so heavily downvoted so I want to explain why I support your statement.
The original statement doesn’t suggest they fail to understand words are constructed for sharing meaning, it asserts that the statements don’t communicate anything useful because the speaker made them up.
The statement is wrong, it needs a response, but “all words are made up” is not a useful response. It’s technically correct but fails to meet the speaker halfway by understanding their position and building towards it. See also: “all lives matter.” Technically correct but not useful, and deliberately avoids trying to understand the speaker’s position.
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Someone making the “made up words” argument in the first place doesn’t deserve to be met in the middle. By doing so gives them merit.
“All words are made up”
