baiting…
Serious question. What’s with those fucking bait shops in the seedy parts of town. What the fuck is going on in there. Do they sell like baits that will catch magical fish but you have to like make a deal with the devil?
I dunno, I usually go to the
candy shopmarijuana gummy dispensary shop for my bait…Worms pretty much grow themselves. It’s cheap money
At which point do you decide you’ve become a master and no longer a Padawan?
You can be a padawan and still be a master baiter. It’s the jedi who can’t do that.
Critical thinking
Bate
How to use a lathe, compliment someone without expecting anything in return, and blend in on a city street.
Themselves.
I haven’t even begun to peak
The only answer here I agree with.
There’s no specific task, job or skill everyone needs to master. Everyone should know the basics of a lot of things, but the only thing you really need to master is yourself.
Good comment 5/5 would give free silver
Just want to point out, I said try to master, there’s a distinction. Love you.
Yes, that’s how I interpreted it.
I’m just of the opinion that there isn’t any single skill that every one should even attempt to master, except exactly mastering themselves.
Even the most basic things like cooking or something… not everyone needs to try to master it.
I just can’t come up with anything everyone should even attempt to master. I can think of several you should know the rough basics of. Like first aid. But there’s literally no point in trying to “master it”, unless you’re actually going to work in medicine.
Like I don’t disagree or judge in anything way. I just can’t think of any.
listening to the other(s).
The other what?
the other… persons.
Reflective listening is a good way to learn that skill.
Meditation. It helps with self-control, emotional regulation, stress, and builds discipline. Screen addiction is real, and meditation helps.
Every time I’ve tried, I just end up sitting there.
Experiment with different techniques. There’s a method there that you can get a handle on.
What are the options?
We have 2 techniques. The Buddhists call them samatha and vipassana. They go by other names, in other traditions, too.
We start with samatha, because it’s easy. Just takes diligent effort.
In samatha you hold your attention upon a thing (called your “object”) as perfectly as you can for a time.
You can use pretty much anything as your object. But some work better than others and some work differently for different people.
So experimentation is called for there.
Popular objects are mantras (a repeated word), visualizations, sights (like a candle flame), sounds (the wind in the trees), the feeling of breath in the tip of your nose. Lots of room for experimentation there. I like that last one especially.
Here’s a nice overview : http://fleen.org/fluffy_cloud (he calls the techniques “shrink” and “grow”). A couple nice books on the subject are “Journey of Awakening” by Ram Dass and “Meditation, the First and Last Freedom”, by Osho.
Ultimately you will need to do your own research, perform your own experiments and become your own expert.Is there a variation for people who have aphantasia (assuming it’s talking about visualization)?
In that first technique you hold your attention on a thing as perfectly as you can for a time.
That thing can be a visualization or it can be any of a hundred other things.
My favorite is the feeling of breath in the tip of my nose. It’s a popular one. No visualization required there.
That’s kind of what it is. Just try to think of nothing. I just think about the air going into and out of my lungs.
I do that every day though :/
World Domination
/s
A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects.
–Robert A. Heinlein
Yeah I don’t agree 100% with this author or anyone, really, but I always return to this quote when I watch the world attempting to corral the magnificent potential wonder-beings that are humans, into hyper-specialized hive-pod roles.
All the jobs out there that actually pay seem to want people who were bred and raised their entire lives for that stupidly specific role to the exclusion of all else. Humanity’s versatility is our strength, and once again, the rich want to covet it while making the rest of us into specialized parts for their machines.
So my answer is “learning.” A lot of people don’t know how to learn new things, and stop trying, probably because their schooling failed them.
They are then frustrated easily by inconvenience, and incapable of solving problems or finding help. This is a brain gone to waste.
A lot of people pick one specialization and decide to just not learn anything else and that’s the most depressing thing in the world to witness. (I met a lot of older people who just stopped learning things after what must’ve been highschool. Huge yikes…)
Fix things. Make things. Fail a lot. Troubleshoot. PLAY.
Try whistling. Can you snap your fingers yet? How about training your way up to a handstand, maybe? Hey, yo-yos are fun.
Don’t like guns? Go learn how to safely use one anyway just for perspective. Cars? Try learning your own (simple!) repairs. Never learned to ride a bike? Best time is now!
Try planning a hangout. Join a meetup that sounds vaguely interesting. Learn how to tie knots. Learn how to stop trauma bleeding. Sew a cloak or something maybe. Teach somebody else things you know!
Don’t limit yourself by your first impressions of things you’ve never experienced. So many people look at something and just say “I can’t. I’m not that person. I won’t like it probably.”
Our modernization led by ruling classes has stripped us of so many experiences and then sold them back to us with admission fees. So much human potential and knowledge has been siloed away and sold back to us as “goods and services”, while we’re relegated to being “consumers.”
Human beings were made to do a multitude of tasks, and use their strengths to cooperate to the betterment of all, not to be alienated and separated by specific specializations they aren’t allowed to stray from.
Seriously, enjoy how much absolute potential you have instead of doing one thing you felt good at and being scared to try anything else.
Control of your attention. Because it is the axis of reality.
Try living off grid, without power, phone, internet. Heat with a wood stove, carry your water. Then reflect on your standards for life.
I can already do that, I’m an autistic bastard that can make up languages for 14 hours a day and still have fun
Polite conversation
Knowing when silence is damaging
Knowing when to shut up
I always feel like if you’re spending time with someone new, it’s OK to have stints of silence. It’s one thing to get along with someone by having easy conversation. At the same time it’s nice to know that you don’t always have to fill up every moment with dialog. To just exist in someone else’s presence is sometimes enough.
That’s something I struggle to internalize, even when I’m with my best friends. I dunno how to be comfortable with silence, with a lull in the hangout sesh, it just eats me up and makes me feel like a bad friend.
If I notice it, I just say to myself, “silence is good, quiet is peaceful. If they’re comfortable I am comfortable.”
Good tip, thanks.
Yep. Right there with you. With my upbringing if someone was silent around you, they were seething at you for something you did. And you know what it was! (You probably don’t, actually. Good luck guessing.)
This makes things unnecessarily interesting when I have long car rides with my naturally-introverted wife and I start feeling like I’ve done something terribly wrong when she doesn’t have much to say.
I was going to make my own comment but this hits the nail on the head. Civil discussion. They or you may be wrong but make your point and let them make theirs and may the strongest prevail.
Assert your point but don’t be mean.
Knowing when to leave a conversation, a room, a party, a relationship, etc.
Sewing
You’ll save yourself so much money and time mending clothes, blankets, and doing your own mods instead of buying new things.
I learned to sew in my early 50s. Very helpful. I also leaned to… solder (small electronics) which is also a great way to save a lot of money, and to generate so much less waste.
My wife laughs at me for mending clothes. I often darn socks, jeans, sweaters, etc. - takes about 10 minutes but dang, I just saved $80 on a new pair of jeans. DUH.
My jr high school made the boys take ‘home economics’ and the girls had to take shop class. We all thought it was a joke but, 40 years later, I can still sew and shank a button, fix a tear in jeans, and make a pan of muffins with the best of them.
Jeans maybe but socks would bother me soo much…
A properly darned sock doesn’t feel any different from a new sock. And if you match the color of the yarn, it can be nearly invisible.
I think visible mending is more fun – my husband’s socks have colorful little patches that make us both smile.
I feel you but honestly, you don’t even notice.
Pretty great, huh?
Money, sure. Time. I’m not convinced.
You can mend holes in 5-15 minutes, it takes longer to find and buy new ones
Maybe with some practice. I know some basic sewing and can do some crude stuff in 5-15 minutes. If it was something I were going to wear to, say, work I would have to spend some time learning stitch patterns, getting the right thread etc. I also am not great at organization so no matter how many times I buy sewing supplies they always get shoved away to some place I can’t remember.
My wife is working on the sewing room so maybe I will be better orginized in the future. I’m actually excited about it but it’s not like it took us 30 mins to throw everything together.
I started mending my clothes a while back. I’m not great at it but for the most part it’s passable enough to wear out in public and the process of sewing it is actually really relaxing. It’s nice to be able to save something that would otherwise be tossed out. Also I was able to turn an old t-shirt into dust covers for some of my PC peripherals I don’t use all the time which I was pretty proud of.
Yeah, I have a pair of jeans where the crotch wore out recently. Took me ten minutes to add a double-seam to it. Saved me at least $50. (All by hand, no machine.)
It’s such a useful skill!
I’ve got a hoodie that looks like Frankenstein at this point but it’s my comfort clothes. I think all the stitches give it character.
I love not having to throw old things I love away. I have a Star Wars shirt I’ve worn hundreds of times over the last ten years and the pits are wearing away. I just keep stitching them up, but probably should just patch them.
First Aid, since you never know when this might be helpful on either yourself or others!
On that note im surprise we haven’t seen CPR or the hiemlic.
I had classes on CPR and the Heimlich Maneuver at school as part of the First Aid classes we had, though I’m not sure how commonplace such classes are in other schools/locations.
Understanding nuance and then applying said understanding in communication with others.
I can’t begin to mention how often people need to know something but won’t accept how non-yes-or-no the answer might be.
Exactly. I always say that nearly everything that exists in life does so within the grey area between black and white.
not anymore it seems.
