There’s the obvious “if you’re a homophobe, transphobe, racist, abelist” etc etc etc. Like obviously that makes me lose respect for people.
But I think if you judge someone for doing something that you deem “weird”. I used to so that until I learned that like, hey we’re all fucking weird. Who cares.
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“…creating a nuisance” and they all came back and we had a grand old time talking about crime, mother-raping, father-stabbing, and the all the groovy things we was talking about on the bench.
Every Thanksgiving, without fail.
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Littering and smokin the reefer!
I’m tripping balls, man!
You ARE tripping balls mmaannnn
Being disrespectful to other people because someone think they have mundane jobs.
This one for me. Having a service job doesn’t make you a slave ffs. You can really read a person’s character when you see how they treat those that are less than. I’d also add animals to that list but that’s just my personal axe to grind.
I was always annoyed by the idiots on reddit who would constantly try to tell me that I should be judging someone based on their job for my dating preferences.
last person I talked to on there about that tried to assume that I would never date someone who worked in a grocery store because I make more than $60k a year. I definitely have dated someone who worked in a grocery store with my salary cause I don’t give a fuck where someone works. Jobs are just that, jobs. People have them because they have to. Why on earth would you judge someone for doing something they are practically forced to fucking do.
If they believe in ghosts
If they believe in pretty much any laughably stupid idea: ghosts, astrology, anti-vax, religion, etc
Casually using racial slurs.
Or any slurs, right?
Good point
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- Saying “All [of any profession] are bastards”
It’s usually only applied to one, specific profession though. And it’s absolutely true.
ACAB is bad messaging and nobody within the movement agrees on how literal it is. The same applies but even harder for Defund the Police. I also don’t think the literal ACAB meaning is helpful because classifying all cops the same way encourages those who don’t care about their reputation (ie. usually actual bastards) to stay, and discourages those who do care (ie. less bad cops) from staying, leading to the police force getting worse over time. It also means that the police force has no incentive to change, because they’ll be labelled the same either way (although most wouldn’t follow a reasonable incentive anyway, unfortunately). TL;DR: IMO your heart’s in the right place but the consequences of treating ACAB as “absolutely true” instead of as an opportunity to make meaningful changes within the system is a mistake.
Used car salesman?
Have you interacted with every single person in the world who has that profession?
Demanding it.
Respect is earned, not automatic.
No rational thinking.
Taking advantage of kind people. By all means you don’t need to turn down kindness, even if you’re joking to make light of your need to ask for kindness that’s fine but if you take their kindness as expectation, it really hurts. My mother was always willing to help those in need and people would always use her like it was their right until she broke down. I’m currently trying to convince my senior to include me in more of his meetings because he seems to be in a similar position and I’m ready to help him say no
Violence or aggression towards animals or pets.
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being rude in general
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being a stickler for timekeeping
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liking dogs but not cats
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salting food at a restaurant without tasting it first — though I guess this fits under “rudeness”
To be clear, these are all “lose some respect”, not "lose all respect.
being a stickler for timekeeping
I have ended budding relationships because they had no respect for timekeeping. I have shit to do, a schedule to keep and sever ADHD that needs me to schedule out my day to function and people who refused to care about that are selfish. Please respect other people’s time.
I respect other people’s time and schedules. But if people can’t respect mine, or their own, then that lowers my esteem.
I’m not talking about “you kept me waiting” people –after all, keeping others waiting is rude– I’m talking about the “if you’re not early, you’re late” people.
You should have said that then cause I read your original comment and thought you were defending people who are 30 minutes late to shit. I’ve met people who defend things like that too. So it seemed very plausible.
My boss now understands that I will come in five minutes past the hour most days, because that’s when the train gets me there. It’s that or leave much earlier to get there only a little earlier. There’s nothing special about being there “on the hour” and I stay until all the work’s done. Most of the time, there isn’t even anything for me to do in those five minutes, of the ten after. He doesn’t consider this being late and neither do I, because we share expectations.
A previous boss expected me to be there at noon to open the bar by one. Opening the bar took me twenty minutes, so I started coming in at 12:30. When he complained, I asked him if he wanted to pay me for another half-hour to stand around. He saw sense.
A third boss would camp out at six am just to write me up for coming in five minutes past the hour. Again, while we are not open and there was nothing for me to do but be there. And again, to get there beforehand, I would’ve had to get on a bus a full hour earlier. I explained this, but he was new to his job and saw this as an affront to his authority or something. I was eventually fired over it, just a week before he himself was fired for inappropriate conduct.
That is the kind of behavior I’m talking about. Worship of the clock to the exclusion of sense.
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Lack of curiosity.
Perfectly reasonable.
Believing in pseudoscience or spiritualistic flim flam (astrology, crystals, energy) and being anti-science.
There’s a lot more but that’s good enough.
People who travel in sweat pants and hoodies or “athlileasure” (sp?) cloths on airplanes. Yeah, I get that you want to pretend it’s a big sleepover, but I don’t want to be in a sleepover with you. I’m probably not looking forward to this trip and am already stressed. I just find it to be somehow disrespectful of others, not sure why.
I’m probably the weird one on this peeve, but I have to travel a lot for work. People do this shit on long distance trains too.
Other pet peeve is when someone corrects someone else’s pronunciation of a word in a condescending manner. The person mispronouncing the word probably read it in a book and has just never heard it pronounced in the wild. Making fun of someone trying expand their vocabulary is just petty. There are nice ways to correct them and actually help them they could have used.
I don’t look like I’m wearing a tracksuit, but I often wear loose fitting comfortable clothes when travelling long distances. What’s the issue you have with it? You could do the same and be comfortable, and probably less stressed 😅
I read it as “I’m powerless in the face of what I believe is social convention/work requirements, so as I am unwilling to take the risk of rebelling I dislike those who do rebel”
It’s the same mindset as bitching and moaning against other people participating in demonstrations or strikes.
It’s a passive-aggressive coping mechanism for low self-confidence, IMHO.
I absolutely judge people who just go about their day to day life in joggers with no shame though, but ironically, when travelling for hours?
It’s the one time I totally understand the need for comfort above all else and will defend it 😅
The person mispronouncing the word probably read it in a book and has just never heard it pronounced in the wild
omg I use to hang out with people who would say to me “oh you only read that word, and never heard it said to you”
So, one of your pet peeves is when someone makes a big deal out of a simple thing that isn’t hurting anyone else, and you’re other pet peeve is a simple thing that doesn’t hurt anyone else which you make a big deal out of.
Claiming everyone’s dressed for a sleepover that you don’t want to be part of is pretty condescending. Just like the person who doesn’t think you are saying a word correctly, you’re the person who doesn’t think anyone is dressed correctly.
Might be time for some introspection.
