It’s that time of year again when my partner gets upset with me because I’m not the kind of person that ever wants anything…
My partner always wants this or that. They mention things they want all the time. So I write down what I hear. Gift holidays are covered easily because I try to pay attention.
I feel bad though. I know it’s hard when I don’t talk about things I want. And when asked, I don’t know what to say. It only ends up causing me anxiety.
This is so dumb. What does a person who doesn’t want things want for their birthday?
I think you lifted gift giving standards way up high and your partner wants to keep up 😊
- Anything that can be consumed, eaten or drunk is a good gift.
- Tickets to some event you can both attend and spend quality time together. Maybe a concert
Yup, 100%. Consumable treats that you’d not normally buy yourself and experiences like events or lessons.
I always go with experiences over stuff. I want to do something with the people I care about and collect memories instead of things. It gives people the freedom to be as frugal or lavish as they want and I don’t have to store or return anything.
Now this is what I’m talking about. 💯
pegging
Well played.
don’t knock it until you’ve tried it
🤣 💜
She might get mad if you tell her this, but maybe you want some time to yourself. It’s what I usually want on my birthday.
Same, I’d honestly just skip my birthday if that was an option
If your partner is a craftsy type, you could suggest that they craft something for you. It was always those gifts that meant the most to me when I was with someone craftsy. It doesn’t have to have utility, or be perfect, it just means the world that someone spent time and thought creating something for you.
Now this is a great idea and why i asked this question in the first place! Not sure why I wasn’t thinking of it.
They once made me an incredible crocheted dice bag. It’s a crocheted bottle and cork with a baby red dragon wrapped around it protecting it. It took time and effort, looks super cool, was cheap to make, and I love it! This is the kind of thing that would make them feel great in giving and I love it too!
Win-win!
Glad I could help!
With my partner, we usually gift time/knowledge. As in, one person wants to buy something but doesn’t have the time/expertise to read up it and find the perfect thing. So the other hops in and does the research for them.
This valentine’s my partner helped me decide on a new gaming keyboard, while I got him a custom web domain and email setup.
So maybe if there’s a thing you’ve been meaning to research/buy, let your partner do it as a gift?
Not a bad idea. I just have to want a thing first. I really need to wrack my brain. Ugh. I know there’s something I can pull out of there. Something that I wouldn’t be a huge control freak over, something that they can fully research and figure out without me minding the details. The poor spongy mash is crawling on fumes because of how busy work is and what life seems to have done to my poor gray matter.
Ask for world peace maybe it’ll work.
I asked god. Still waiting for a response. Will let you know.
You want a purple rubber dildo
You know, I should have played a game where I guessed the percentage of comments that would involve some element of sexuality. Haha.
Purple is my favorite color. 😁
To list of things anything you could want:
- Goods
- Services
- Relationship time, that is your partner doing things for you,
which can be subdivided into 10 more types of wishes.
LSD
Imagine the gift of wonders that my mind might give me for my birthday! It would be incredible!Either that… or I will suffer a psychotic break. 🤣
Use it as an excuse to strengthen your bond I guess. Just say something like “all I want is to do (XYZ thing you know you both like: dinner, movie, whatever.) with you, I don’t need anything more.” If that even is something you’d even want to do of course. Don’t force it if it isn’t what you want.
Just be honest with them, you could even possibly try to explain the anxiety you feel about it all and let them know you’re happy just being with them in whatever way.
Either that or pick a food you like lol for me I’d probably just say “get me a big ol’ bag of chocolate covered pretzels and I’ll be in heaven.” :P
There’s a lot of good truth within this post. More than you might realize. Something to ponder today.
A small island nation to crush beneath the heel of your boot.
Or, if you don’t have boots, you can ask for those.
I don’t have boots… 🤔
😁
I have the same problem when I need to come up with things on the spot. So instead I keep a list that I add ideas I get for things I want over time. That way if someone asks I can show them that and I don’t have to think on the spot about what I want.
This is literally what I do for other people. Not sure why I’ve never thought of this for myself. I mean, I have to want things now and again, right? I usually don’t get those things because I ultimately don’t really care and there are more important things I need to spend money on. Budget only seems to get more tight over time.
Anyway, it will be tough to remember to do this, but I just have to remember I’m doing it for them and not me. I will be more likely to actually notate things then. This can work moving forward. Thanks!
Yeah I definitely still have problems with remembering to do it, especially if I get an idea when I’m not at a place where it’s easy to note the idea down. But even having a few things on there can be enough and sometimes help with jogging my memory about other things I wanted when it comes closer to an event.
Well, this morning I was able to get a few things down and then a few more things after that. I told my partner that I have a list for me and they got super excited.
I honestly don’t care if I ever get around to getting most of these things, but for the sake of other people doing something like this is a big deal and I love seeing their excitement.
Plus, my youngest kid said they can’t wait to get me another stuffed animal. I’m seriously hoping they can be steered towards something else that I don’t have to put on my bed to make the poor kid happy. Lol.
if i wanted something other than a bag of cocks i would just buy it
