It’s that time of year again when my partner gets upset with me because I’m not the kind of person that ever wants anything…
My partner always wants this or that. They mention things they want all the time. So I write down what I hear. Gift holidays are covered easily because I try to pay attention.
I feel bad though. I know it’s hard when I don’t talk about things I want. And when asked, I don’t know what to say. It only ends up causing me anxiety.
This is so dumb. What does a person who doesn’t want things want for their birthday?
Maybe a really nice edition of a book you already love, from a luxury publisher like The Folio Society or Easton Press?
A fun idea. For me to get for someone else! Muahaha!
Same, I’d honestly just skip my birthday if that was an option
Food
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I mean, I’d love extra money that I didn’t have to look for. 😁
If your partner is a craftsy type, you could suggest that they craft something for you. It was always those gifts that meant the most to me when I was with someone craftsy. It doesn’t have to have utility, or be perfect, it just means the world that someone spent time and thought creating something for you.
Now this is a great idea and why i asked this question in the first place! Not sure why I wasn’t thinking of it.
They once made me an incredible crocheted dice bag. It’s a crocheted bottle and cork with a baby red dragon wrapped around it protecting it. It took time and effort, looks super cool, was cheap to make, and I love it! This is the kind of thing that would make them feel great in giving and I love it too!
Win-win!
Glad I could help!
You want a 6npack of BIC medium black pens
Near perfection. 😁
With my partner, we usually gift time/knowledge. As in, one person wants to buy something but doesn’t have the time/expertise to read up it and find the perfect thing. So the other hops in and does the research for them.
This valentine’s my partner helped me decide on a new gaming keyboard, while I got him a custom web domain and email setup.
So maybe if there’s a thing you’ve been meaning to research/buy, let your partner do it as a gift?
Not a bad idea. I just have to want a thing first. I really need to wrack my brain. Ugh. I know there’s something I can pull out of there. Something that I wouldn’t be a huge control freak over, something that they can fully research and figure out without me minding the details. The poor spongy mash is crawling on fumes because of how busy work is and what life seems to have done to my poor gray matter.
Ask for world peace maybe it’ll work.
I asked god. Still waiting for a response. Will let you know.
I think you lifted gift giving standards way up high and your partner wants to keep up 😊
- Anything that can be consumed, eaten or drunk is a good gift.
- Tickets to some event you can both attend and spend quality time together. Maybe a concert
Yup, 100%. Consumable treats that you’d not normally buy yourself and experiences like events or lessons.
A pair of Calico Cut Pants
I don’t know what those are, but I did damage some pants recently which I was going to fix. But fixing things annoys the hell out of my spouse because I can usually endlessly keep things going on forever when… we could just go shopping… which would make them excited. I could use a couple t-shirts as well.
I hate shopping… and it drives me nuts that i would need to do it on my birthday… But my birthday is an opportunity to bring joy to my family. People love giving gifts!
I know this sounds all weird and backwards. I just don’t really want things, but there are things that I could use which seem mundane to me but can be fun for others to pick.
Thank you!
Still no idea what makes pants calico. Lol.
Oh u gotta watch more InThink You Should Leave.
Maybe have them donate to some charities of your choice.
Happy birthday!
Oh no no no. Lol. I think I’m all full up on Tim Robinson for a while. 🤣
Charity is a great idea, actually! Thank you.
And thanks for the birthday wishes. I didn’t think about the fact that this question actually revolves around my birthday actually happening. Was kind of hoping to just ignore that. I’m at the age where I’d like to just pretend this getting old thing isn’t truly happening. 🙃
For my birthday, I want immortality!
Maybe an ayahuasca trip would be interesting
You want a purple rubber dildo
You know, I should have played a game where I guessed the percentage of comments that would involve some element of sexuality. Haha.
Purple is my favorite color. 😁
To list of things anything you could want:
- Goods
- Services
- Relationship time, that is your partner doing things for you,
which can be subdivided into 10 more types of wishes.
LSD
Imagine the gift of wonders that my mind might give me for my birthday! It would be incredible!Either that… or I will suffer a psychotic break. 🤣
Use it as an excuse to strengthen your bond I guess. Just say something like “all I want is to do (XYZ thing you know you both like: dinner, movie, whatever.) with you, I don’t need anything more.” If that even is something you’d even want to do of course. Don’t force it if it isn’t what you want.
Just be honest with them, you could even possibly try to explain the anxiety you feel about it all and let them know you’re happy just being with them in whatever way.
Either that or pick a food you like lol for me I’d probably just say “get me a big ol’ bag of chocolate covered pretzels and I’ll be in heaven.” :P
There’s a lot of good truth within this post. More than you might realize. Something to ponder today.
A small island nation to crush beneath the heel of your boot.
Or, if you don’t have boots, you can ask for those.
I don’t have boots… 🤔
😁
