It’s that time of year again when my partner gets upset with me because I’m not the kind of person that ever wants anything…
My partner always wants this or that. They mention things they want all the time. So I write down what I hear. Gift holidays are covered easily because I try to pay attention.
I feel bad though. I know it’s hard when I don’t talk about things I want. And when asked, I don’t know what to say. It only ends up causing me anxiety.
This is so dumb. What does a person who doesn’t want things want for their birthday?
An experience, like going axe-throwing.
A favorite food.
A music playlist made especially with you in mind.
Tell them the they are the only gift you need and how lucky you are to have them in your life. Anything material just pails in comparison.
Ha! To which they will then melt in my arms and kiss me and tell me just how wonderful I am… only to then punch me in the arm and say… “now tell me what I can get you, dammit, or I will hurt you more!” 😁
A cat.
Good god no. Half my family’s allergic. I’m just allergic to their nature. 🤣
In that case, a cure for allergies.
And a cat.
I’ll put it on my wish list. 🪄😺
I always go with experiences over stuff. I want to do something with the people I care about and collect memories instead of things. It gives people the freedom to be as frugal or lavish as they want and I don’t have to store or return anything.
Now this is what I’m talking about. 💯
if i wanted something other than a bag of cocks i would just buy it
She might get mad if you tell her this, but maybe you want some time to yourself. It’s what I usually want on my birthday.
I think you lifted gift giving standards way up high and your partner wants to keep up 😊
- Anything that can be consumed, eaten or drunk is a good gift.
- Tickets to some event you can both attend and spend quality time together. Maybe a concert
Yup, 100%. Consumable treats that you’d not normally buy yourself and experiences like events or lessons.
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don’t knock it until you’ve tried it
🤣 💜
Well played.
I have the same problem when I need to come up with things on the spot. So instead I keep a list that I add ideas I get for things I want over time. That way if someone asks I can show them that and I don’t have to think on the spot about what I want.
This is literally what I do for other people. Not sure why I’ve never thought of this for myself. I mean, I have to want things now and again, right? I usually don’t get those things because I ultimately don’t really care and there are more important things I need to spend money on. Budget only seems to get more tight over time.
Anyway, it will be tough to remember to do this, but I just have to remember I’m doing it for them and not me. I will be more likely to actually notate things then. This can work moving forward. Thanks!
Yeah I definitely still have problems with remembering to do it, especially if I get an idea when I’m not at a place where it’s easy to note the idea down. But even having a few things on there can be enough and sometimes help with jogging my memory about other things I wanted when it comes closer to an event.
Well, this morning I was able to get a few things down and then a few more things after that. I told my partner that I have a list for me and they got super excited.
I honestly don’t care if I ever get around to getting most of these things, but for the sake of other people doing something like this is a big deal and I love seeing their excitement.
Plus, my youngest kid said they can’t wait to get me another stuffed animal. I’m seriously hoping they can be steered towards something else that I don’t have to put on my bed to make the poor kid happy. Lol.
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Imagine the gift of wonders that my mind might give me for my birthday! It would be incredible!Either that… or I will suffer a psychotic break. 🤣
You want a purple rubber dildo
You know, I should have played a game where I guessed the percentage of comments that would involve some element of sexuality. Haha.
Purple is my favorite color. 😁
If your partner is a craftsy type, you could suggest that they craft something for you. It was always those gifts that meant the most to me when I was with someone craftsy. It doesn’t have to have utility, or be perfect, it just means the world that someone spent time and thought creating something for you.
Now this is a great idea and why i asked this question in the first place! Not sure why I wasn’t thinking of it.
They once made me an incredible crocheted dice bag. It’s a crocheted bottle and cork with a baby red dragon wrapped around it protecting it. It took time and effort, looks super cool, was cheap to make, and I love it! This is the kind of thing that would make them feel great in giving and I love it too!
Win-win!
Glad I could help!
I also don’t like receiving gifts from my spouse. So I just tell her to buy my bar tab for the night.
Ha! I so very rarely go for drinks, mainly because I don’t wanna pay for it. Lol. If only I married someone who was independently wealthy. Oh well, no take backsies. 😁
Lol my wife isn’t rich either. She works as an insulator, so me makes decent enough money that she can buy me 60 bucks worth of beer once a year tho.
If I didn’t have to actually absorb all the calories from that amount of beer, this would be an amazing gift. 🤣
Seriously, I watch sitcoms where people are drinking beer after beer at home or going to bars all the time. My body simply can’t keep up with that amount of input. 🙃
Well I jog a lot and work construction so it evens out haha
Oh yes. Jogging. I remember that.
I may have to start jogging again just for the beer. 😁
Use it as an excuse to strengthen your bond I guess. Just say something like “all I want is to do (XYZ thing you know you both like: dinner, movie, whatever.) with you, I don’t need anything more.” If that even is something you’d even want to do of course. Don’t force it if it isn’t what you want.
Just be honest with them, you could even possibly try to explain the anxiety you feel about it all and let them know you’re happy just being with them in whatever way.
Either that or pick a food you like lol for me I’d probably just say “get me a big ol’ bag of chocolate covered pretzels and I’ll be in heaven.” :P
There’s a lot of good truth within this post. More than you might realize. Something to ponder today.
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