People used to “socialize” in person. We had nightclubs, bars, parties, dances. Young people gathered and met—in person. That doesn’t seem to happen anymore. Why?? The allure of nightclubs was live bands… too expensive now. Bars?… too expensive now outside of special occasions. Dances? Not sure what happened there… too expensive to rent a hall and hire music? And parties? Not sure about that either.
Well, we need referrals from friends to know men are safe. Even then i take it with a grain of salt
For what reason would men randomly approach women? Women online have made it clear that doing so results in being made fun of, that women hate the features of testosterone-having men, and they’ve made it clear there is a long list of “icks” that you can’t have.
The only dating i do is within the circles of friends.
Currently working on an absolute package, btw. Funny, fun, beautiful, sheeeeeesh.
The heart flutters at the thought.Too busy playing WoW. Ain’t nobody got time for that…
Maybe because they are getting advice from other men how to trick a girl into giving them sex, this why alot look to pickup artist, it involves manipulation and tricks. They got so used to it, they don’t even ask people
This thread is an example of why men aren’t dating.
“I’ve had painful lived experiences and faced unbalanced and unfair expectations, so I’ve decided dating isn’t worth my time right now”
“You’re an incel”
It doesn’t really matter what you say, it’s the fact that you said it as a man that will garner disrespect from some regardless.
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Disclaimer: I’m not 18-25.
I have a ton of women friends (more than men ATM) and have solid evidence that I am a significantly attractive man. I’m also bi so my options are a tad more broad than average.
Even with this I can say that dating is unpleasant and I have never asked for one and barely do them (women are rarely bold enough to be the initiator). It feels like a socially awkward job interview where I have to spend money I don’t have and I fucking hate job interviews.
Admittedly, I also am autistic, socially anxious, and sexually repressed (American sex culture sucks).
These types of posts always get so spicy, and not in a fun way.
So… Over the phone doesn’t count? Texting doesn’t count? Email? Those don’t count? I would think that in this day and age texting would be the normal way to ask a girl out for a first date.
You know it’s REALLY hard for someone not super social to ask a girl out in person. I’m 50 and i think I’ve never asked a girl out for a first date in person… But then again, I am an introverted nerd so that’s probably to be expected. Hell, I asked the girl I ended up marrying out over email…
Let me offer a scenario; two drunk people who wouldn’t normally go near each other spend a night together. The morning comes, regret is in the air for both parties, which of these two people is most at risk?
The correct answer is: “the one who doesn’t accuse the other on social media”.
Just remember, no-one gave any indication of gender there. It’s not really about gender at this point - it’s the fact we’ve constructed a world where a casual encounter has the potential to become the prisoner’s dilemma if it is regretted afterwards.
That’s not a world where people take risks on a date, especially if physical intimacy is on the cards. To much risk!
Do people ask each other out or do they just hang out?
This thread is just incels outing themselves
reading this thread I’m glad I’m a removed in a relationship. my spouse is the best. i got so fucking lucky.
there’s a massive epidemic of loneliness out there. the loss of the free/cheap third spaces, lockdowns, and social media have made a fucking shitstorm. I’m scared for the generations below me just starting to enter the workforce. so many kids just unable to function properly.
i can’t solve it. but I’ve been putting my devices down more and (trying) to get out more. get more sunlight and fresh air, even if i just sit outside and watch the ducks. it’s hard out there. give yourself a break, okay? eat a snack and take a walk.
I usually get people asking for my number or socials when they’re interested, asking out tends to happen over electronic communication after that.
My process is basically
- Casual conversation- if you don’t hit it off naturally here, let it go.
- Reciprocal flirting
- Exchange contact info
- Develop friendship
- Ask out directly
- ???
- Go back to 1
I also get told I’m very attractive in various verbage near daily so 🤷♀️
Idk, just be respectful and don’t be pushy if they’re trying to let you down (and pay attention for if they’re trying to do it gently)
