Edit: because a few comments make me worry that some are taking this seriously - this meme is a play on the type of hopeless dating posts you might find in less healthy corners of the internet. The joke is a suggestion that the real problem is that one man in the image has some sort of arrow-attracting superpower.
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This graph is so wrong in so many ways…
- People can feel attracted by more than one person at a time
- Women can feel attracted by other women
- Non binary people exist and, as a matter of fact, can also feel attracted by other people (wow!) This gets ironic, as today is #transDayOfVisibility
- The reverse graph with hetero-normie men focusing on cisgender women with normative beauty, is a worse problem than yours, sorry. Men can be valued by skills, body, intellect, etc. but the norm teaches us that women can only be valued if they are “pretty” and “sexy” enough
Dating is hard because we live miserable lifes, are very individualized by capitalism, deposit lots of expectations and pities of ourselves into others, and don’t treasure (intimate) friendship enough, intergender and intergenerational friendship included.
The “average guy” has poor emotional skills, is depressed, has no real friends and thinks that a girlfriend will be his salvation. The “average guy” needs therapy, friends, needs to learn to listen, to empathise and to show his own vulnerability instead of hiding and pretending to be a rock. That is, learn to take care of himself and to take care of others, and value this as an unavoidable adult skill. The “guy who attracts arrows” probably needs the same, but has a higher sexual capital because of birth lottery.
Focus on making some sense of your own life first and interesting people will start popping out, you will make some friends, and at some point you will mate someone.
Marriage and the nuclear family is a product of the Catholic church teaming up with capitalism. Western history and non-western world is full of extended families and communities. Consider not making it your life goal, it can be disappointing to achieve it.
Sir, this is a Wendy’s
what is a Wendy’s? edit: i see that it’s a USA fast food chain with decreasing international success. Did you mean that it’s a local, low quality, fast joke?
This phrase is a meme used when someone goes into serious philosophy in an unserious situation.
It references a scene with someone telling a long expertly phrased opinion to a fast food employee while in the line to order. Not sure which show it comes from, someone mentioned Rick and Morty in another comment.
thank you! :)
Watch Rick and Morty for the reference.
It’s from The Office, not Rick & Morty
This was a joke
jokes work on shared assumptions. This joke is political imho, and trying to avoid it saying that “this was a joke” when it doesn’t criticize these hetersexist assumptions, for me, it strengthens them.
This graphic is making fun of the man-o-sphere bullshit idea that all women are only attracted to “alpha males,” my dude. You’ve totally missed the mark
Well, I’m happy that this isn’t incel shit. And I am happy not to be so exposed to it regularly. To me, it looks way too inside their mental codes, still can’t find it funny, but anyway. Thanks for the patience
No, it’s not. It’s based on these two things
- Swiping Right on Data: Analyzing the Trends of Tinder
- Tinder Experiments II: Guys, unless you are really hot you are probably better off not wasting your time on Tinder — a quantitative socio-economic study
The latter especially has this widely-misquoted line:
It was determined that the bottom 80% of men (in terms of attractiveness) are competing for the bottom 22% of women and the top 78% of women are competing for the top 20% of men.
Many people understood it as “80% of women go for 20% of guys”, but that’s not what it’s saying.
If you also look at the first article, it has many graphs which speak for themselves
One might argue the data derived from Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge users who also upload their data to Swipestats.io is unlikely to be representative of the general population
One could argue it’s a meme.
Yeah, that was me, a few comments above lmao
I agree with you. Some people will see this as confirmation that women all are attracted to the same guy implying the same doesn’t happen with men too. It’s worth pointing out the opposite is true. Guys of all ages fawn after the 19-24 year old, conventionally attractive women, too.
Which is true. But! Men <30 years old usually are more tolerant in what they accept. They’ll take almost any woman 18-30 years, low or high income, fat or skinny, beautiful or ugly, etc.
Women below 30 years age on the other hand often are fixated on 6-6-6 rule (6+ foot height, 6 digits income, 6 pack) which are like the top 1% of the male population. Once they are older and want to ‘settle down’ they won’t get any of these top guys because these guys can cherrypick their women. And then the women are disappointed by the ‘left-overs’. I’m not an incel but I can understand why it (sometimes? often?) happens this way.
How to solve this? No idea.
How did couple come together 100 years ago? What did they do different back then?It could be true, but maybe not. If we are talking about dating, sure. Men are more likely to swipe right on women than the other way around. But how about marriage or longer term relationships? If you were 18, would you be willing to marry a poor, fat, ugly 29-year-old “independent” women who smokes with kids?
Some guys would do that because they know they won’t have a chance to get a ‘better’ woman.
The problem is women and men are different and they treat each other differently.
No man would would push down a young beautiful woman from the edge of a bed. Women notice that and are flattered that they are wanted so much. Honestly women only need not to be obese and the guys will line up. But that’s only true for young woman. After 30-35-year-old most women beauty diminish rapidly.
Men on the other hand age visibly slowly. A lot of women still judge them handsome when the guys are already 40 or 50 years old. (There are of course ugly 40 and 50 years old.) But young men are more often only playthings and only the 6-6-6 ones have a good shot a being choosy.You have a lot of rules in your head that don’t exist. Where did you learn these things? As a 40-something man who has lived a lot of life, nothing you’re saying here lines up with my observations of reality
Buddy, the edit doesn’t help. Repeating propaganda or misinformation and saying but this instance is satirical doesn’t help. You’re still just spreading their talking points for them.
So, women only want men who have magic arrow attracting powers?
Like Cupid’s arrow and shooting your shot?
sure, why not.
Which puts this right in the MRA/Incel propaganda category.
Huh? The meme is suggesting that it isn’t a hierachy or tiered list but physical proximity attracting th arrows from the other stick figures. Did anyone read the picture??
If that was true wouldn’t all the arrows just go straight across?
No because the joke is that one guy has the abnormally powerful gravity well and the guy at the bottom is out of range.
this smells like incel
Any time men complain about anything related to dating:
It’s because it has that “80/20” energy some like to push. Not so much a complaint on dating overall, only the “women only one six feet, six figures, six inches” narrative.
my dude if this were to be true we would experience total population collapse
Because men can only get one woman pregnant, as the Bible told me.
if you have the energy to look after 10+ kids be my guest
That’s the neat part, I won’t be around in six months
I mean, good meme but no, wouldn’t it need to be the inverse to cause this?
good point but I imagined this one guy does not impregnate all of these women but it is of course possible to go full Elon Musk if he thinks he is destined to save humanity
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He was just asking for it, look at the way his knees were dressed
Don’t blame Boromir for your dry dick, for shame
Damn, people just straight-up don’t care about the content of an image if they see an opportunity to go on a tangent.
I wonder how ridiculous you have to make the text- paired with a pictograph of a problematic take like the original for this one- before people realize it’s not actually repeating the original sentiment or even saying anything at all
This isn’t true at all. Everywhere you see average guys out there with girls. Yes, attractive people gain attention. But also, average people date.
It’s the reality of dating apps, not real world behavior.
I mean, dating apps are also just “real world behavior”, we don’t suddenly leave the real world by picking up a phone.
The effect is just much much more pronounced on dating apps because of logistics, you can’t get hit on by 100 of the hottest guys in your area in 5 minutes in real life, maybe you get hit on by 20 guys the whole evening. And those 20 guys are a local dating pool, which may not necessarily include the 20 hottest guys out of the whole area, so the hottest one of the 20 may still be average.
I’m trying to figure out how you could think that and my best guess is you’re just not familiar with modern dating apps.
There’s nothing real world about it. Women are overloaded with choice, men like everyone because they’re desperate and the apps prey on this, forcing pay to win strategies on men. It’s a brutal experience and makes you think women are just doing this for validation if you’re a guy, and if you’re a woman you just think men are dogs who would chase anything.
I’m a guy. I’m using dating apps often (poly) and have found multiple people that I’m currently dating. One person I met there just moved in with me a few weeks ago.
These people I found are the most wonderful I ever met. They’re kind, self-aware, empathetic and aware of the potential pitfalls of these apps.
I like only women I actually like. I have not paid for it. The women I met aren’t doing it for validation.
Yet everything you said is also completely true. But that’s simply because dating apps reflect the real world, you get, in a very small percentage, good people actually worth talking to, and a large majority of people only wanting validation or will say anything for quick sex. Just like you get in real life. Most people in real life are also not worth talking to.
I fully concede that the negative aspects of people are enhanced or at least more visible in dating apps. However, that’s just it, it’s more pronounced, not actually fundamentally different.
It’s the reality of dating apps, not real world behavior.
The fact that dating apps allow you to filter by height and not weight literally says it all
If you’re an average guy tempted to believe this, allow me, as an average guy who gets plenty of women, to tell you how it works. You are the one with the arrows, but if you don’t shoot your shot, out of fear of rejection, you’re never going to get what you want. So get out there and start shooting your shot.
Straight up, the best living proof of this I’ve ever seen was a fifty-odd year old co-worker whose face looked like if you stuck Don Knotts’ face in a microwave/centrifuge combination for about 45 seconds. Dude had teeth poking out forward at near right angles. He pulled so much fucking tail, it was a constant problem at work. Incels refuse to believe me when I tell them about it, but, just, shit, idk what you want me to say, this quasi modo ass dude had game, so what’s your excuse?
Fucking same, man. Guy I used to work with was 57, alcoholic, had like 3 teeth left, bad attitude, the works. Looked like a man-rat hybrid had been drinking moonshine and gasoline for two centuries. Brought a new woman home from the bars at least once a week. Some of them half his age. I know he wasn’t rich either because I’d been to his house before and I occasionally had to lend him some cash, so it’s not like he was flexing with money.
I got to actually hear him put the moves on somebody once and I don’t remember his opener but I shit you not his winning line was “Yeah I tell ya, I’m hung like a pimple but I’ve had some good practice with it, wanna come see?” and a little wink and I swear on my ancestors it fucking worked, it’s insane, I thought I was having a stroke.
Yeah, same with my dude, he wasn’t rich either, but I heard him lay it on thick one time and it was like I was suddenly filming for Nat geo, and I don’t mean that in a gross way. It was more like watching a ritual that was completely foreign to me, like I was bearing witness to lost knowledge. He was a supervisor, and I tell you, I never saw him write anyone up ever, but everyone would bend over backwards for him because he was just a super likable dude.
An average guy who shoots his shot is practically already above average. Most don’t shoot their shot, or very very timidly with maximum safety
Yep, it’s an easy win for the average guy. But most won’t do it because they’re afraid of rejection.
Or is it because we’ve been told that women are sick of being hit on all the time?
And thus, we are afraid of rejection.
You’re right that women are sick of being hit on all the time. But I’ll let you in on a secret: it’s not the expression of interest that annoys women, it’s when dudes ignore the cues that they’re not interested and continue anyway, or can’t take no for an answer. Basically, women are sick of guys who don’t pay attention to their boundaries and can’t take rejection. But I guarantee you, women are just as horny as men, and love getting attention from a man who is aware of their boundaries and who won’t push when they express a boundary.
This doesn’t make any sense. So we should ignore the cues that they’re not interested and take our shot anyway, even though men ignoring signs of disinterest is annoying, and they love getting attention from men who pay heed to their boundaries when the boundary is not wanting our attention? Or should we take no for an answer and handle rejection gracefully by not hitting on them when they’re not interested, because that’s the proper way to hit on women?
Let me simplify it for you: pay attention to social cues. It’s not hard.
So which is it? Pay attention to social cues, or ignore them and take a shot anyway?
That last one is a complete lie. It absolutly is hard. Especially with the complete lack of proper communication skills most women display. Seriously, a lot of women consider “looking at you” maximum flirting effort. Except of course when they aren’t and are just randomly looking in your direction.
It’s the expression of interest by unattractive people that is annoying. Continuing past cues of disinterest is one of the most unattractive things you can do.
But often the person is perfectly attractive, it’s just that the person they are hitting on is not interested and they don’t take the hint. For example, as a straight man, I often get hit on by gay men. They’re perfectly attractive men, it’s just that I don’t like men, and it has nothing to do with them being unattractive. I don’t mind when a gay man expresses interest as long as he respects me saying that I’m not interested. It’s when he continues to push, and ignores my closed body language and short answers, or outright dismisses my “no thanks”, that’s when it becomes uncomfortable, and that’s what women are sick of too.
… did you read my comment? “Continuing past cues of disinterest is one of the most unattractive things you can do.”
Behavior is part of attractiveness, it’s not only physical.
Delete all the text and this diagram looks like:
One male medieval era soldier fighting for an oppressive patriarchy, in a battle where his fellow soldiers surrendered after realizing they are the baddies, surrounded by an army of women-only skilled archers fighting for egalitarianism.
they just killed a random innocent dude though :(
Pro tip: Become Leonidas
and what, fight in the shade?
I would definitely not want to fight in the sun, so it makes sense to me.
Ah I was gonna say Boromir. :p
So what you’re saying is to go to an archery field to find a woman! I’ve been doing it wrong the whole time!
You might not get hit on but you will get hit
They definitely got the point
Fair warning, the naked fat guy with the bow and arrow is not Cupid. He is just an exhibitionist. An arrow to the heart will NOT make you fall in love.
To be fair, I’ve never talked to anyone whose been properly shot in the heart and didn’t go on to quickly find love. Makes you think…
After chatting her up very well, she’ll miss you. But her aim will get better.
The reverse reason is also that the pink blobs will receive arrows from all of the blue blobs. Blue blobs just reduce their market value that way.
