My recent ones aren’t very serious but they’ve been living rent free.
Coworker called me a tech racoon because I don’t throw computer shit away.
Other was another coworker mentioning that people that like purple really like it. Making me go “fuck” everytime I find a new purple thing in my home. Think I’m up to 30+ 🙃
What about you?
Those are both positives - you’re resourceful, creative, and recycle. When you like something, you go all in.
Friend/coworker recently told me that i don’t have a ‘game face.’ Now I’m self conscious that everyone knows what I’m really thinking.
Friend/coworker recently told me that i don’t have a ‘game face.’ Now I’m self conscious that everyone knows what I’m really thinking.
You’re confusing it with “poker face.” “Game face” is when you try to look determined in order to intimidate the other team.
Hope that helps!
My mother called me useless when I was 8. Dropped a bottle of soda that made the cap break, spilling all the soda on the floor. I’ve had therapy for all the trauma she caused.
8 year olds aren’t tank engines. Their worth is not in usefulness.
Nothing really stuck with me i would say as i’m more careful what “advice” or “feedback” i actually take to heart; but there have been many incidents where people have blamed me for shit.
i don’t really want to recount them here because they are personal.
About 5-7 years ago (hard to pin down the exact date) I’ve been called out by one of my close friends for being a toxic asshole in online games. And I really was, at the time. That was a much needed wake-up call. I like to think I’m better at games today than I was then in no small part because I’ve learned to keep my mental state under control and turn around even unfavorable matches.
I don’t say it to the people themselves but there has been a fair amount of, “What the fuck is that bullshit?” said while I play pvp stuff in Destiny 2, which I tend to shy from most of the time.
Glad you’re doing better.
Angers a helluva thing. Any time I’m about to react think of that Aurelius quote “how often are the results of anger worse than the cause”
Had an ex tell me “your episodes make me feel like I’m being raped again.”
That shit was world shattering.
I had a “friend breakup” in high school with a long time friend because we were getting into some heavy shit and I knew I couldn’t keep going down that path. During the final argument he said with pain in his eyes “and you never even remembered or got me anything for my birthdays and I always made sure to do something for you!” I’m sorry Bobby, I had undiagnosed ADHD and I still have a hard time remembering anyone’s birthdays. I’ve come to expect nothing because I assume I’ve never given anything.
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I used to volunteer at a nursing home when I was a teenager, and one of the residents was this spicy old demented lady named Florence. Florence had a real mouth on her, and I would try to charm her, and get nowhere. Once she looked at me and said “you look like you got a mouthful of hot shit”. I got over my intimidation and began to speak more freely, and once when she was trying to hit people with a flyswatter she found, I was trying to talk her into giving it to me, and I said “Florence, don’t you love me anymore?”. And she said “Well I love you, but from a distance”, and whacked me a good one.
I was really hurt about something a friend had done, and was talking to a mutual friend about it. She stopped me and said, “I feel like you are being manipulative right now and I don’t like it.”
She was right. I stopped and apologized, she reassured me that she wasn’t mad and understood I was hurting. Since then I’m a lot more aware of when I’m falling into that pattern. So grateful she told me instead of just deciding I was a piece of shit and doing a friendship fade-out.
I got onto a video chat with a friend-of-a-friend who was not from the US.
The instant I took the phone and we saw each other for the first time, he scoffed and said “Big fake American smile.”
It was 100% true. I had a big dopey bullshit “meeting people” smile on. That’s not common in other countries.
Derek Muller. Makes fantastic educational videos on his Veritaseum youtube channel. Rationalist, scientist, educator, doer of public works.
Creepiest most unsettling artificial american smile you’ll ever see.
You’re not wrong about his smile but can’t agree he’s the “most” unsettling when Mr Beast exists.
Once in a while, someone tells me I’m being an asshole.
They’re usually right.
I’ll then try to stay quiet until I can think of something decidedly i Un-asshole to say.
“Your breath isn’t bad”
I’m awkward.
OH YEAH WELL YOURE BEAUTIFUL
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My parents were (and still are) toxic people. So when I got married, I was bitching about my spouse because that’s what I knew how to do. This went on for a while until my friend stopped me and said, “Hey, do you even like this person?”
It felt like being splashed with ice water, but he was so right. I stopped dissing my friends and my partner behind their backs and tried to stop that toxic ‘ball and chain’ sort of humor as soon as I possibly could.
Thanks, Marcos. You started a very long and necessary process of self discovery and healing. I’m so glad you said something that day.
I had a similar but in reverse. I was at the bar with some coworkers, 4 of them or so, and they were all bitching about their wives. They turned to me and I didn’t have anything. I literally made something up, I was so on the spot. They laughed and the conversation moved on. It hit me though because it was like this cannot be healthy, is this what you actually think?
10 years later, 3 of them are divorced.
10 years ago, a Black woman told me that, while it’s perfectly valid to disagree with other people’s opinions, I should rethink the level of confidence that I depict when discussing a topic that I don’t know all that much about.
She probably saved quite a few others and myself from a fair bit of trouble.
What a hero, such a classy way to say “Shut your mouth about shit you don’t know shit about.”
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Criticized Pearl Jam when a guy who was super into them was giving me a ride home.
Recently my stepsister replied to my half joking complaint about not getting within a second of the lap record at the kart track, that maybe this complaint explains some of the issues I’m having.
Upon rolling the thought around in my head a ton since then yeah that tracks, the question now becomes how to not aim high, and or not be disappointed by missing high aims. And why this is my Modus operandi to begin with, to aim high, not try all that hard and expect to succeed.
