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Neither - the words you mentioned are usually employed by people wanting to take advantage of you.
Distancing from it is a self-preservation thing, and sometimes a moral thing. People don’t like being played, or doing bad things because someone told them it’s for family/clan/country/etc.

They’re neither mutually exclusive alternatives nor universal.

I’m pretty sure “conmunity” does indeed not mean anything and never has.

Yes, they do. That’s why so many people are struggling mentally in the “most developed countries”. The capitalistic society, centering around “me”, we build up in the west is contradictory to the human herd mentality.

Idk, I think people are showing their needs of belonging more than in a long time, be it nationalistic or political or ideological or religious or social media cliques or influencer following or family or heritage or skin colour or sports teams. Because these are dynamic times, so the tribal Us vs Them is way ahead in the front before other primal urges and basic needs.

Here in secular Sweden with the probably most inclusive state church in the world, they have found that young people are showing interest in religion more than in generations, except they don’t want the all-inclusive “woke” church but prefer more traditional and fundamentalist flavours.

A lot of the importance of family and clan in previous generations was due, in part, to the economic need of banding together. It turns out the need for family diminishes when there are other economic alternatives.

Family still means something because the definition is limited.

Community is dead and the reason for that is community is exclusive, by necessity it has to have people in the community and people outside the community.

People can’t stand not being involved so they force they way in shit all over the floor ruin it and then suddenly the community is dead.

Various factions would like us to feel isolated and helpless so we can be manipulated more easily. All of the things you mentioned still exist and have meaning, but there are alternative meanings being pushed at us. And we not everyone has a community or family in the traditional senses anymore.

If you want to be a member of a community, you can. There are many available in most places, and there are more on the internet that are not limited by location. Find a group of people with common values, common interests, or anything else that ties you together and participate in it. Humans evolved to be social animals.

Human interconnections are a threat to the power that be. Individuals are easy to deal with via manipulation, intimidation, or incarceration. All of that becomes harder with groups, and the larger the group, the harder it is. That is also why we see so many efforts to subdivide us by race, culture, nationality, generation, education, income, religion, gender, gender preference, sexual preference. The less unified we feel, and the more we view the people around us as “other” instead of part of our community, the less able to we are to band together to form an effective threat to the ruling class.

Family has some meaning, but generally everyone has always looked out for number one. Society exists in spite of human nature, not because of it.

You have a moral, ethical, and economic incentive to build a strong, close, tolerant, and inclusive community but not everyone is rational enough to realise they have more to gain long run by sharing and caring than grabbing everything that isn’t secured and running.

Considering just how far we’ve fallen, calling someone a boy scout is a pejorative followed closely by “were you raped?” with the assumption that every boy scout gets raped

Scouts are old school, we can see how little society wants people like scouts by the ideals scouts are taught

Scout Law:

• Trustworthy
• Loyal
• Helpful
• Friendly
• Courteous
• Kind
• Obedient
• Cheerful
• Thrifty
• Brave
• Clean
• Reverent

Scout Oath:

On my honor I will do my best to do my duty to God and my country and to obey the Scout Law; to help other people at all times; to keep myself physically strong, mentally awake, and morally straight.

Scout motto:

Be Prepared

Scout slogan:

Do a good turn daily

Society does not reward people who adhere to these ideals anymore. In fact, they are actively ostracized

Community is absolutely still a real thing. In my experience, however, you have to be willing to step outside of the mainstream and you have to be willing to touch grass every now and then. Socializing IRL is completely different than socializing online, which is different than socializing in VR, or in voice chat, or so on.

That said, there absolutely is a case to be made for idea that “community” being slowly ground into dust, possibly intentionally so. The death of open gathering places, the rise of online-only interaction and so forth, erodes at the kind of socialization you need in order to build a community. My tinfoil hat theory is that it’s easier to sow division in the unruly masses and keep them at each other’s throats when everyone is alone, so the rich and powerful have an incentive to kill the concept of community so that it’s harder to rise up against them.

At this point, I believe the places where you’re most likely to find a strong sense of community will be within marginalized groups; people who’ve traditionally been downtrodden tend to band together for protection, relationships and support.

Capitalism, positivism, and post-modernism have all eroded those things.

When we have less free time, and everything is commoditised and given a monetary value, interhuman connection - which resists the economic lens - falls by the wayside, as the modern “homo-economous” values only what has a price tag.

When gathering spaces, and natural groupings are either made to focus on money or wither, there is no space for community in a casual sense.

The death of meaning with the rise of post-modernism also means that grand narratives, and the myths of belonging have also lost a lot of their power to a rightful dose of skepticism. (Descriptive rather than prescriptive, but probably did speed things up a bit.)

Capitalism will eat us all.

I don’t see a thing wrong when someone is looking out for themselves. We all have to, at somepoint or another or we won’t know how to survive on ourselves when situations boil down to just us alone.

Now as far as bonding together and getting mutually along with eachother to co-exist without bumping eachother or touching people’s buttons? yeah that’s a tricky one and usually makes everyone fall apart. The societal and political climates of today seems destined to break those bonds.

Clan never really meant anything even in Scotland. All that tartan shit was invented by Sir Walter Scott as tourist fodder.