I just turned 40, and for the past 5 or so years I have been unhappy with the way I look.
All my life my metabolism has been insane, I could literally eat anything all day and not gain a gram, which has its downsides as well, but not the point.
My weight went up to 80kg and I formed a pot belly which I didnt like. One night I decided enough was enough, started a diet and exercise routine.
I did look at gyms but they are stupid expensive where I live, so I bought a resistance band thing from InnStar. Its like a Gymproluxe if you have been bombarded with Facebook ads. I use it every day for bench press, preacher curls, and some other things I dont know the name of.
I also started using a body weight exercise app that claimed results in a month.
The diet I thought would be hardest, but I immediately stopped all snacks and moved onto a weightloss protein shake which are amazing and I cant believe it took this long to taste them.
Its been a week, and I feel better, Im not sleeping as much, I look forward to exercise, I am much more physically active than before, but I dont feel like I look any different. I am not expecting instant results and I havent booked myself into a Mr World contest this weekend, but I am curious to hear real experiences of when people started to notice their own changes.
Visually at first it’s going to be mostly weight loss. How much depends on how much caloric deficit you are running - rule of the thumb if you eat 500 kcal less than what you burn per day you will lose about a pound/0.5kg per week. Diet is 80% of success. Your muscle gains will be low while you are losing weight, but your existing muscles will become more visible.
You see yourself every day so it’s going to be hard to spot differences - compare monthly photos.
Its been a week, and I feel better, Im not sleeping as much, I look forward to exercise, I am much more physically active than before, but I dont feel like I look any different.
One week and you already feel it. Keep that in mind. It is something.
Five weeks here, about the same.
I heard that it takes as long as for building it up as for tearing it down. I have also heard: the older the longer. So: not sure :)
Obligatory reminder that “Gyms aren’t the only way to exercise”, find a sport you enjoy with people you like and you’ll spend time having fun rather than feeling like exercise is a chore. Most clubs gladly take adult beginner (who are the volunteers who’ll run the club in 10 years)
As you said, weight loss is in the plate rather than in the gym. But exercising helps with overall physical and mental health
I’ve gone for months and months without seeing a change. Which then discouraged me enough to stop entirely. These days I just hope to die ASAP so the point is moot lol.
Something to keep in mind is that after 30 male testosterone starts to decline and decreased testosterone can result in carrying more weight around the mid-section and may make it harder to lose.
Thanks, i had read some bits about it, but not how dramatically it can affect. Might be worth a test to see what my levels are.
Just adding to „It will take a while“. It would be faster if you‘d been fit before because the body remembers. But you should feel strength improvements and you should feel better quite soon. And clothes might be less tight. But visible results take longer. And after a while you’ll hit a tableau and you’ll have to power through that without giving up. It will be best if you don’t focus on looks too much but rather on feeling good and fit. Kudos for starting this path!
Oh I was not fit before! Fitness was always tomorrows problem. I am definitely starting to feel changes in my shoulders, and my arms feel tighter.
Hell yeah, props for taking the first steps. I’m 23 right now and I started doing calisthenics about 3 years ago and I’m very happy with the results. When I first started I was skinny fat and spent most of my days behind a computer screen eating lots of snacks. Even with basic exercises like push-ups, squats, pull-ups, I started noticing a difference in strength after about two weeks. I felt much better, slept better and had no more back problems. During that time I also stopped snacking and started drinking protein shakes, which really showed after about a month. After 3 months I lost around 6 kg of fat.
What I love about calisthenics is that it builds functional strength and is very fun and dynamic. You also don’t need a gym because YOU ARE THE GYM.
If you’re interested, you can check out Yellow Dude on Youtube.
I am using a calisthenics app and I really like it to be fair, but augment with the resistance bands and some cardio.
- You may seem to get slimmer after a long session of sweating, which is just you losing water. That will come back a while after you drink water, so don’t consider that.
- Cardio is useful too and depending upon your current condition, might make a big difference in QoL or just a small one. You might want to talk in detail about it with someone knowledgable and decide your pacing.
- As far as duration goes, do it at least until you start getting the feeling that breathing is not giving you enough power anymore. Less than that point and you will not be getting better (this would be in terms of performance and not in terms of slimming); More than that and you risk falling (and I don’t like falling, so that’s the tip I use) due to dizziness.
As long as you are feeling better, I’d say, don’t really worry about visual results. As the main result that comes, is becoming more able to do what you want with your body.
My weightloss happened when I was a kid and I’d say, it was around a year after I noticed the change. But my memories related to it are more of, eating low quality food (which was also more expensive) and having multiple ailments, so not much of a +ive.
The routine you stick with is the one that works. It has only been a week. If you consistently keep your calorie count down and exercise routine on track, you will see gradual improvements after weeks and months of consistent effort.
Think about how many years it took you to gain to 80kg. It will take time to transform the other way as well.
It took me about three months to really notice visible improvements. The problem for me was maintaining consistency in diet and exercise once I noticed the changes.
I am currently in the honeymoon phase and enjoying it. Apart from cardio on the exercise bike, because the daily squats turn my legs to jelly.
Squatting daily is too often. Your body needs time to recover. The older we get, the more recovery time we need.
Basically 48 hrs between muscle groups. Mon - Wed - Friday is a reasonable pace if you do an “all in one” routine. If you want to do daily lifting workouts, you need to rotate arms/legs/core then repeat.
OP, it seems counter-intuitive to workout less to improve, but you have to realize that you gain muscle by straining and overworking current muscle. To build and repair, the muscles need rest, nutrients and time. If you don’t give it to them, they can’t build up.
Sleep, time and food are all as important as how much and how often you lift weights.
I’ve heard something like 1 months for you to notice, 2 until family will notice and 3 until other people will notice.
Not sure about these exact numbers but you get the gist.
I started at 35. From skinny fat to visibly “are you lifting” took me about 1 year. Looking “big” took 3-4years. I gained about 15kg of bw, probably about half fat and half muscle. The hardest part now is trying to diet down a bit again. Much harder than actually working out imo.
I did workout using a squat rack at home.
Still the best decision I ever made.
The good news is the first few pounds are the easiest to lose.
The bad news is that you will not see a meaningful difference in just a week, or even one month, not enough to be the only thing keeping you motivated, at least. Depending on what you are after, caloric weight-loss might not even be enough to reach a very specific look, though it will go a long way.
My advice to you: find a way to stay motivated that is not based on results. This needs to be a new mindset, a journey you are undergoing. You’ll need a sizable adjustment to your routine. Find a laborious project you are excited about to keep you off the couch and on your feet.
Most importantly, realize that weight loss is almost all about what you eat. It’s very hard to go on a caloric deficit just by exercising, because a) exercising will make you more hungry, b) will convert fat to muscle which is heavier (though leaner), and c) it’s a LOT more work and time. Instead, physical activity is more of a way of attaining a deficit without an extremely boring diet of lettuce and it also takes away opportunities to eat out of boredom.
You’ll feel more hungry than you are used to, especially in the first couple of weeks as your body learns a new metabolic normal. Drink lots of water to both stay hydrated, and to feel full.
Thanks, that makes me feel hopeful!
The diet and exercise is making me feel hungry, because I was eating out of boredom I am eating a lot less, but I am now drinking a lot more water, so I am getting up to pee in the night more.
I should have just stuck to the cakes.
It’s going to be an uphill battle to get in shape without proper gym equipment. Even among those who start going to the gym, most end up quitting because it’s a lot of effort and the results don’t come fast enough. Trying to work out at home makes it even harder. To gain muscle mass, you need to be lifting at the absolute limits of your strength - and that’s really difficult to achieve outside of a gym setting. It can be done, but I generally advise against it, because the odds are stacked against you.
Also, keep in mind that you can’t effectively lose weight and build muscle at the same time.
I gained a reasonable amount of muscle mass from just doing pushups 100+ every day, no weights at all.
Enough that my t shirts felt a lot tighter anyway, and friends noticed too.
I disagree on it being difficult to build muscles without a gym. Most exercises with your body weight will be more than enough for the first years of training.
For people who start at maybe being able to do 5 push-ups, hitting the point where push-ups wont train them for muscle growth will take a long while. Also what kind of muscles do you want? big packs that can do 10 reps at huge weight, but fail you while unloading a moving truck? Or muscles that are well trained for endurance and stamina? For being fit and healthy i recommend the second style.
The issue isn’t that you can’t get a proper workout without gym equipment - it’s that most people simply don’t stick with it. They start training at home, but it becomes more and more infrequent until they stop altogether. Getting a gym membership tends to create more accountability, and I think going to the gym is actually an easier habit to build than working out at home.
Even for me, with a gym membership, I’ve noticed that if I go home between work and the gym, I’m much more likely to skip the workout. But if I go straight to the gym - having already decided to do so and with my gym bag packed - then I might as well do the workout since I’m already there.
Thanks, I appreciate the input.
I understand that this whole process is going to be more difficult without a gym, but financially its not feasible just yet. Also because I am at the beginning of the process, I figured I would wait until I knew I could stick at it, rather than start a subscription I dont use.
So I have always been one to count calories and attempt to keep my weight in check, I always found it to be hard work and while I maintained a pretty healthy weight, I never really lost like I wanted to. I cut out sugar long ago, and I try and only eat whole grain products and be cognizant of my carb intake. It just wasn’t quite enough.
Then I got a physical and saw I had high cholesterol. High enough that it needed to be addressed. I had to go on a diet and the only restriction (aside from stuff I was already doing as I described above) was: keep your intake of saturated fat no more than 13 grams per day.
So I use an app to keep a diary of everything I eat and I make my own food mostly and I have all the things I eat regularly in the app and I have been doing this for years, so I am lucky in that regard. If you can’t/won’t do this or just aren’t bent that way, this will be much harder. But with my app and my eating habits, I have very little problems knowing exactly what I am ingesting - down to the gram. I had to re-do almost all of my regular recipes to create versions that were lower in saturated fat and it was a process.
But holy shit, I can’t keep weight on. I eat and eat and eat as much as I want (I make this sound easy, it’s not - every goddamn thing in the world is loaded with saturated fat, particularly animal products and you might as well just say goodbye to beef my friend). But between my regular (simple and not hardcore at all) exercise and this diet, my body changed dramatically within 3 months.
Also, my cholesterol is perfect now. Score.
Good work.
I dont eat a lot of meat anyway, but god damn I love beef. Maybe its time to start looking at vegetarian alternatives like Quorn, its great in a pasta sauce.
If your also looking at dietary interventions:
I agree with grandparent that whole food and minimally processed is the best.
However, my reading indicates that meat and specifically beef are good for you. Also saturated fat from unprocessed sources (beef again) is quite healthy.
Since your on this fitness journey it’s critically important you eat complete and bioavailable protein every day. You can check the diaas scores for various sources, but animal protein is the best for building and maintaining your body.
Like grandparent I’ve also changed my diet to whole food, no processing, and seen a massive improvement in body composition and blood metrics. The only difference is I started with keto, then moved into complete carnivore (lots of beef)
I wish you the best of luck, but be aware, many vegetarian/vegan “solutions” have more saturated fat (and other bad shit) than their animal counterparts. Vegan isn’t necessarily the answer. The answer is: whole foods, minimal processing, mostly vegetarian.
Somewhat similar to my situation. Active job, a bit of bike riding and stable between 105-110kg. Fall one and a half years ago as the cycling season wound down I took the plunge on a black friday/week and got me some basic gym gear and got a rebated membership. Chose the one with the most classes because I knew myself, that without exterior pressure (having signed up to a class) I would drop off. Half a year later I was down 20kg by having many evenings taken up by fitness classes. Which made me get home later. Have dinner later. And didn’t get time to get snacky before bedtime. That the snacking got cut out did the heavy weight loss and all the training have revitalised me.
Then the last year dropped another 5kg while getting stronger and more visibly fit. So the excess fat loss (which I’m more concerned about) is probably greater.