• JoYo
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    72 years ago

    I recognize that everyone that has abandoned me will at some point lose everyone and everything that has ever mattered to them.

      • JoYo
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        12 years ago

        Compassion and gratitude.

        We all one day lose everyone we love and I have compassion for that suffering.

        There is gratitude from having the relationships I did because the abandonment was inevitable.

  • @[email protected]
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    122 years ago

    I pretend to have imaginary friends in my head until it seems like real enough and the day passes.

  • 𝑔𝑎𝑙𝑎𝑥𝑖
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    32 years ago

    Depends. Is the loneliness a byproduct of choices made for happiness in other aspects of your life, like moving to a new city or being picky about your social circle? Are you choosing to stay in and not interact for certain reasons? Or is the loneliness caused by things you can’t control, like people leaving or mental health issues?

    If it’s the former, I say embrace it and work on focusing less on how you think your life should look. Pay attention to the things that you love by yourself. Take in the moments any moment where you notice you’re having a great time and don’t have to stop due to someone else. Imagine you just got done with a 12 hour road trip with someone who talks too much and breathe in the silence and peace of the moment. Listen to rain or cars rushing by. Sometimes, I find that loneliness can be caused by feeling like you’re missing out on something but maybe wouldn’t even make you happy. There are lots of people who feel lonely in their families or friendships or relationships.

    If it’s the latter, I’d work up to a more comfortable and satisfying level of socialization. It takes time. In that process, you’ll hopefully find yourself leaning pickier and finding out what works and what doesn’t. Be selfish. Learn to spend time with people and then decide for yourself whether you want to keep spending time with them. Treat your energy and presence like precious rubies. They are! Invest in who matters most to you and keeps you feeling good after you leave. This will build your confidence and belief in your worth and motivate you to keep working on the things that keep you from happiness. Ending loneliness isn’t a goal you get to, it’s a side effect of choosing people who see the real you and doing the self care of letting others in. :)

  • @[email protected]
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    32 years ago

    Doing an effort and force myself to be with others . With the time and being patient , it heals .

    • @[email protected]
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      22 years ago

      Be careful with it. It’s a slippery slope and one I’m too familiar with. Switch to weed if you can. May not be as accessible as alcohol depending on where you live but it will distract you just as well as alcohol and is much safer long term for you than alcohol. No hangovers and for most it’s not habit forming. Wish I could go back in time and change the past decisions I’ve made.

      Check out [email protected]

      Similar to r/stopdrinking community. There’s people there that can help

    • aname
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      12 years ago

      This is one of the worst ways to deal with it. Alcohol causes depression which only makes situation worse.

  • @[email protected]
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    52 years ago

    I focus on spending time with friends and family when I can. And video games when I can’t. I stopped pushing myself to do things I didn’t want to do also, that helped a lot with being disappointed in what I achieve. BG3 is nice therapy these days for me.

  • @[email protected]
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    32 years ago

    I gather unto me, as much of this nectar as I can whilst not harming too many friends and family. Then I enjoy it.

  • @[email protected]
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    102 years ago

    There is a singular niche community that I involve myself with where I pop in and make highly desired items to give away for free.

    It makes me feel like people care about me for a while. For now, that’s good enough for me.