It’s so weird how Lemmy feels like old reddit and that was when I was more active but as reddit grew I began to lurk more except in four different communities. It’s still hard to not lurk here. I frequently will type a comment or make a post and delete it, haha. Anybody else experiencing this?
This would be my first comment. I mostly lurked on Reddit, probably here too. For me, I more appreciate the aggregated content and don’t really want to take the time to engage in discussion as I try to minimize my overall screen time.
Yeah but you just gotta do it. Post that comment or post. We gotta build this community for us. I have a tendency to not be as social able on social media vs IRL. Mainly because I’ll second guess myself. But we gotta keep this place alive
Even just a that’s looks nice because of the way it is helps. No need to over think it and have to be deep. Any activity helps grow communities.
Given its much smaller user base, it’s a lot more likely that a human will see your post before it scrolls off of page 1 on Lemmy. There’s a little less futility to posting
yup, I also find myself lurking here a lot too. When I was on Reddit, I’d usually comment on a bunch of niche subreddits and avoid commenting on subs similar to the communities that are currently growing here on the fediverse haha. I’m trying to change that tho, I’d like to contribute as much as I can so this place can keep growing bigger
Don’t be afraid to ask questions if you need help. I’ve found that those get a lot of responses, since lot of people are eager to help or give recommendations. People aren’t sure what to talk about, but if it’s something they know then they can get chatty.
Those type of threads also ended up being the most useful back on reddit, since they’d be the type I’d see pop up in search engines when I was looking for a question myself.
I constantly do the ‘type it out and delete’ move, both on Reddit and slightly getting there here. I’m just an anxious sort who’s thinking ‘surely no one wants to read this’ ¯\(ツ)/¯
I’ll have a big thing typed out and then think about if anyone would care. Usually I didn’t think anyone would. So many discarded drafts.
Or that they’ll vehemently reject what you say instead of helpfully explaining their perspective and why you might be wrong. That’s always fun.
Kinda depends on the time and day for me. I looooove being more active on here, but I usually try to keep myself from doing much more than lurking during the workday, otherwise I won’t get anything done.
My lurking comes from mostly not being able to articulate exactly what I want to say sometimes. Like yeah, I know how this random thread makes me feel and I have an idea of what I want to say, but when I try to put it into actual, tangible words that make sense, I just end up sitting there for ten or fifteen minutes trying to word it out before I give up and move on lol. I’m trying to be better at it though, like force myself to post or comment something sometimes. Surely the more times I do, the better I’ll be at it right?? ¯\(ツ)/¯
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Same here. Sometimes I want to be concise and end up with a whole paragraph trying to convey something.
Exactly, I tend to find myself rambling when I don’t want to.
I do the exact same thing, but it typically doesn’t stop me. Just makes me take half an hour and multiple edits on everything I’ve ever said. I’m well aware that I ramble. As long as paragraphs are separated, that’s what y’all are gonna get, voluntarily hanging out on a text-based forum. Very few people have whined, and if they want twitter-length messages, there are now several twitter-likes for them to join.
The real worst part is typing up a message to contradict or ask for clarification on something I don’t understand, and then in carefully typing it, I end up explaining it to myself and I no longer need to ask. Never mind, then.
I used to just use Reddit anonymously and had an account if I really needed to ask something. This is not the case with Kbin/Lemmy as I am on my account most of the time. But old habits die hard so I am trying to participate some more
I am commenting more but I will never find it easy to post. Way too much emotional commitment for me.
I was somewhat active on Reddit but now I just lurk here. None of the subreddits I was active in have an analogous community here, and I’m not willing to start and moderate one. ¯_(ツ)_/¯
Me lurk all times all place
Yes keep deleting before I post. Happens quite a lot actually
Yeah, exactl… <backspace><backspace><backspace> closes tab
And on mobile, the bad gateway errors deleting what you jot down doesn’t help either lol
Points minus comments, that’s your lurkers.
I find it easier to comment on stuff if I just plop something down and send it. It’s easier to just express an opinion in the moment. It helps that you can see the responses people put too, keeps it interesting.
