a bit of a late post today but i’ve been exceedingly busy working on some important stuff on the side and that’s taken up most of my time. things are going pretty good currently and are generally productive.
It started off pretty well but all day today I’ve been fighting with my health insurance (again) because they have decided they don’t want to cover an essential medication that my partner has been on for years (again). Things are moving forward, our primary doctor just gave us over a month’s worth of samples so we won’t run out while we fight, and they are compiling documentation to make a case. I’ve never had to fight to have meds covered like I have with our prescription provider this year, it’s the worst. I had to fight them earlier this year to get them to cover long-acting insulin. Insulin! Ridiculous.
Other than that, can’t complain.
Tbh it’s been bad.
My partner got a job in Seattle, which has been the plan. I am from there and we have been wanting to move back. I was hoping to keep my job when I moved there as it’s fully remote, although pretty California specific. Before I went on my 2 week trip, I was told, yes I could keep my job. I was so thrilled. Kept thinking about how excited I was to finally be moving back after all these years.
First day back from the trip. Oh oops, nevermind, I don’t get to keep it. So now I’m in a position of, find a new job as fast as possible or else I’m stuck down here by myself for who knows how long. And I feel like I can’t even do anything to start this process, as I am still waiting for the surgeon I’m seeing for bottom surgery to call me and schedule. It’s been a month since insurance approved the procedure, but crickets from the clinic. Idk how I can really apply for jobs when my surgery could come at any time and postpone me starting the job. And it’s on my current works insurance so…
On top of it all, dysphoria is at an all time high. Misgendering has never been fun for me, but I’ve often been able to shrug it off. During my trip I was getting misgendered like 30-50 times a day. It wore me out so much. Just a general feeling of fuck recently.
Oh and I just got covid.
Unfun times
I am so sorry, that’s such a perfect storm of terrible circumstances. I recently had my job backpedal on something they promised me and it was so infuriatingly unprofessional (although very luckily I have a wonderful and very influential mentor who fixed the problem).
And the clinic, I don’t know their situation but I’d expect that insurance approval should be the hard part, so to go a month without hearing from them? I’m getting upset just thinking about it.
I can only hope other people get their acts together for you very soon. In the meantime, consider me in your corner, steaming at the injustice.
Welp, as if they saw my comment. I got a call from them today. The first part of my procedure is in less than a month! Woo! We take the wins!!! 🥳
Hell yeah, good news!
I’m super proud of a friend who just ended a relationship with someone who was being incredibly controlling. I’m very worried though because she keeps questioning her decision. I’ve luckily never found myself in her situation. Any advice from someone who has?
We had an unseasonably hot spell a couple of weeks back which was pretty miserable- I don’t do well in hot weather at all. Today it’s cool and windy and autumnal and I’m making a stew with Yorkshire puddings for dinner, which is much more emotionally satisfying than the cold potato salad we were eating a week and a half ago.
I don’t talk about this much, but I’ve lost about 30% of my body weight in the past year. Before anyone asks, the answer is “Ozempic”. I had a bunch of stuff in smaller sizes in storage but was afraid to try anything on. I did so yesterday and discovered that not only do my small jeans fit, they’re actually a bit loose. So that’s awesome.
I’m tired. And tired of being tired. And still waiting to see benefits from using a CPAP. Instead it’s all getting worse- I’m having a ton of mask leakage and can’t figure out why. I’m supposed to finally see the specialist on the 28th, but as a visibly non-conformist woman I’m not expecting that to go well at all. Mainly I’m expecting “your numbers are fine, stop wasting my time”.
I’m really looking forward to the day when I won’t mostly write complaining about the damn CPAP.
I already saw you complaining about the CPAP. It was a life changer for me (high blood pressure condition), but the tech guy who installed my CPAP warned me it could take some time and adjustments. He also told me that some people never get used to sleeping with this thing. I hope it will work for you.
I’m a busy bee. Last week was my club’s welcome week, so I’m behind on some of my assignments. I also have a midterm and a test this week. I lost track of those dates because I’ve been busy planning for my club this month and for next month… My club schedule is more organized than my school schedule. Kinda awkward.
Also working my part-time job. It’s been fun, but now that one person is leaving, I know that I’ll have more responsibilities given to me. We only have five people on the team— two seniors, one intern, and two student workers— so it can be rough. I’m still learning how to navigate the CMS with my fellow student worker, so it’ll be interesting to see what new duties I’ll have.
Overall, not a bad week? I just know it’ll be an exhausting one. (Like last week.) ._. Hope the workload gets lighter, but I think I’ll have to wait for a holiday break for that to happen.
Not too shabby. Work has been busy but fun and we got the house put back together after my in-laws visited over the weekend.
It’s good to be at the weekend after a busy week, but it was a good week.
The only bad moment (first world problem) this week was a meeting about “Social Responsibility”. I discovered the ISO 26000:2010 standard.
I’m sorry to inform you that our best hope to save the world and make it a better place, is to fill spreadsheets, follow guidance documents, and have indicators.
We’re so screwed.
Good here. Accidentally got talking to various local people in the past couple of weeks, some of whom know each other, and it feels like there’s potential to end up with a social circle. Though I’ve lived around here most of my life off and on, I don’t actually know anyone. Have been invited to join a community service group that seems very sound, so that’ll be cool - will know more after tomorrow evening.
The whole thing is making me feel quite paranoid at times - managing to roll with it for now, but will have to remember to be cautious lest it ramp up excessively.
Oh and have the kernel of a creative project forming in my mind for the first time in a very, very long time. Imagine it’ll end up as something else entirely, and I wouldn’t say it is an especially interesting project, but relieved by the emergence nevertheless.
Just learned that I have to pay 700 euro for an intake conversation, after I made it clear that I don’t want to pursue therapy with this person. In fact our conversation had a negative impact on my mental health. I still believe in therapy but it’s logical a lot of people avoid it due to such stories.
Edit: Actually it’s 800. Also I want to encourage people to look for therapy if they need it. The money isn’t important compared to your mental health. Just make sure to be aware of the costs.
Sorry to hear that, frustrating! 😓
Is this an hours initial conversation with a therapist? The price seems excitingly high 😳
Well I went twice. The second time the dsm was immediately on the table, and I felt I had to defend myself and didn’t feel heard at all. We never had a dialogue or any form of active listening so I felt he jumped to conclusions.
I wonder if there’s a local regulatory board that you can seek resolution from. At best it doesn’t sound like a fair business practice. That sounds expensive for the US, let alone anywhere in the Eurozone.
Well I called with the insurance and they said prices are very high at the moment for therapy. I now have to pay 27 euros every month for the next two years. Kinda crazy when you think about it.
That is a fantastic deal compared to what most people in the US pay. I do empathize though. It’s a public good. It should be free.
Yikes that’s terrible!
That seems illegal if it wasn’t an upfront price. I’m not 100% on European law though.
It depends on the “deal/package” you get. I once went for a “don’t pay for the first session until after the second one” deal.
The first one went so-so… but the therapist came highly recommended, so decided to go for a second one (which would still only be 120€, not 700€). That one didn’t go well, at all, pretty much left out fuming. Coincidentally, it ended “after hours”, so the receptionist was already gone, and I didn’t notice I hadn’t paid until already getting on the street. They also forgot to take down my payment details the first time, and I was in no hurry to fix that mistake… so that worked out itself.
But this kind of deals, seem to be legal, even though they feel like “bait and switch”.
My week has been going ok, though I’ve been dealing with some identity issues. Nothing I really want to go in to except that I’m reevaluating who I think I am and want to be.
On a lighter note, summer is finally over and the cooler weather has been wonderful. It’s so nice to dress a bit warmer and not having to worry about getting sun burned.
Oh, and I’ve started doing pilates again and my muscles are aching. Hope I’ll stick with it this time :)Thank you for sharing. Identity issues are no joke, I’m having to unpack a larger amount of gender baggage than the average person (think decades-worth of AGAB plus another decade or two of a career stereotypical to and gate-kept by the other gender). I’m glad I’m not alone in being a little lost on the identity journey, even if yours has nothing to do with gender.
I prefer spring and autumn now I’ve moved somewhere warmer than I grew up. Especially since autumn means some sunshine and leaves turning color. I finally understand the hype!
Thanks for your kind words, and best of luck to you in your journey. I can definitely relate to feeling a little lost in the whole process. It’s gender related but more contained and not as massive as what you’re dealing with.
Autumn is my favorite time of year, hope you’ll enjoy the season :)
Extremely busy. I’m putting in 50 or so hour weeks doing school work but so far, the grades are actually coming out okay. This week and next are exam weeks though so I’ll have to report back after that. Hope everyone is doing well this week tho :)
Doing so much better than last week. Got my instance back up and running and was able to bring up some very much needed conversations that hopefully lemmy backend contributors have begun to take note of. Had a lovely Rosh Hashanah and am prepping for Yom Kippur soon. Was sadly unable to participate in person due to increased COVID stuff, but it was still nice to disconnect from everything and dip some apples in honey. Been actually coming out of my reading slump too :)
Hope the rest of your week is somewhat more chill, or you can at least get some rest this weekend
i’m on week three of new meds, and the negative side-effects seem to have worn off. i can’t really tell if the actual intended effects are working yet (more focus). it does seem like it’s easier to break away from certain time sinks like mindlessly scrolling on my phone in the morning… but i’m not entirely sure. 🤷
i have my therapy appointment in ~15 minutes, so maybe she’ll be able to pinpoint something i can’t see for myself.
Quite bad. (content warning?)
It’s been a regularly bad week, until family drama jumped to 1000%, ending in quasi-forced hospitalization of my last family member. Now I’ve been left in charge of the whole house, including cleaning up the mess they’ve left behind, plus several cats, with a really bad back that makes me run (heh, if only) back to bed —where I’m right now— after every few things that I manage to do, and I would really want to avoid switching to opioids (had my bad experience with them already). Work prospects are still slim, even remote, and I honestly don’t know what I’ll do if they don’t manage to get out of this one, or how to take care of them if they do. They likely won’t want to go to assisted living or a nursing home, and those are kind of above budget anyway. Working out some numbers on my end, my disability check doesn’t cover even half the minimum expenses, much less paying off any debts. I guess there is still some stuff I could sell, but after that the shadow of homelessness looms ominously in the mid term, unless I manage to get something going on (which, ironically, could leave me without the disability check). Not being able to do even some side/hobby projects, is additionally getting to me, I miss typing on an actual keyboard, using some power tools, getting on a bike, and a thousand other little things.
Interesting. I don’t want to whine, but I’ve had a constant headache since last Thursday, and a few other problems.
Where I live I have many options for health care so I was able to see 2 different doctors who have 2 different ideas.
Doctor 1 thinks it is stress-related or possibly something related to ergonomics at work, because it started while at work.
Doctor 2 thinks it is prediabetes, so I have been testing and my levels are high but not crazy high.
Either way, it will be a wake-up call to eat better and pay attention to workplace comfort.
