I have an issue with being remembered in person (at least that’s what my therapist said). I will go to different chains of the same store on rotation, or stop going to a store all together if they remember me “too much.” I’ll wait until shift changes or that it’s been long enough that they’ve forgotten about me. I’ve stopped going to certain places all together if there’s no alternatives. Outside of lemmy, I have no social media. I don’t want anyone to ever be able to look me up. Apparently people don’t do that.
Using different cutlery based off of meal size/how long you want to savor something (ex: You like ice cream, so you may eat it with a smaller spoon so it lasts longer.).
Wondering what people were thinking/picturing when they bought their clothes (not in a “wow, that’s ugly, what were they thinking” but what they saw themselves as. Did they see this suit and think of themselves as a ceo? Did she buy thay dress and imagine the places she’ll wear it? That sort of thing).
Having multiple paths to one place. I could get to my classes or office multiple ways. I would rotate, take these stairs one day, this elevator the next, etc.
I believed everyone had some kind of food that would give them the boo-boos. I’m actually just lactose intolerant.
I do something similar to the clothing thing but with buildings. Like if I see an old run down store I think about if that was someone’s dream to run and it just didn’t work, or they retired and it fell apart. I develop weird empathy for buildings doing this 😅
I used to feel bad every time I saw a newly-opened small business that had closed.
It’s still sad sometimes. However, ever since I worked in a few small businesses, I got to see just how batshit some small business owners are.
Now when I look at a “new” small business that just closed, I can’t help but suspect that a power-tripping owner probably fucked it all up through their own arrogance.
I get the building thing in rural Australia gold rush towns where there’ll be some amazing stone building that was probably a bank or similar place of business but has since become a cafe or junk shop.
Using different cutlery based off of meal size/how long you want to savor something (ex: You like ice cream, so you may eat it with a smaller spoon so it lasts longer.).
I don’t do this all the time, but definitely with desserts and sweets. Both from the perspective of being able to savor it longer, and also for portion control.
I would think doing otherwise is weird. I mean a table spoon barely fit into a single portion of yoghourt or icecream. It would be more complicated and weird to insisted on eating them with a tool design to drink soup.
Although technically I do use the larger spoon for single serving ice cream - when I was at school I got frustrated by cheap flatware bending on me, so now for something hard I prefer the sturdier choice
Yeah, I’ve got this issue as well (nothing that better quality spoon can solves but my finances is out of topic) but I’m speaking about the ice you buy in single serving. It’s not a serving within a big owl but a serving pack tight in some carton bowl just big enough.
I’m screen shotting this and the other reply. My friend asked for a spoon and I was like, “regular or little?” and she acted like I was insane. How the tables have turned.
I’m with you on everyone of these, except the last one (but I know a ton who are lactose intolerant).
Now you got me thinking, are these things not normal or are we the actual normal ones.
Maladaptive daydreaming, also called excessive daydreaming, is when an individual experiences excessive daydreaming that interferes with daily life. It is a proposed diagnosis of a disordered form of dissociative absorption, associated with excessive fantasy that is not recognized by any major medical or psychological criteria.
I think it’s just the name given to “extreme” day dreaming. It’s like having a TV on in the background for me. Sometimes I’ll just blink and realize I’ve been gone for a bit. 😅
I have that issue #2 at least when it comes to going to stores and restaurants. As soon as the staff recognizes me I never want to go again for some reason.
I have massive social anxiety that’s probably the main part of it.
If I’m odd and they don’t know me I’m just an odd customer. But if I’m odd and a regular than I’m an odd person they are thinking about a lot and that makes me nervous like I might mess up.
I do something similar to the clothing thing but with buildings. Like if I see an old run down store I think about if that was someone’s dream to run and it just didn’t work, or they retired and it fell apart. I develop weird empathy for buildings doing this 😅
I used to feel bad every time I saw a newly-opened small business that had closed.
It’s still sad sometimes. However, ever since I worked in a few small businesses, I got to see just how batshit some small business owners are.
Now when I look at a “new” small business that just closed, I can’t help but suspect that a power-tripping owner probably fucked it all up through their own arrogance.
I get the building thing in rural Australia gold rush towns where there’ll be some amazing stone building that was probably a bank or similar place of business but has since become a cafe or junk shop.
I dream about buildings and city scapes. Everything that happens in the dream can be detailed, but the focus is on the architecture.
I don’t do this all the time, but definitely with desserts and sweets. Both from the perspective of being able to savor it longer, and also for portion control.
There are basic definitions for different sized flatware and yes the dessert spoon is the smaller one
I would think doing otherwise is weird. I mean a table spoon barely fit into a single portion of yoghourt or icecream. It would be more complicated and weird to insisted on eating them with a tool design to drink soup.
I solve this by having larger portions less frequently.
Although technically I do use the larger spoon for single serving ice cream - when I was at school I got frustrated by cheap flatware bending on me, so now for something hard I prefer the sturdier choice
Yeah, I’ve got this issue as well (nothing that better quality spoon can solves but my finances is out of topic) but I’m speaking about the ice you buy in single serving. It’s not a serving within a big owl but a serving pack tight in some carton bowl just big enough.
I think point three is pretty “normal”. A lot of People eat cake, pudding and ice cream with smaller cutlery.
I’m screen shotting this and the other reply. My friend asked for a spoon and I was like, “regular or little?” and she acted like I was insane. How the tables have turned.
She’ll go insane in Germany: https://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kuchengabel
Oh I do the cutlery thing, I always eat ice cream with the smallest spoon I have.
I prefer long handled sorbet spoons over soup/desert spoons.
I’m with you on your second point. I’ll only go back if its somewhere I want to be remembered, i.e. my favorite restaurant.
I’m with you on everyone of these, except the last one (but I know a ton who are lactose intolerant). Now you got me thinking, are these things not normal or are we the actual normal ones.
That’s actually kind of comforting. Even if we aren’t normal, we’re not normal as a unit. 🫱🏽🫲🏻
What’s maladaptive daydreaming?
Daydreaming to the point where it’s interfering with your day to day life
I think it’s just the name given to “extreme” day dreaming. It’s like having a TV on in the background for me. Sometimes I’ll just blink and realize I’ve been gone for a bit. 😅
It’s unusual to want change up your routes?
Most people prefer the same safe known routes rather than adventure
I have that issue #2 at least when it comes to going to stores and restaurants. As soon as the staff recognizes me I never want to go again for some reason.
I have massive social anxiety that’s probably the main part of it.
Same! I don’t know why, but it’s like, “they were nice… I can never come here again.”
It’s not that bad for me, but fear of being perceived, fear of being know… It’s all a giant mess
For me at least I think has is something like:
If I’m odd and they don’t know me I’m just an odd customer. But if I’m odd and a regular than I’m an odd person they are thinking about a lot and that makes me nervous like I might mess up.
Exactly this with me too. If they know me I have to hold myself to different standards and more small talk and stuff like that.
I have been trying to force myself to go to the same places but I usually fail. The only thing that works for me is going with someone else.
Honestly I prefer to be perceived as a little weird, because then you can be… A little weird without worrying about it.
There isn’t really a what to what I’m afraid of. I’m not sure if it’s better or worse this way